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YEAR 2012 - OUR YEAR OF FAITH

2012-01-12T14:32:00.000-08:00

Happy new year to us all, it's our year of faith. This is a year like no other as the first two weeks of the year 2012 has shown that this year is a year where absolute faith in God is key.

Our faith in God is a sure assurance that what we hope for this year will be ours, because the God we trust in will give us sure testimonies as He gave the elders of old in Hebrews 11. To enjoy the best of this year 2012, we must do the following;

1. Understand that the world were framed by the word of God, so that the things which are seen were not made of things which are visible. Hebrews 11-3. Let us remember that God spoke things in the earth into being with His words in Genesis 1-1-15, Psalm 33- 6-9. Our reality is what God says and not what our environment or circumstances say. So we must speak to our circumstances and situations this year to conform with God's words.

2. We must be ready for training and mentoring by people of faith this year. In Joshua 2, we see Joshua sending two spies to check out Jericho, it's obvious he had learnt from Moses experience of the spies that were sent to Canaan, and instead of sending many men, he sent just two, who brought good report despite all they went through. We must build our faith by reading the bible and other books that will build faith in us. We must also walk with those that have faith in God as those that walk with the wise will be wise. Remember Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God. Romans 10-17. Move with those that will birth faith in you, move with people I call Elizabeth/Mary, that will make your dream come alive. Luke 1-39-45

3. We must trust God's faithfulness of the past...in Joshua 2-8-11 Rahab told the spies that they heard of what God did to their enemies in the past and were sure of victory for them again. So has God been faithful in the past? Did He come through for you before? then trust Him to come through again. Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever. Hebrews 13-8. What He has done before , He will and can do it again.

4. You must trust God absolutely. Psalm 33-16-17, talks about a King not being saved by the multitude of an army and a horse being a vain hope for safety, but those who trust and fear God, He delivers and keeps from death and famine. Psalm 33-18-19. It's only total trust in God that will make the difference this year. As we pray and ask for direction, we may get strange directives from God but as we obey, He will come through for us in Jesus name amen. Hebrews 11-8-11.

5. We must be persistent in our faith, like Moses as described in Hebrews 11-23-29. Our faith will move mountains this year, if we are also persistent like the woman in Luke 18-1-8. As we trust God and take actions, we will recieve what we are trusting God for in Jesus name amen.

I truly believe as we act on these five faith points, 2012, a year I have nicknamed O.P.P (a year of Opportunities, Possibilities and Power) will be a wonderful year, made possible by our faith. Like Jesus Christ said to Bartimaeus in Mark 10-52, our faith will make us whole this year in Jesus name amen.

Do you know - If we have faith in God, when we ask, believe, we will receive? Mark 11-22-24.

Prayer point -
1. Ask God to help your unbelief and increase your faith in Him ( If you are not born again or have backslided, this is a good time to ask for forgiveness and invite Jesus Christ into your life.)
2. Pray that your faith will work in all areas of your life this year in Jesus name amen.

NB- Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month. May you all enjoy favour and unlimited grace always in Jesus name amen

MY DESTINY HELPER - MY HUSBAND

2011-12-30T09:51:00.000-08:00

I cannt believe i am blogging today, i had to do this for a good cause...Its my dear husband's birthday...one of the reasons why i love December is because i get to celebrate my husband apart from celebrating the birth of Christ.

Today as he celebrates a new year, my wish for him is that he becomes a better man, a man that will love God and serve him with all his heart, a man that will love his family and love humanity..

Most people will wonder why i am blogging about him today, right now, i cannt afford the kind of gift i will want to give him but i can afford to get people to pray for him all over the world. lol. I am where i am because he allows me to be me. I am true to myself and what i do because he allows God to use him to help me always. Sometimes when i think of what my husband means to me..all i can say is like Maria in the movie, the "Sound of Music" that sang that "somewhere in her youth or childhood, she must have done something good". I feel i must have done something good for God to bless me with a man that is not threathened by who and what i am or God showed me mercy anyways for a good cause! lol

God has blessed me with a destiny helper and all i can say is thank God and sing this song from a dear mentor..."Lord, i never knew you will answer me this way, i never knew, you will bless me this way, i never knew you will answer me this way, you will answer me this way..thank you Jesus"!

Indeed i never knew, God will bless me with a husband like my dear husband. I prayed for a "husband" and instead God gave me a friend, brother, provider, helper of destiny, mentor, teacher, priest, lover and jisting buddy! lol...As he celebrates today, kindly help me say a prayer for him that God will keep him from falling in any way, will keep him safe, will keep all that concerns him and perfect all that concerns him. God will keep our marriage, children and make us blessings to our world always in Jesus name amen.

NB - If you get to read this dear husband.. I LOVE YOU FOREVER and may God make me the kind of wife HE WANTS ME TO BE FOR YOU in Jesus name amen.

DECEMBER 2011 - OUR MONTH OF PRAISE AND THANKSGIVING

2011-12-06T14:00:00.000-08:00

Wow!!! Its one of my favorite month of the year..December is here people!! Its a joyous month and the birth month of my most favorite person in the world, my dear husband! lol

God has been faithful indeed, seeing us through eleven amazing months and here is December. The storm came, challenges everywhere but we are still alive and God has been faithful indeed.

Some of us were on the road everyday, driving some distance to get to work, some of us had opportunities to travel very long distances and yet we got home each time in one piece. Some of us got married, some had babies, some had new jobs, contracts and so many amazing testimonies that is still making the ears of men to tingle. What more can we say than to praise this God of all flesh that is forever faithful even when are unfaithful.

I have seen God come through for people in amazing ways and so this is the perfect time for us all to appreciate Him more for all He has done. Lets say thank you for what He is yet to do and praise Him like we have never done before.
I see God turning around our story for good as we give Him undiluted praise this season. I see the year ending well for us all in Jesus name amen.

Do you know - In Psalm 65:11, Its said that God will crown the year with His goodness and our paths will drop fatness?

Prayer point - Pray Psalm 115:14, that God will increase you more and more , you and your children.
Pray Joel 2:25-26 - that God will restore to you the years that the locust has eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, you shall eat in plenty and be satisfied and praise God for dealing wondrously with you and yours in Jesus name.
Action - Read Psalm 107, 136 and pray with Isaiah 60:17-18 .

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this December. May you all enjoy the help and favour of God this season in Jesus name amen. Thanks for stopping by, this year has been good but next year will be better as i have promised myself, i must write and post more often. I covet your prayers as we enter 2012. God bless and keep us all.

NOVEMBER 2011- OUR MONTH OF DIVINE DISPLACEMENT FOR REPLACEMENT

2011-11-21T13:31:00.000-08:00

Hello everyone, how has been our month so far ? i trust great. I believe its not too late to have the post for the month as my people say, its when you wake up, that is your morning. i woke up with these words at the beginning of the month that:

1. There shall be divine displacement for replacement, there shall be no exchange of our blessings and all buried glory will be excavated and made to shine. The bible verses i got for this was Isaiah 60 and 2 Chronicles 20 - 1-30.

2. God will break ungodly family patterns in our lives, and we will recover all lost blessings in Jesus name. Our Scripture for this is Genesis 12-10-20, Genesis 26 -1-14. You will notice a family pattern from Abraham to Isaac but God took charge and helped them. So know that He will break every ungodly family pattern in your lineage in Jesus name amen.

3. God will break protocol to favour us as He did for Esther and Mordecai in the book of Esther.

Everything this month has proven indeed that God is realigning lives, restoring lost glory like he did for Naomi and Ruth in the book of Ruth. As this month ends, its not late to read these scriptures and pray like you have never prayed before, because like Jehoshaphat in 2 Chronicles 20, God will reveal His power to us as we trust Him. His power to save and deliver is available as we call upon Him.

Do you know - If you are a born again child of God, He takes on your battles? 2 Chronicles 20- 15 .

Prayer Point - Ask God to fight for you as you hold your peace. Exodus 14-14

I see God taking over the remaining days in this month of November. We will end this month well and victoriously too. God bless us all.

Congratulations to everyone that celebrated this month i.e weddings, birthdays, new babies etc, may all your joy be full in Jesus name amen.

News update - Finally i held the first book from my writings to the Next Generation of Fathers on Facebook on the 31st of October 2011. God bless everyone in the group especially Brother Tola Akinyemi and Sister Jola Obire for their support plus my inloves- Aunty/Uncle Femi Odufeso that published it, Uncle Niyi Elesin that brought it down from where it was published and my husband that paid for the first 500 copies of the book. Big hugs to them.

WHERE HAVE YOU COME FROM? TOYIN ADEKANMBI

2011-10-23T14:38:00.000-07:00

Happy new week everyone. I had to share this thought provoking post from a dear friend, Sister Toyin Adekanmbi. This i believe is a message straight from the throne of God. May God help us to read and gain insight that will transform our lives forever.

Hagar was a priviledged maid in the house of Abraham. She was one of the opportuned few who shared and enjoyed the God of Abraham even as a mere ordinary slave.

She came into the limelight of destiny through a genuine attitude of Sarai who considered her as a channel to propagate God’s promise,and as a trusted maid whose life can be a vessel and a conveyor of divine purpose. Trust must have played a bigger role in the selection as it was not an issue of beauty or attractiveness which could have been a criterion if Abraham led the process. Sarai did the selection; based on how much she can be trusted to be “loaned” for a divine purpose. I believe it takes a great and sincere leader to trust children of strangers with their most precious future and destiny like Sarai did.

This is trust in its highest form; to trust an ordinary maid to share in your covenant future. She obviously was not the only maid in the house of Abraham, but found favour like Mary the Virgin to be a surrogate mother of the covenant seed of Abraham through whom all the nations of the earth will be blessed.
We saw a sharp shift in the unfolding story after the deed was done. Her humble and reserved personality was lost to utter despising of her source of lifting and recognition. She disregarded the place of her making and turned her back to the same gracious soul that shared her future with her. She broke out of decorum and became excessive to a point of running away in an unformed, uncompleted manner; carrying an incomplete purpose and an un-birthed destiny. She left half-baked, half-formed as she failed to yield to the discipline of being a maid-carrier under watch.

Like many of us, a little manifestation of grace, affluence and a feeling of establishment triggers pride, self-sufficiency with a tacit act of despising to our superiors, bosses, partners and spiritual leaders. We must never forget that no matter how much God has trusted our lives to bless our generation, we are still not different from a mere borrowed maid vessels. We are who we are by His grace and His grace alone. For the Excellency of the power must always be of God and never of us.

We cannot run away from the discipline of a father-figure to risk God’s investment in our lives in the wilderness of a lone ranger like Hagar did, thinking we could do it alone and outside an on-going leadership covering. She obviously forgot that no matter how great a fish can swim, its ability to survive is determined by its willingness to remain in its natural habitat (water). Any effort to break out and try terrestrial life on the land will mean death. “For in Him we live, we move and have our being”.

The Lord came to her rescue. There was a divine interruption as an angel intercepted her. The angel’s introduction clarifies how God sees the situation. The Angel identified her as “Hagar, Sarai’s maid” (Gen 16 vs 8). As far as God was concerned, Hagar’s priviledged access to Abraham’s bed does not make her a second Sarai or a replacement, she remained “Sarai’s maid”. Being trusted with a bigger assignment or being raised to do similar role like your spiritual fathers, boss at work, husband at home etc. does not change your basic title. Preferential responsibility shared on the altar of grace does not change our servant identity with God. Being used by God for the miraculous does not change how God sees us as innocent vessels and clay in His hand to achieve His own purpose.

God’s verdict was clear and compelling, having asked a serious question in Gen 16 vs 8 “where have you come from?” It seems to me that heaven is saying there is only one natural habitat where the seed you carry can be birthed, outside is death and unending frustrations. She was asked to return back and submit. Hagar was told that she was unripe to go solo. You don’t say a good night to the same place where your vision is best configured to say a good morning. Heaven could not afford to see her risk God’s vision on the altar of self-interest. How much of God’s sure calling either in ministry, business, and marriage have been terminated on the altar of “I will do it alone in the wilderness”.

Every man must remember his source and your independence or freedom is never at your instance but at the instance of your discipler and groomer unto whom the totality of the assignment to raise you was articulated. Never be in haste, learn to wait in the school of divine making.
It is no surprise that our generation is plagued with many spiritual infants on the altar, many babes running international ministries on cross-border television stations, many Christians who need to be under ongoing discipleship, many small business owners who still need to submit to their previous leaders for guidance, many young couples who still need to have spiritual fathers and mothers to look up to for maturation. Isaiah 51 vs 1 is speaking expressly “Listen to me, you who pursue righteousness, you who seek the LORD: look to the Rock from which you were hewn, and to the quarry from which you were dug”.

The way God continues to see us even in our moment of conscious detachment from the place of His making where He has originally placed us captures the intent of God that none should be lost in the wilderness of ambition and self-commissioned assignments. The discipline that will shape us and conform us to the best that God desires will only come if we remain in that place where we were made beneficiaries of the heavenly promises.

God’s judgment on the matter is that you cannot give birth to this promised seed in the wilderness as runaway, you must return to the place of your first love where you picked the seed of greatness. It’s a concern reflecting on how many saints who received clear instructions and visions under clear tutelage have pulled out to bring forth on their own. Paul warned the Galatian Christians “Are ye so foolish? having made a start in the Spirit, will you now be made complete in the flesh”

There is a good path to full independence in every phase of life. The concept of mentoring, discipleship and having accountable fathers to look up to is becoming critical in these last days. Every marriage must have a genuine mentor unto whom the parties can submit for spiritual leadership and collegial grooming. Every new business venture must have a trusted reference partner and every ministry (even singing ministers) must have men who have a sustained connection with God to help watch their paths through life.

There is always God’s timing and season for every event under the heaven. Learn to earn God’s trust in the place of consistent waiting and trusting.

Shalom.

Toyin Adekanmbi

OCTOBER 2011-OUR MONTH OF FAVOUR AND HELP

2011-10-17T14:24:00.000-07:00

Finally i get to send a message for October, its been an interesting month. A month of Favour and Help. This time we will do things differently and just pray through the remaining part of the month of October.

Our scripture for reading and praying are 2Samuel 6-11-12a,1Chronicles 12-21-22,Esther 2-15, Psalm 5-12 and Psalm 121.
Prayer point 1 - Pray that the remaining part of this year will be blessed by God for you and yours in Jesus name amen.
2. Pray that you will get help daily from God and from men in Jesus name amen.
3. Pray that you will be favoured wherever you are, you will enjoy favour from Man and God like Jesus did in Luke 2-52b
4. Pray that people will search you out to favour you; in your marriage you will be favoured, in your business, academics and everything you need favour on.
5.Pray that help will come from unlikely sources, ask God to send you angelic assistance and human assistance this last season of this year in Jesus name amen.
6. Pray that favour will surround you as with a shield
7. Pray that you will depend on God and may God alone be your help. Ask for His help where you need it most.
8. Give God praise for the remaining days of this year and pray that He will load you with benefits daily
9.Pray that your going out and coming in this last days of the year will be secured by God
10. Pray that divine protection will be your portion and that of your family and you will all live to testify of God's goodness this year and the coming year.
11. Pray that all your outstanding blessings will come to you in Jesus name amen.
12. Give God thanks for answers to prayers and thank Him for your "Come and see testimonies" in Jesus name amen.

Do you know - Jesus Christ said in Luke 18-1b, that we should always pray and not give up?

Action - Lets keep praying and asking God to settle our cases like the woman in Luke 18-1-8. We will end this year with praises and thanksgiving in Jesus name amen

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may God bless you beyond your wildest imaginations in Jesus name amen.

SEPTEMBER 2011- OUR MONTH OF MERCY, DIVINE REMEMBERANCE & FULFILMENT

2011-09-13T12:58:00.000-07:00

It's half way down the month of September already. This month is a month of celebration, being the nineth month, you can liken it to a month where visions and dreams are birthed! I have seen God working on my behalf this month, in amazing ways that all I can say is How Faithful can you be Lord.

As I prepared for the month, what I received was a month of Mercy- Psalm 51, that God will show us mercy despite ourselves. Rehab the harlot, was shown the mercy of God as she had shown mercy to the two spies in Joshua 2 and in Joshua 6-17-25. By her faith in the God of Isreal and mercy to the two spies, Rahab received Mercy and all her family with her. Indeed this month, by the mercies of God, our families and us will be preserved. While men are complaining about the evil of the "ember" months, we will be speaking Revelation 12-11a. We will be overcomers of the evil of the land because of the blood, that same blood that Rahab used as a sign with the scalet rope she placed on her window. Joshua 2 vs 17-21.hallelujah!

It's a month where Psalm 91 shall speak for us, where God will be our insurance of safety, where a thousand will fall at our sides and ten thousand at our right hand, and no harm shall come near our dwelling place because God will give His angel charge over us!

This is a month, where you will be remembered and decorated just like Mordecai in Esther 6, those that are meant to remember you will not be able to sleep until they favour you...you will be singled out for favour and God will do what men see as impossible.. This month there will be divine fulfillment made possible . God will connect you with people that will take you to your next level in Jesus name amen. I am already a testimony of all I have shared here and you will testify too in Jesus name amen. Congratulations and welcome to your best September ever!

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may the words here be made manifest in your lives in Jesus name amen. You will enjoy the sure mercy of God, you and yours will be protected and God will remember you for good and bring you to a place of fulfilment in Jesus name amen.

Action- We must keep speaking and praying the word of God. Matthew 7-7 said if we ask, we will be given what we ask for, if we seek, we will find, and if we knock, the door shall be opened to us. We must act in faith like a woman waiting to deliver her baby, when she pushes, the baby is delivered. We must push and birth that dream, vision, and all God has destined for us.

AUGUST 2011 - OUR MONTH OF PRODUCTIVITY AND HARVEST

2011-08-11T04:37:00.000-07:00

Hello there, it's already eleven days down the month of August and I am sure, we have seen God's faithfulness these few days. My apologies for posting this late but I always tell myself, it's better late than never. So here is my thought on the glorious month of August.

August as we know, is the eight month of the year and it is a month of new beginning. I was praying about this month at the beginning of the month and I was led by the spirit of God to read Ezekiel 47 from verse 1-12. As I read through the scripture, what I saw was productivity and harvest, movement from one level of grace to another.

The figure eight means many things to many, in my research about the number eight, I saw that God used eight people to preserve the human race. Noah, his wife and three sons plus their wives were spared after God destroyed the earth with a flood. Read Genesis chapters 7, 8, and 9. So God continued the earth with these eight people, my prayer is that this month, there will be a continuation of God's grace in our lives in Jesus name amen

From our scripture in Ezekiel 47, the Prophet had an encounter with God and he was shown the temple, as he went round it, there was a measurement being done that was progressive, as Ezekiel watched, the water started from his ankle, to his waist till it became a river that could not be crossed...so there was continuation and progress in everything Ezekiel saw, so I prophesy to you as well that you will see continuity and progress in every assignment God has given you in Jesus name amen.

The water, Ezekiel saw became a blessing to all the living things around it, so shall we be this month, as we get blessed, we will be blessing to all those around us in Jesus name amen. There was harvest from that water every month that became food for eating and leaves for healing, hallelujah! This month, we will indeed experience that new beginning that will transform our lives, family and community in Jesus name amen.

Do you know - Seed time and harvest time is sure? Genesis 8 - 22. When you plant a seed, it takes time to grow and eventually it grows and it's harvested. The seed has it's stages or level of growth.

Prayer point - Ask God to help you to see your next level and work to achieve harvest.
Pray that you will see your harvest and partake of it in Jesus name amen
Pray that as God blesses you and takes you to another level this month, you will be a blessing to those around you also in Jesus name amen.

Note- congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may God bless you all and take you to your next level in life and ministry. Congrats to my best friend on the birth of her baby girl...one day, I will share her testimony here with her permission! Lol, God is awesome!

SEEING GOOD

2011-07-31T18:13:00.000-07:00

I recently watched a movie titled the Blind side starring Sandra Bullock, this was a film that I saw the preview far back as 2009, when it came out but I never had the time to watch it until some days back and at the end, the film made an impression on me.

The film is about a young African-American homeless boy that had been traumatised, with no knowledge of who his father was and a drug addict for a mum. His life did a 360 degrees turnaround when a caring lady and her family took him into their home, providing all he needed to make a success of his life. He later became an American football player with a scholarship to a university.

This was a boy that had no real skill and could be said to be retarded academically, but this caring woman saw the good in this young boy, which was his protective instinct and with this and the help of her family members, she changed this young man's life for good...all I kept asking myself was how can I go about like Jesus Christ, who went about doing good and healing those who were oppressed by the devil because God was with him. Acts 10-38.

Honestly, I tell myself everyday, that my life goal is to live everyone I meet better than the way I met them and what this film did for me was to help reinforce that goal. Sometimes it's hard to love the unloveable, it's hard to love the troubled, it's hard to make friends with those you perceive as not in your "class" but what the film taught me is everyone is good for and at something. My dad will always tell me, that people have values to different degree and a mad man has nuisance value! I still laugh at that but if the truth be told, if you have a mad person in your area and after a while, you stop seeing that person, you may end up asking yourself where that mad person had gone to... That mad man has become like a thing of value you associate with coming to your area! Lol.

The above analogy may not work for some people but if the truth be told, we all have something of value to offer, you can choose to see the good in people and amplify that good or see the bad and amplify it but the first will give you a more fulfilling result.

When you see the good in others, you give them hope for a better tomorrow, they may not be the best of what you expect but when you nurture that good in them, you will end up reaping a harvest of goodness and love eventually. In Jeremiah 29 - 11, God talks about the plans He has for us, plans to to prosper us and not to harm us, plans to give us a hope and a future... That is a God that sees good speaking and saying no matter how deficient you are, I see you as someone with a hope and a future.

I have heard this phrase a lot of times,that hurting people hurt people but with love, care and prayers backed with good actions, people's lives can be turned around for good. I have been taught by my parents to see the good in everyone, to amplify people's strength instead of their weaknesses and so my advice today, is like that kind lady in the film the blind side...see the good in that child, in your spouse, your colleague and even those around you, you have classified as unloveable. God help us all.

Do you know - God so loved us that He gave His son to die for us, John 3-16.

Pray that God's love be shared abroad in your heart in Jesus name amen
Pray that God will anoint you like He anointed Jesus and you will go about doing good as well.

The movie is a must watch, see it and let's discuss. Lol

COMPETING WITH YOURSELF

2011-07-31T14:03:00.000-07:00

I trust our month has been great. I have had so many reasons to give thanks to God this month of July, and indeed as I said at the beginning of the month, what God has done this month will outlive us in Jesus name amen.

My children had their prize giving day ceremony a couple of days back. The three of them made me proud as they were called out as recipient of different prizes in their various class. They all went home happy as they had their prizes to show off to their uncle and aunt who had been part of the prize giving ceremony.

When their Father arrived from work later in the evening, one of my daughters who had come second position in her class was telling her dad, about the girl that came first and that next time she will come first and her dad told her quietly that it was not the position that mattered but that next time, she will do better than her current result and she should not see the girl that came first in the class as her competitor but see herself as competing against herself. That to me was a profound statement. How many times have we compared ourselves with our siblings, friends, colleagues, neighbours and people around us? We see them sometimes as better than us and people we must out do or outshine, but if the truth be told, just as the bible said, those that compare themselves with others are not wise. Check out 2 Corinthians 10- 12-18.

God has made each of us unique in our own way and has given us all things that pertains to life and godliness, so we all have our paths to follow, my way of making progress will definitely not be another person's way. When God gave us our talents just as illustrated in the bible, in Matthew 25-14-28, He gave everyone to their abilities and He came back to expect results relative to what they had been given and not in comparison to others, so the servant that He berated was scolded and sent away because he was unproductive to himself and his master.

So what am I saying, do not let another person's success throw you off balance. You are not competing against anyone but yourself. If you achieve a particular level of success today, improve on it and take it to another level just like the Ezekiel 47-1-12, every month, you are suppose to be forth fruit...meaning every stage of your life, you must achieve your own level of success and not another person's own. May God grant us wisdom always in Jesus name and may we learn to improve on our previous records than looking at another man as making more progress. Note - that it is God that can truly determine who is making progress...post for another day. May God help us all in Jesus name amen.

Do you know- Jesus was focused? He faced His assignment on earth and was not distracted by what others were doing or saying. Read Matthew 11-1-18.

Prayer point - Ask God to help you understand your purpose and your path in life.
Pray for His help to run your race effectively and be focused in your assignment on earth
Pray for mercy in areas where you have compared yourself with others and ask God to help you succeed His way in Jesus name amen.

ANGER - POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE FORCE

2011-07-21T16:11:00.000-07:00

It is almost the end of the month and indeed, God has proved Himself as God this month in my life and in the lives of those around me. To Him be all the glory always.

In writing today's post, i had to think through before deciding that this will change someone's life forever and make the difference in our reacting to situations. This post started with a dream, i had a couple of days ago, that someone i know shot and killed his wife, this was a strange dream as i did not think of the person before going to bed and neither did i have thoughts of the young man that recently murdered his banker wife in cold blood in Lagos Nigeria.

I woke up, prayed and cancelled the dream, but i was still wondering what manner of dream i had, only to receive a message about anger, some days later from one of my black berry groups, and after reading through, i decided to do a post, just to help us address this issue and live better lives.

Being angry has to do with our emotions, and it can be directed at someone or an event. Anger in itself is not bad, as a certain amount of anger is necessary for us to live our lives but where the problem is, is how the anger is expressed.

Often times, people get angry and react negatively as they feel they have been offended and in trying to retaliate, they end up doing things that they may later regret. To take an example from the bible, in Genesis 4 vs 5, Cain was angry with his brother Abel for presenting a more acceptable offering to the Lord and this anger made him kill Abel. Anger is the root of bitterness that can lead to killing/murder. Matthew 5 vs 21-22 has something to say in this regard.

We need to know the foundation of our anger, so we can deal with it as what makes us angry may be an indication to our purpose in life. When our anger is well channelled, it can be positively used to influence things around us but when it is negatively used, it can become a problem.

I had issues with anger before, and i will get upset over little things, normally i play a lot but when my expectations are not met, i get angry and may end up saying things to whoever is making me angry. It took a Pastor friend of mine to point out the weakness of Moses in the bible, for me to understand that anger can delay or cause us our destiny. Read Exodus 2 - 11-12 to Chapter 4, Exodus 32 and Numbers 20. This bible verses shows Moses exhibiting some level of anger which he paid for by not entering the promised land alive.

The bible in Proverbs 29 - 11 says a fool utters all its anger but a wise man holds it back and stills it. We have to learn to express our anger without sin as the bible says in Ephesians 4 - 26, that when angry, we should not sin and let the sun go down on our wrath. So our reaction to what is making us angry is very important, when we react negatively, we end up being controlled by what ever is the object of our anger but when we react positively, we stay in control and take charge of what is happening around us.

We must learn to address the issue of anger positively, so we do not end up as fools or end up doing something stupid that we will regret all our lives. Some quick tips for putting anger in its place are :

1. Address the issue and not the person - If the object of your anger is a person, you must address what the person has done to you there and not dig up what he or she has been doing in the past. This will help you put the anger in proper perspective. if the object of your anger is an event or a situation, be at your best to control it, i.e being caught in traffic, learn to leave your home early, so you dont go around cursing other motorist and exhibiting road rage.

2. Learn to think positive, if you have to count, count from 1-50, and excuse yourself politely from the situation letting the person know, you need time to cool off, so you do not make a fool of yourself by speaking rudely.

3. Read the word of God and pray. My two favorite scriptures to cure anger are 1 Corinthians 13 and 1 Peter 2-18-25 in The Message bible translation. This will help us know, we do not need to react to everything as even Jesus Christ with all that was done to Him, showed he was in charge. As we pray and learn to forgive daily. God will help us and make us better persons in Jesus name amen.

Do you know that a soft answer turneth away wrath but grievious words, stir up anger ? Proverbs 15 - 1

Prayer point - Ask God to help you express your anger positively.
Pray that He will give you grace to overcome all anger issue and be in charge of your reaction in Jesus name amen.

Action - Study these bible verses to help you deal with the issue of anger and how you can manage it:

Proverbs -14 - 29, Proverbs 15 - 18, Proverbs 16 vs 32, Proverbs 20 vs 22, Proverbs 22 - 24-25, Proverbs 28-13, 1 John 1 - 9, Romans 12 vs 19,21 and Ephesians 4 vs 25, 26, 27, 29 - 32. I await our testimonies.

Note - I still battle with anger from time to time and every day, i am getting better in taking charge of my situation, instead of suppressing my anger, i try to express it and i am careful with my choice of words. The truth is, i am not where i want to be as regards managing anger but i am not where i use to be Halleluyah!! lol

JULY 2011 - MONTH OF GOD BEING I AM THAT I AM

2011-07-10T14:26:00.000-07:00

Hello all, how has the month of July been so far? indeed for me it has been an unusual month.Its ten days down the month already and i have seen God in so many unusual ways doing things His way to glorify His name. As i waited on God as regards this month, i had so many witness in my spirit that this month is different and God is set to do awesome things, and as i studied, Numbers 3 vs 13-14 resonated in my spirit as the words for the month.

Moses in Numbers 3 encountered God and His life did a 360 degree turn around that not only affected him but Israel and its people forever. .. that's what i am talking about, what God will do this month will affect generations for good...I don't know how to say or write it but mark my words, this is a month to watch out for..

I am so excited at what God will do with those that will take the time to wait upon Him this month...Isaiah 40 captures the essence of God awesomeness's as regards what He will do this month, as we wait on Him, He will turn things around for good..Isaiah 30 vs 15a says in returning to God and in resting in Him, shall we be saved, in quietness and in trusting confidence shall be our strength...

Our trust in God this month must be total as God has promised He will be I AM THAT I AM in our lives...If we call Him our Provider, He will show up as that just like He provided for Abraham in Genesis 22 vs 1-20.
If we call Him our Shepherd, He will show up as that just as in Psalm 23. If we call Him our Protector and Safety, He will show up as that just as in Psalm 91. If we call Him our help, He will show up as a present help as in Psalm 46 and 121. If we call Him our deliverer, He will show up as that as in Psalm 124. The truth is that this month, what ever we call God as and believe Him for will come to pass as we wait upon Him...This month, i have called Him my Praise..Psalm 148.

I can not contain my excitement, but i ask that you trust God and have faith in His words and i ask that you enjoy this month of perfection as God is indeed set to perfect all that concerns you as you trust Him this month as your I AM THAT I AM.

Do you know that in Mark 11 vs 22-24, Jesus Christ said if we have faith, whatever we say happens as we believe and pray ?

Prayer Point - Ask God to help your unbelief and trust in Him totally in Jesus name amen.

Action - Take time to study the word of God as the bible is a complete book and anything you are going through is in the word of God. Take time to also choose those to speak to, any person that will not bring solution to you in line with God's words should be given some distance..God help us all.

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may the joy and favor of the Lord be yours in Jesus name amen

CELEBRATING THE MEN IN MY LIFE

2011-06-23T02:23:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone, i trust we are all doing great. Happy Fathers day in arrears to the men here, i hope we had a great time with our loved ones.

Fathers day has come and gone but i will want to celebrate all the fathers here for being there for their families. In these days of absentee fathers, i am glad the men in this group (Next Generation of Fathers group on Facebook) are doing their best to be the Priest, King and role model in their homes, and may God help everyone of you to be just like Him..a father that is always there for us.

I tell most men that i have the previledge to talk with on fatherhood, that love to a child is spelt TIME, and not money..as they go all out to make money and never have the time for their family. Fathers are made to be there to teach their children, to show love and model values that will be passed down from generation to generation...Thats what the Next Generation of Fathers group is all about..teach men to take their original place of being in charge and passing down the ultimate Father's blue print for mankind, from generation to generation.
You may not have had the previledge of your father being there for you but you can make the difference and be there to teach your children and be a blessing to them... How do you do this if you may ask me..Using three great men in my life as examples, let me share a couple of things that will take you from a good to great dad...( Note the three men are my dad, my late father-inlove and my dear husband).

1. Spend quality time with your children...My dad was a business man, but he always had time to take us out, watch network news with us..growing up, he would always come home in the afternoon, just to check how things are at home...my dad would listen to us and helped us in his own little way to be better. He always told us where he was going to...even if he made a detour sometimes..lol, but we could always say, per time he will be in his office, the sawmill or the club (Benin club or recreation club). I noticed this same quality in my late father-inlove and my husband). My husband will always tell me where he is per time, through phone calls, text messages etc. if he has to travel, he calls the children and tell them where he is going to and puts my first daughter in charge..telling her to help mummy and help her younger ones as well... This is key for every man..Do things with your children, communicate and let them know where you are per time.

2. Communicate value with your actions - My father inlove, my dad and my husband are three men i have seen going out of their way to help people...These three men have helped people with their words, money and time...they have blessed people with money to pay fees, rent and just provide solution when needed..this has been passed on to their children and we are passing it on as well. I have never seen any of my examples of great dad, despise any person, they mingle with the high and mighty and yet are still simple and humble.

3. They set standards in most things they do- My father will always tell us that he values his name and we must carry ourselves with respect and not get caught in anything shady things. Educating their children was and is key. Respect for self and others is key. Till date, all the different values have been passed on and is still being passed on...

Time will not permit me to write more but i believe we all get the picture i am trying to paint in our minds...we must live the kind of life that our family will miss us when we are gone and above all remember us for good...God bless and help us all.

Do you know - God saw Abraham as a father that will be pass on right values to his children. Check this out in Genesis 18 - 17-19.

Prayer Point - Ask God to make you a father like Him.

Action - Take stock of your fatherhood experience and see where you can make changes that will impact on your children and family positively. If you are not yet married, then you have time to learn the right way and God's way from now till you get married and become a father. God bless us all.

JUNE 2011 - OUR MONTH OF REMEMBRANCE AND DIVINE HELP

2011-05-31T16:32:00.000-07:00

Welcome to the month of June. I am so excited about this month because it's my wedding anniversary month. On the 14th of June, it will be precisely eight years that I said yes to a life of Purpose, Peace, Prosperity and Partnership, It's been eight beautiful years with my dear husband and Most favourite person in the world. God has been faithful to us as individuals and as a family, to Him be all glory for keeping us till now...I trust Him to help us live the lives He has purposed for us right from the foundation of the earth...

This post is not about my husband and I but what God is set to do this beautiful month of June. As I searched my spirit for what to post as my theme for the month, all I could hear was divine help and the scripture I got was one scripture, I would never have looked to for such a message but indeed God uses the foolish things of this world to confound the wise.

My text for this month is taken from Judges 16 vs 28, it talks about Samson, praying to God to remember him and strengthen him and above all to help him avenge the plucking of his eyes by the Philistines...as I read the scripture, what came to my mind is that God is set to remember us for good this month of June, He will remember the seeds we have sown in the past, He will remember the good deeds we have done just as he remembered Cornelius in Acts Chapter 10.

God is set to help us divinely and give us unusual answers to our prayers...this month, God will answer our prayers in such a way that people will be the ones sharing our testimonies, hallelujah! I truly see God breaking protocols to favour us, I see God remembering us as Joseph was remembered and brought out of prison to the palace. Genesis 41 vs 9 - 14, 37-46. I see God remembering some of us the way He remembered Racheal in Genesis 30 vs 22-24, He will remember some of us like He did Hannah in 1Samuel 1 vs 17-20...

God is set to make some people lose their sleep just to remember and help us like He did Mordecai in Esther 6... Hallelujah. This month is a month like no other if only we can align ourselves with God's plans for our lives. If you notice, all the people God remembered were desperate for a change and their actions by praying and crying out to God plus their good deeds provoked God's remembrance and help. This month, i ask that we should be desperate for the help we need and pray to God for divine remembrance ...I see God doing the unusual this month as we trust Him. Welcome to the month of June 2011, a month of remembrance and divine help

Do you know - Samson's cry for God to remember and strengthen him was for him to avenge his enemies? It was recorded that the people he killed at his death were more than those he killed while alive...this month, God shall avenge our enemies on our behalf as in Exodus 14 vs 13-31.

Prayer points - Ask God to help you to have a true relationship with Him as your Lord, Saviour and helper this month.

Pray that God will remember you for good this month of June and pray for unusual answers to your prayers , ask for specific testimonies in Jesus name amen.

Action- get into the word of God and read God's word on how He remembered others, pray that what He did for them will be made manifest in your life as well in Jesus name amen.

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may the God of sudden help, send you help speedily this month in Jesus name amen

WHATS THE EXCUSE ?

2011-05-27T15:46:00.000-07:00

I have put off writing this post for about four days now as i had the perfect excuses not to write it...excuse number one, i needed to digest the message before i could write about it, excuse number two, i was too tired to write, excuse number three, i need to write with total concentration.. i had all kinds of excuses but at the end of the day, here i am writing the post and my question to anyone reading, is what is the excuse you have, for not doing what you are suppose to do? whats your excuse for not living the life, you have been dreaming of living? whats your excuse for not going to school? whats your excuse for not starting that business? Honestly we have all kinds of excuses that at the end of the day, we cheat ourselves and sometimes miss God's perfect will for us... God help us.

I am one person that procrastinates and have perfect excuses for not doing things i am suppose to do but these days, i have told myself, i must not have excuses and i must not tolerate them because procrastination is truly the thief of time...

Thinking about my challenge of procrastinating and giving excuses, i recently read through the bible and came across an account in Exodus Chapter 3 and Chapter 4 - 1-17, in those chapters, i saw a man called by God and after all God told Moses about Himself, Moses still had excuses to dodge the assignment God had for him..but thank God for God, He countered all his excuses and still sent him on the assignment..So whats the excuse you have that you are not where you are ?...Good question begging for an answer! lol

Women,always have excuses not to better themselves and most times, we use our families as the perfect excuse...i recently did a two months program from January through to March 2011. I had all the excuses in the world, not to do it; i asked myself how i will cope with managing myself, family and school work?, i had so many reasons why i thought i will not be able to do it and eventually, after battling with myself internally, i made up my mind that i will go for it and today as they say, the rest is history! lol

I wont say it was easy doing the program...I had some very good reasons not to do it...one, was i had no money to pay my fees, two, was how do i cope with school runs for my children and myself, three, how do i balance my business and prayer meetings..all this were concerns but as i made up my mind to go through with it..God started showing Himself strong to perfect everything and today, i have some useful tips that will help anyone to live their best life per time if they can only cut off excuses!

My fire proof tips to cut off excuses are;

1. Ask yourself the questions that will make you stop giving excuses..will what you plan to do, improve your life? will it make you a better person ? if your answer to these questions are yes, then go for it!

2. Who can you share this vision with, that will encourage you or hold you accountable ? i had a dear friend too that had her own excuses, but we were able to hold ourselves accountable and we encouraged ourselves as we moved on...So you need a dream circle, people that will help you move forward and make your dream come to pass. I currently have an accountability partner that is on my case to make sure i post on my blog at least once a week..just because i do not want to give her excuses, i must do as we have agreed...i am not there yet but i am not where i use to be! lol. She also sees that i do all other things i need to put in place as per my business and ministry.

3.Just do it...eliminate excuses..as my late mentor will say..i do not care how you get the result, just get it! ...Help yourself, do what you have to do and believe God for the result you want. These days, i do the things i dislike doing first, i tell myself, if i do the job, i will have all the time in the world to do other things i want to do and the way i work now, is to work as if i am going on vacation so all i need to achieve i must achieve quickly and well ..this helps me and finally i get the job done. Hurray!!! lol

4. Pray..This should actually be the first and last thing you do..commit your ways to God and He will direct your path..I pray more now, since i perceived that my procrastinating is not normal..lol. I spend time asking God to help me fulfill all He has purposed for me and i have seen him helping me day by day. I also have my Prayer team, that i call up to back me up when i have things to do and they have been a bundle of support.

5. Finally you need a destiny helper who maybe a concerned or a cranky spouse! lol...my husband will love me for this! hahahahahaha...I am a creative person and can come up with ideas at the turn of a hat..i can talk, and have done so many things with my mouth! lol but my dear husband is my opposite and he will always be there to tell me.."fantastic ideas but please write down one you will start and finish, and yes i can congratulate myself now, that i can start and finish a project..i still have some unfinished projects but i have started and finished a lot, and without my husband who supports and sometimes gets on my nerves, i am sure, i will not be where i am today..All thanks to my dear husband and destiny helper for this.

I truly hope this post will encourage someone to quit giving excuses and make that move...lose that weight, start that business, Go back to school, start that foundation, start that ministry, make that call, ask that girl to marry you...Just do what you have to do and move forward. I await your testimonies. God bless you for making that move!

Prayer Point - Ask God to help you, be like Him, as God is stable and there is no excuses with Him.

Pray for grace to be all God has destined you to be. Pray that He will send you helpers of destiny that will help you become the best you in Jesus name amen

Action - Read and meditate on Exodus Chapter 3 and 4, the book of Ruth, Esther and 2 Kings 7-3-16.

SEXUALITY AND THE HELP YOU NEED

2011-05-23T13:19:00.000-07:00

The month of May is gradually drawing to a close but with it has come up some "character issues"...from prediction of the world ending on the 21st of May- which did not happen, to Former Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger of California revealing that he has a child with his family's employee and then the case of the International Monetary Fund Chief- Dominique Strauss Kahn being held for sexual assault charges..and you wonder what is happening with our male folks...

As i listened to the news, a man said he cried when he heard the IMF Chief's story as he was seen as a contender for the Presidency of his country but all that am sure is gone now..as i read more, i found out this men have had issues in the past... but none that has come to this stage..my thought was with their families first; i could imagine the feeling of the wives and children of these men to all the unwanted public attention but for me the bigger picture is how to stop another man from fighting this battle with his sexuality and losing it... A lot of influential men and women have been brought down because of this..my prayer is that God will help us all to deal with whatever sexual issues we have, so that we will not be brought to shame in Jesus name amen.

We must know that our sexuality is God's gift to us, we should not let the devil deceive us! We are all sexual beings but we must manage our sexuality or we get into trouble. A lot of destinies have been truncated through sexual sin! We must guide our heart and our bodies as well with all diligence. Here are some quick tips to help us

1.We must flee all appearances of evil. Men, my Pastor in Daystar Christian centre warns that you must beware of UFOs- Unclad female objects! Lol!

2. Get an accountability partner, your spouse should be your partner as a married person. So when thoughts come, you can get help and someone to pray for you and with you. Remember sin thrives in secrecy.

3. The bible admonishes that we must think on only things that are lovely and of good report. So when thoughts that will get us into trouble come, we must cast them out..the truth is the mind is very key when it comes to the issue of sex. So fill your mind with good thoughts.

4.We must take a stand for righteous living, its either we are a Joseph or a Samson. Genesis 39 vs 6-12 and Judges 16. Do not keep playing with sin...do not fuel a relationship that will get you into trouble, do not keep watching pornographic films or reading pornographic magazines. Stand for what is right always.

5. Read Proverbs 5 and get a biblical perspective to the whole issue of adultery. I will also advice you get other books that will help you like "Sex Straight Talk", a book by Sam Adeyemi of Daystar Christian center Lagos.

6. Seek Professional or Spiritual help, if you think the issues about your sexuality are issues you can not deal with alone.

Prayer Point - Ask God to help you deal with any sexual issues you are having. Ask Him for help to flee all appearances of evil like Joseph did.
Thank Him for making you a sexual being and ask Him to help you please him in your body, soul and spirit in Jesus name amen.

GOD OUR SURE PROTECTOR IN THE MARKET SQUARE OF LIFE

2011-05-14T15:34:00.000-07:00

Its mid month already..wow, how time flies. This month has flown by so fast that i can not believe i said just a couple of days ago..happy new month! now its happy mid month ...lol

As beautiful as the month started, with my mother's birthday on the 2nd of May, my younger sister's birthday on the 10th and a couple of my dear friends celebrating as well, i thought i was in for celebration galore all through, until i started getting stories of the death of young people here and there. As someone that prays, i find it very difficult to deal with issues of young people being wasted, especially when they never had the opportunity to commit to Jesus Christ as their Lord and Saviour.

This month in its own way has brought me to the realisation that we all are like traders in a market square, we have all come to the market square of life to trade with what God has blessed us with, and like real traders in the market, as soon as we are done, we leave the market square, but my prayer is that we will all trade well with what we have been blessed with and when we get back to our maker, we will hear the words..Thou good and faithful servant, enter into my rest..Matthew 25-21-23

As we all know, in the market square, we find different kinds of people with different intentions. You find the good, the bad and the ugly with apologies to Clint Eastwood! lol. Some people may be there to buy, some to sell, some to play games, some to play pranks and con people, some to gossip plus slander and some to steal..those to steal may be like the devil in John 10 - 10a that has come to steal, kill and to destroy...

In order to avert the evil we find in the market square of life, there is need to protect ourselves by going back to the one that is our maker..the God that created us and was never created. the one that is Almighty, the God that exist by Himself! He is the one that knows what He has given us as talents to trade with in the market square and at the end of our stay here, he is the one that will reward our actions or inactions in the market square of life.

For those that know Him as their Lord and Saviour, He becomes their help, no matter how short or long they stay in the market square, He is their sure protector and like in John 10-10b...He has come to give life and to give it in abundance.

What are my anchor scriptures for the market square of life..? those that are close to me know i love reading from the book of Psalms and so my three favorite scriptures to live by in the Market square of life are Psalm 23, Psalm 91 and Psalm 121...

Psalm 23 talks about our relationship and intimacy with the one that sends us to the market square of life... when we know and acknowledge Him as our Shepherd...He provides, He gives rest, He leads , guides, protects, corrects, comforts, feeds, anoints, loves and gives us shelter...

In Psalm 91 - we feel His presence, we see His protective covering, we experience His peace, we see life with eternity in view, we enjoy provision and see His power at work.

In Psalm 121, we see His help, His protection and preservation till eternity...

These three scriptures have blessed me as i follow my path in life and in these days that are evil , i ask that we all know these Psalms and other scriptures that will enrich our lives and make them our daily confessions. My prayer is that at the end of our stay here.. indeed our lives will count as lives well spent to the glory of God and we will hear from Him, those lovely words... "Well done..thou good and faithful servant"...

Prayer Points - Ask Jesus Christ to come into your heart if you have never accepted Him as your Lord and personal Saviour.

Ask for His help to love Him, serve Him and live your Life for Him

Pray that His sure mercies amd favour will be your portion forever in Jesus name amen.

Action - Commit to spending time in prayers and asking God to reveal your purpose here on earth. Ask for His grace to fulfil your purpose and be a blessing to humanity in Jesus name amen.

MAY 2011 - MONTH OF TESTIMONY, PURPOSE AND CELEBRATION

2011-04-30T20:21:00.000-07:00

Happy month of May...This is one month i love and the main reason i love it is that some of my cherished mentors were born this month...these are people that have shaped my lives in their own way...My dear mum celebrates her birthday in May, my younger sister that is dear to my heart, celebrates her birthday this month, i have close family friends and loved ones celebrating this month and i must not fail to mention, my dear boss and mentor forever..though gone from earth physically..celebrates as a cloud of witness in heaven. This post is not about any of these people but about a dear friend that made me realise finally what i was born to be and born to do.

She may not know what she did for me that day but today i write this in her honour and celebrate God for bringing her my way. This dear friend that has been through so much challenges that will kill others or make them bitter, called me a couple of days back and said to me...Bri, as she calls me, someone was asking me, why is Bridget still your friend seeing you do not have what others have and are not where you should be..why is she still standing by you when others have left you...i cried as she spoke and i am still crying as i type...

My answer...Dear, you are my testimony! i do not see where you are now but i see the glorious future God has for you..i want to be at your wedding, celebrate when you have your children and be happy when all God has destined for you come to pass...sister, where will be my testimony if i leave you half way through...what will i tell God..if i dont stand through with you till the end..know this..i will give God no rest until you are made a praise! the line went off and i sent her a message and ended up with isaiah 40 vs 31...

After the call, i entered my bathroom, crying and asking God questions...Lord when will you answer her and many others, when will this waiting be over? when will you prove yourself as God...and then the big question..why me? lol..why do you bring people my way that are in need...why must i be the person they will reach out to when they need help..so many questions...

I ended up thinking of so many people i have stood by and at the end..they failed me, so many that have come to just "collect" without giving anything back , so many that feel, they have used "me" and "dumped" with nothing to show .. as i kept thinking..i thought of so many people that have brightened my day with their smiles, hugs and words of encouragement..so many that believe in me, more than i believe in myself, so many that i have enjoyed their friendship for so many years that i forget they are not my biological relatives...so many like my dear friend that will be the one to remember to call when its my children's birthday and mine..she will call to ask how i am, she will call to ask if i have been going to church..and so many other things that make her unique and has made me to stay by her through thick and thin...she may not know this...because she is not into computer and all the social network stuff...but i pray someone here reads this and figure she is the one i am talking about and tell her that she has helped me to know that indeed..i was born to be a relationship person..i was born for relationship... i am a people's person...like Jesus, i must go where others are hurting, blind, lame, rich, literate or illitrate..i must reach them and let them know...i may be the only "Jesus" they may ever see... i want to see people and affect them for good...i want to add to what others have and multiply the good in them..i do not want to be among those that will come to subtract or divide their lives..I want to be a friend that will nurture the strength in others instead of their weaknesses.. I am not there yet but thank God for Jesus Christ and people like my dear friend...I have found my purpose...My resolve? like Him , i will go about doing good this month of May and all the days of my life...Acts 10 vs 38. God bless you dear friend and sister for giving me my own "Aha" moment..lol

Prayer - God use me for your glory and help me to be the woman you want me to be, not what i want to be but the woman "You" Lord want me to be and above all, bless my dear friend and so many like her..make her a praise and let all flesh know you are our God. Make us living proofs and testimonies in Jesus name amen.

Action - There is more to your life than you! learn to bless others, love people for who they are, not what you can get from them..Learn to appreciate others, appreciate their differences and what makes them who they are.. God help us all.

MR & MRS ENDOWED

2011-04-22T15:01:00.000-07:00

I was led to go for a prayer meeting recently and was previledged to be introduced by the Minister in charge to lead a prayer seesion at the end of the meeting. When she started her introduction, she said i was a woman that God is using to do great work but i enjoy working behind the scene and that i tell the truth as it is...Wow, i was touched by her introduction and after the meeting, her introduction of my person kept ringing in my head...as i thought of it, i remembered one of my Godmother and mentor telling me, that anytime she needs to hear the truth about issues, i am one person she talks to...humbling i must say.

I believe telling the truth is a virtue and with that description of my person, i have told myself i must work hard to keep that side of me. People are watching us to know if we can be trusted, and besides people watching..God is watching as well, to know if you and i can be trusted to be an instrument of His praise.

My question today is what has God endowed you with ? I believe we all have something God has endowed us with, some people have the gift of relating with people and making them feel loved at first meeting, some have the gift of networking and being able to keep friends for life, others have the gift of singing, teaching, organisation, some have the gift of speaking right words, some have the gift of being calm in the midst of chaos, while others have the gift of smiling and putting a smile on people's faces as well..My question again is what are you endowed with? what gift has God given you to bless the world with?

Someone reading this may say, i am not sure, God has endowed me with any gift/talent..i do not seem to have anything to offer my world...how do i know what i have been endowed with ?

The simple way to know what you have is listening to what people say of your person...what do your friends say about you, what do your parents, siblings, spouse and other close friends say about your person?

Another way to know what you are endowed with is, what do you do effortlessly? what do you enjoy doing? what can you really say you are good at ?

What brings out the best in you? what brings out the worst? all these questions will help you know what you are endowed with and how you can use this to bless those around you.

I as a person have always loved reading, writing,and speaking, i never saw it as something that would bless anyone but today i know better...lol.

As a person, i love listening to people and helping out when and where there is a challenge...today, i get calls from friends and even strangers that wants me to help them out with issues or even introduce them to those that can help them..

I love praying and encouraging people; helping them to bring out the best in them as well as to see that they have something to offer their world. I know i have not fully tapped into what God has blessed me with but i know that every day as i use the gifts i am aware of, God uses this little gifts to do great things in the lives of others...so Mr, Mrs, Young man, Young Lady, what are you endowed with?

Action - Pray and ask God to reveal what He has endowed you with, Pray that you will use this gift/talent to be a blessing to others in Jesus name amen.

Note - when you know what you are endowed with, your life becomes stress free as indeed stars do not struggle to shine...

Guess what ? a dear friend said she can not ask me serious questions about herself as i will not tell her the truth, since i never see wrong in people but their best...but when she needs a shot of "feel good quin" i am the person she calls on! Different stroke for different folks! hahahahahaha

Decision making and change

2011-04-14T06:54:00.000-07:00

Its mid month already, how times flies. Today i will be talking about Decision making and change. Everyone is a product of the decision they have made or not made. The change we all want is always a decision away.

To change your status from single to married, you must decide on who to say yes to as a woman and as a man you must decide who to ask to marry as this important decision will make or mar you. This also applies to the decision you make as regards your job, where you decide to live and the friends you keep.

You make a decision based on the information you have; i.e in who to choose as a life partner, you must have information as to his person, family background, his life goals and purpose, all this information you have will help you take a decision that will either change your status to a married person or make you remain single.

Sometimes, Ladies especially, will ask for time to think, but the truth is time will never create the change you expect, you still have to make that decision. its this decision that will create change.

In choosing your friends, you must decide the kind of people you want around you, you must ask yourself questions that will make you decide which amongst your friends will be your inner circle, just like Jesus Christ...he had twelve disciples and amongst the twelve, he had three that were his inner circle friends and then one, that was called his beloved. You must learn to make decisions as to who you give access to you. If you want to be wealthy- in thoughts,finance etc, the friends you keep will determine this. I make friends easily and i see myself as a relationship person and so i keep my friends...but i have found out sadly that some of these friends do not have same values and so, i have naturally kept away from them and some have stayed away from me as well but the beauty of it all, is that some people enter your life for a reason, some for a season and others forever, so its a win-win situation! lol

In the case of a job you desire, you also need to decide where you want to work and who you want to work with, if as a person you can not stand having children around you, it will be a bad decision to go and take a job as a kindergarten teacher, except if you see it as a therapy to cure you of your dislike of children! lol

if you are in a job, you hate with a passion and you keep telling yourself you desire a change, that change will not come except you decide on what to do to love the job if you want to remain there or you make a decision and call it quit! Fire your boss before he fires you! lol.

To create the change you want, you must make a decision as what you endure will continue, if you dont take that decision!
Know this;the decision you take will determine your destiny. May God help us all to take decisions that will indeed bring change in every aspect of our lives.

April 2011- Your month of Wisdom and Purpose

2011-04-05T12:48:00.000-07:00

It's the 5th day of April already, welcome to a month, God has inspired me to call a month of Wisdom and Purpose. I see this month as a month like no other, to the world, April is a month associated with April fools day, where people play all manners of prank on each other on the 1st day of the month but as I was thinking of the theme for the month, God began to stir in my heart, that this will be a month of wisdom, a month of knowledge, understanding and purpose, and the scriptures for this month are from the book of Proverbs, this we all know is the book of wisdom.

Proverbs 3 - 19-24, Proverbs 4- 7-9, and Proverbs 24-3-6 talks about the benefit of having wisdom, with wisdom, knowledge and understanding, your purpose is fulfilled. The Amplified version of Proverbs 24 - 3 says it all; a life, a home, a family is built through wisdom.
So, if you pursue godly wisdom with all your heart, you will build, your life, your home, your family etc. My prayer for everyone reading this is to pursue this wisdom with all our heart.

The question now, is how do I get this wisdom, very simple, first, you desire it..then you ask God to bless you with wisdom from on high. king Solomon, who is considered as the wisest King and the writer of the book of Proverbs, asked God for wisdom, when God asked him, what he wanted, you can find this in the second book of Chronicles, chapter 1 from the 7th verse down to the 12th verse. Solomon asked and God answered him.
Other things you need to get wisdom is to read, I will recommend the bible as the greatest book to gain wisdom, knowledge and understanding, commit to reading the bible and a chapter of Proverbs everyday, this will help you know the mind of God as it concerns you, your family and work. You need to also form the habit of reading books, I will recommend any of Dr. Mike Murdocks books anytime, he is so blessed, when it comes to writing or speaking about wisdom.

There are other books you can read to gain wisdom on so many issues as it affects you, your family and work. This month, I have committed to a study on different areas of my life and I will encourage you to do same as it is the truth that you know that sets you free. Another way to gain wisdom is the company you keep, who are your friends? Are they adding value to you in anyway? It is said in the book of Daniel 2 - I4-22, how Daniel after the King's decree to kill all the wise men, asked for time to get the interpretation of the King's dream and he went to his friends and told them to pray and ask God for mercy as well as the interpretation of the dream...

Daniel got the dream interpretation in a vision and was able to save himself, his friends and the other wise men! So who really are you friends? Can you go to them for help? Prayers in times of need?, will they give the advice that will help you seek answers in God, who rather they will leave you to yourself...know that when you walk with the wise, you are wise and when you walk with fools, you become like them..that will not be our portion in Jesus name amen.

Another way, to get wisdom is the mentor, you keep. A mentor is an experienced person, who advices you and helps you to be a better 'you'. I believe the greatest mentor is Jesus Christ; He has been through most of the path, we are threading now, He knows what it means to be born poor, no pedigree, he knows how it is to be rejected, name it, he has been there but yet he fulfilled purpose because he walked by the wisdom of God. May God help us to find godly mentors that will bless our lives and help us fulfil our glorious destinies in Jesus name amen.

Do you know - James 1 - 5 says, if any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that govern to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.

Prayer points - Ask God to give you wisdom at all times, ask Him to help you with the wisdom you need to fulfil your glorious destiny
Pray that God will bring you way, mentors like Mordecai, Naomi, Deborah that will stand to see you fulfil your destiny. Pray that God will bring your way, the book , tapes, or materials that will help you with the wisdom you need for your situation in Jesus name amen.

Action - Commit to reading a book of Proverbs per day, also get books that will inspire you and increase your knowledge and understanding in the areas you need it. Have a blessed month.

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may the joy of the Lord be yours as you celebrate in Jesus name amen.

MARCH 2011 - YOUR MONTH OF VICTORY OVER YOUR ENEMIES

2011-03-04T02:05:00.000-08:00

Welcome to your best month ever! March is the month of months..this is my birth month, so its indeed the month of months! lol

This month, as i believed God for a word, i was led to Psalm 25, i read the passage in three different translations and my understanding of it at the end of my study, is that if we trust in God, He will direct our paths, He will forgive our past sins and above all, He will not let our enemies triumph over us. As i studied, i checked the meaning of " ENEMY", and discovered that an enemy is someone that hates you, or one who hates or speaks against someone or something. An ENEMY, is also anything that harms or prevents someone from being successful.

To make us understand who an enemy is, let me use the story of Saul and David in the bible. King Saul became the enemy of David, after he killed Goliath and people started singing his praise. Without cause he sought for ways to harm and kill David, but God caused David to triumph over Saul. Read 1 Samuel Chapter 18 to Chapter 29, despite all Saul did to harm David, God who is ever faithful delivered him from the hands of Saul.

So this month, God will cause you to triumph over the enemies within and out. Your enemies outside may be people that want to see you fail and unsuccessful..God is saying;I, God will make sure that you end up successful, i will frustrate their counsel and imaginations against you because my thoughts towards you are thoughts of good and not of evil- Jeremiah 29 vs 11.

The enemies with in may be something that is preventing you from living the God kind of life. Lets take Fear, as an example; fear is the opposite of faith, some of us are afraid for no reason. We are afraid of our tomorrow, we are afraid of men, afraid of sickness, death, rejection, etc. This fear has kept most of us from believing God and acting on His word. Some of us have the fear of ending up divorced because we are from broken homes, some of us, anytime we fall sick, will think the sickness will kill us because our parents or relatives died from such sicknesses.

Fear is an enemy of our destiny and not of God..Today, every fear in your life is replaced with faith in God and His word. God is the source of faith while Satan is the source of fear. Remember, it was after the first man, Adam fell, that man became afraid. ( read Genesis 3- 10). This month, fear and other enemies of our destinies are cast out of our lives in Jesus name amen. This month, we triumph over all enemies of our destines in Jesus name amen.

Do you know - 1 John 5 : 4, says whatever is born of God, overcomes the world:and this is the victory that overcomes the world, even our faith.

Prayer point - Pray that God will help you to trust and have faith in Him absolutely.
Pray that He will make you overcome all your fears.
Pray using Psalm 25 vs 1 and 2. God bless us all.

Action Point - Take time to study and meditate on the word of God. For further study, read Luke 10 vs 18-19, Psalm 34 vs 19, Hebrews 2 vs 14-15, Psalm 27 vs 1-2, Isaiah 53 vs 4-5, Romans 10 vs 17.

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may God bless us richly and meet us at the point of our needs.

Note - Its my birthday on the 11th of March. Please pray for me as you are led by God in Jesus name amen.

IS PRAYING YOUR LAST OR FIRST RESORT ?

2011-02-28T13:39:00.000-08:00

Is praying your first or last resort? People would rather talk to man than talk to God, their maker! The bible says men ought to pray and not to faint. Luke 18 vs 1. Prayer is an investment for you and those you are praying for.

I was brought up by a Praying mother, my mum taught me how to talk to God first before talking to man! I call myself a prayer because I have seen God move on my behalf and others when I pray.. For me, prayer is my first and last resort.. Even Jesus while on earth, was a prayer, before his ministry started he prayed, while he went about ministry, he prayed and taught his disciples how to pray as well. We must get to the level of making scripture praying a life style. We must invest in ourselves, and family and pray without ceasing.. Even when we do not see immediate answers to prayers, keep praying until you see answers to your prayer. Through prayers, people have been saved, healed, restored and blessed! It won't cost you anything to pray rather you will blessed as you pray. Let's making praying a lifestyle and see what God will do with our lives and the lives of our loved ones and even enemies.

Prayers help you depend on God.. Am not advocating that you pray and take no action! Some of us Christians will pray, and will not back our prayers with required actions. If for example, you are praying and believing God for a child,as a married woman or man, you will pray as well as get intimate with your spouse, in due season, God will answer, as He has said there will be no barren in the land, but when all you do is pray and no love/ intimacy.. How will the baby come? Let's pray and trust God to direct us. Let me share a testimony here.. To some people the issue may be trivial but to me, it was a big deal and that's how God is interested in everything we pray about!
I noticed that my house had become a den for mosquitoes and rats, I had called in a fumigation expert, he did the fumigation twice, we had respite from the mosquitoes yet I had the uninvited rats as guests, they were all over the house and I was becoming traumatised by their presence, I tried buying rat gums, they will walk through and go off, laughing at me! Lol.
I bought rat poison, it was like a snack, nothing happened! It got to a point that I started praying and planning as well, we made some changes, changed the nets in the house and was planning to change the doors as well to block any entrance point into the house, we cleaned out the store where we noticed the rats convene to traumatize us.. All our efforts, yielded little or no results. I just kept praying, anytime I see them around.. And one day bam! My nanny bought a rat killer from the market, took fish, mixed it with it and dropped it around!
The next day, we saw 3 dead rats in the kitchen, thinking, that was all, we checked and saw 7 more. We were happy. My husband who had gone out came back and insisted we clean up the kitchen again, reluctantly, I went with him to the kitchen and we started bringing out stuff, boy! It was an invasion, everywhere we looked, we saw dead or partially dead rats, big&small. We got over 25 rats that day, it was a day of freedom for us.. My animal loving daughter Davina said the rats were cute and wanted to touch them! A stern warning from her dad kept her in check! Hahahaha.

It was hard work cleaning up but today I can walk round my house without seeing a rat! And my joy in all this, is that I saved money by not calling the fumigation man that would have charged me about ten to twenty thousand naira to fumigate,one hundred naira, was all my nanny spent in buying the rat poison and we have nicknamed her the rat ex terminator!Hahaha.
My point is, if God can answer a prayer about rats, then He will answer our prayers as we pray for our spouses and relatives that are not saved, He will answer our prayers concerning misbehaving children, lack of finance, ill health or any thing we choose to pray about. Let's pray NOW!

FEBRUARY 2011 - ITS WHAT YOU SEE, YOU GET MONTH

2011-02-06T13:12:00.000-08:00

It's February already, welcome to a month i have termed, "what you see you get". This can be seen in Genesis 13 vs 14-17. This month it's what you see with your eyes of faith that you will get. Your faith must rise up like that of the Patriarchs in Hebrews 11 and you must see the way God sees in Ezekiel 37 vs 1-14.

This is a month like no other, God is set to help us, if only we can trust Him all the way and see things His way. This month, see the babies you are trusting God for, see the godly life partner you are believing God for, see the new businesses, see your finance increase, see your body healed, see through the eyes of faith, speak life to every dying situation around you, see your marriage restored and see yourself the way God sees you. God wants you to prosper and succeed in all you do...welcome to your month of
amazing testimonies.

Do you know - God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us? Ephesians 3-20

Prayer point - Pray that everything God has created will co-operate to beautify your life this season.
Pray that your life will be a testimony and your destiny will be glorious in Jesus name amen.

Action point - Spend time reading the bible and claim the promises of God written there.

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may God increase you all on every side in Jesus name amen.

Note- love is in the air as we celebrate valentines day this month.
Tips to take your love life to another level - Take time to adore, admire and appreciate your spouse. Spend time, communicating your feelings, dreams etc. Go on a special date with your spouse. Watch the movie "fireproof " together or watch with other couples. Buy your spouse some nice gifts. Be helpful around the house. Hug and kiss your spouse as many times as you can in a day- try hugging and kissing their number of years! Lol

Year 2011 - Your year of favour , mercy and divine change

2011-01-03T02:05:00.000-08:00

I welcome us all to a year of favour, mercy and divine change, this year is a year like no other, year 2011 is indeed a year where our success will be determined by our walk with God. What God laid in my spirit this year is the theme above with Genesis 6 as my anchor scripture, God laid before me the story of Noah and what He achieved with Noah as a result of his righteous and blameless walk with God. Noah found grace before God and so was spared the destruction that came upon the earth.

This year, there will be divine judgement but it's only by His mercy that we will escape it. God wants us to walk faithfully with Him to avoid the judgement that will come. This is not the year for spiritual slackers, God will not tolerate those that are suppose to be spiritual giants and will still want to remain as spiritual babes. God wants to show His raw power this year but He wants men and women that will walk with Him closely and run with His words.

This is a year that we must move to the beat of the spirit, this year is not business as usual as God is set to do the supernatural in our lives, divine change is our portion, God will break barriers for our sakes, there will be supernatural manifestations; the kind that will make us wake up overnight in the palace like Joseph, the one that will make us change address from slaves to rulers like Daniel. We must be ready this year....God is set to do new things, are you ready for Him ?

Do you know - Noah found grace in the eyes of God according to Genesis 6 vs 8 ? This grace means favour and this made God to start a new earth with Noah and his family as the ones in charge of everything on earth...wow!!! Hallelujah.

Prayer points - Ask God to help you to be faithful to Him this year, pray for God to release an unusual grace and favour upon your life in Jesus name amen.

Action point- Read Genesis chapters 6 , 7 and 8.
kindly write your goals for this year as God believes in planning and goal setting, Habakkuk 2- 2-3 confirms this. Start this year well, if you are not born again, your primary goal should be to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal saviour, it's simple, just believe that Christ came to die for you, accept this truth and confess Him as you Lord and personal saviour, invite Him into your heart as the owner of your life, ask that indeed you will be a new creature by His spirit and all old things shall pass away in your life in Jesus name amen. Congratulations to you, if you said that prayer, you are now a child of God

Once again welcome to year 2011, your best year ever.

Congratulations to all those celebrating this month, may God bless you all richly and show you all His love plus His mercy in Jesus name amen

DECEMBER- OUR MONTH OF THANKSGIVING AND PRAISE

2010-12-02T11:14:00.000-08:00

Hello everyone, i am so excited to be typing this post..wow..its December again, how time flies... Its a season to be thankful..trala..lala..lalalala.
I want to appreciate God for all our lives, for seeing us through the beginning of the year to the end of the year, indeed God is worthy to be praised alone.

This is our month of TAP; a month of thanksgiving and praise to God, i want to thank Him specially on behalf of everyone here, for keeping us alive till now, for loading us daily with benefits of all kinds..God has indeed been good to us.

My request is that everyone should give God thanks and praises all through this month of December, no matter where you are now in your life, that you are alive shows that God is not through with you and He will do exceedingly and above all you can ever think or ask. Our resolve this month should be to give God thanks for being so faithful even when we were unfaithful...

Lets use thanks and praises to open the heaven over us, lets join the twenty-four elders in heaven to sing praises and bow down to the Kings of Kings, Lord of Lords, the Unchanging changer, the Ever faithful God, the immortal, invincible and only wise God,the one that created and was never created, the God that is beautiful for all situation, the God that is Alpha and Omega, the one that has the heaven as His throne and the earth as His footstool; the one i call "daddy long leg", the God that is the rock of ages, the ancient of days, the one that can bring water out of a rock, the one that is a miracle working God, the God that knows the end from the beginning, that speaks and His words stands as the truth forever, the God that is Holy, full of mercy and compassion, the I am that i am, our way maker...

Lets thank and praise this God for all He has done and is still doing in our lives...This is not the month to pray and ask for things but its a month to praise and thank Him for who and what He is in our lives. Lets appreciate God for the gift of salvation, lets appreciate Him for keeping us sane, lets appreciate Him for so much that He has done and i believe as we do so, we will see Him move on our behalf...

Do you know - Th children of Israel in 2 Chronicles 20 : 1 - 30 got delivered from their enemies because they sang praises to God ?

Paul and Silas sang praises to God despite being in prison and God opened the prison doors? Acts 16 - 25-26,

Its time for your own walls of Jericho to fall down as you shout unto the Lord just as in Joshua 6 - 20.

Prayer Point - Ask God to give you a heart of praise like David in the bible.
Thank God for all He has done for you from January till now.

Action - Read Psalm 100, Psalm 103 - 1-5, Psalm 105 -1-5, Psalm 107 -1-9, Psalm 119-62, Revelation 7 - 10-17

I prophesy that this month will be our best month ever, just as the water that became wine in John 2- 1-10b, the best of our testimonies will be heard now in Jesus name amen.

Happy celebrations to all those celebrating this month, may God bless you all and pour His abundant blessings upon you

NOVEMBER - A MONTH OF GOD BEING GOD IN OUR LIVES AND SITUATION

2010-11-02T15:22:00.000-07:00

Hello all,

Happy new month of November, its our month of God showing Himself as God in our lives and situation. Read and meditate on Isaiah 25. This is not my monthly message but i had to share this from Zig Ziglar's newsletter i subscribe to. Seeing this mail, made me know why i am doing what i do with Next Generation of Fathers on Facebook..Fathers are important and we must build the fathers that build the Nation, God's style..its a mandate i am committed to and i sincerely ask God for His help to reach out to men, in such a way that they will become the Priests of their homes, mentors, teachers,rolemodels and all that God has created them to be. God will remember us all this season in Jesus name amen.

Hugging Reduces Crime
By Zig Ziglar

A few weeks back, I wrote about the importance of fathers hugging their daughters and got several comments about that concept.

This week, I want to discuss fathers and sons. The father-son relationship is one of the most important relationships on earth. When it breaks down, the consequences are severe for both people involved and society at large. Bill Glass, former All-Pro end for the Cleveland Browns, has been in over 350 prisons on crusades. He has conducted several thousand one-on-one interviews with inmates, roughly 90% of whom are male. Bill says that 100% of the men with whom he has talked literally hate their fathers. This hatred is taken out in the form of crime and violence against society. The price is high.
Bill points out that in the prison population there is one disproportionately small, and I do mean minute, group – Jews. But why? Is there something Jewish fathers do that others don’t which makes the difference? If there is, could all fathers employ their methods with similar results? The answer to the second question, in my opinion, is yes. Since the days of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, Jewish fathers have done these three things with their sons, whether the son was two years old or fifty years old. The Jewish father repeatedly says, “Bless you, my son. I love you, Son,” and then the father gives the boy a big, warm hug.

It sounds so simple, too simple. Imagine if, all across America, fathers reached out and hugged their sons and told them they loved them. Imagine it happening day after day. What a difference it could make!

I shared this information in a public seminar in Little Rock, Arkansas, and a prison official in attendance later told me, “We have roughly 7,500 people incarcerated in the State of Arkansas and only seven of them are Jews.” Rabbi Daniel Lapin told me that he did not know the percentages for the State of California but he felt they would be similar. Certainly the results are so spectacular that it’s worth a try for all of us, isn’t it? Think about it and I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP!

About Zig Ziglar - Zig Ziglar is known as America’s motivator. He is the author of 29 books and numerous audio and video recordings. He brings his message of hope to thousands on the stages at the Get Motivated Seminars. See him in action!
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OCTOBER 2010 - OUR MONTH OF DIVINE HELP AND SUCCESS

2010-10-09T11:34:00.000-07:00

Hello all, i trust we are all doing great. I have missed being here, and thank God i can send my messages again..

How have we all been, i trust God has been faithful, my prayer is that He will continue to be faithful to us even when we are faithless in Jesus name amen.

As its my custom, I always pray and ask God for a word for the month, something like a theme that i will stand on to pray through the month. As the month of October approached, i was searching my heart and the scriptures for a sure word for October, but i did not get any word until i was in a church service and my eyes caught an unusual scripture, as i read through, it was like a light bulb experience and i knew, that was the word God wanted me to stand on and share with others for October 2010.

The text for this month can be found in 1 Chronicles 12 vs 18b and 22. Here we see that David got human and divine help. He got help daily..this is my prayer for us all, that this month, we will get help daily and God will also help our helpers.

This last three month will be for us like Obed-edom in 1 Chronicles 13 - 14, it will be the best three months of this year as we trust and believe God and His words, God will turn every trial, examination, suffering, temptation, insults, mockery, obvious shame, neglect, yolk of backwardness, delay and stagnation, to a testimony as in Luke 21 vs 13 in Jesus name amen.

Lets all continue to take God at His words and believe those He has placed around to speak to our destinies. God help us all.

Do you know - that 1 Chronicles 20 vs 20b says if we believe in the Lord our God, we shall be established and if we believe His prophets, so shall we prosper ?...

Our help and success this month is in God, so enjoy reading His words and continue to speak those words to your life and situations.I await your testimonies in Jesus name amen.

Congratulations to all those celebrating their anniversaries, birthdays etc this month, may God prosper you all in Jesus name amen.

Testimony - I got a wonderful message that gladdened my heart a couple of days back, a dear sister shared on how she read the message for September, and the prayer on recovering all on this blog and indeed, God restored all she had lost including bringing a dear brother her way..she is altar bound and i am so happy that the word of God works wonders..you are next in line for a miracle in Jesus name amen.

SEPTEMBER 2010 - OUR MONTH OF PLEASANT SURPRISES & POSSESSING OUR POSSESSION

2010-09-06T04:46:00.000-07:00

Happy new month, to everyone of us. Welcome to your month of birthing of new things. As we are aware, its the 9th month of the year and we know that for a woman, the 9th month of a pregnancy means its time for delivery .. This 9th month, we shall deliver our dreams and visions alive in Jesus name amen.

As i was praying about the theme for the month, what i got was a month of possessing our possessions and pleasant surprises. The scriptures for the month are Psalm 16 vs 6 and Isaiah 61 vs 7. I was in a meeting after getting this and my Pastor said same thing and added that its our month of Congratulations...So i declare to you that this shall be a month of expansion without limit for us all, its our month of sowing and reaping, its our month of Rehoboth according to Genesis 26 vs 22.

This month to get the full benefit of what God has in store, we must seek Him with all our hearts, He must be top priority in our lives and as we do so, all that we need will be provided for us as the earth is the Lord's and the fullness thereof. Have a fruitful month and congratulations as God will remember you for good this September.

Do you know - Isaac was blessed because he obeyed the Lord ? Read Genesis 26 - 1-33. May God bless us beyond our imaginations this season.

Prayer points - Pray and thank God for making you see this 9th month, thank Him for your family , loved ones and business.

Pray using the scriptures above that God will expand you and help you possess double portion in all you do.

Pray that all you have lost the past months will be restored in Jesus name amen.

Pray and draw the blood line over your family and all that concerns you, this "ember months" will favor you, no evil news and report will come near you in Jesus name. Read Psalm 91 and declare the words over you and your family.

Action- This month must be a month of getting closer to God, read your bible and pray everyday. Ask God to show you great and mighty things this month. Jeremiah 33 vs 3.

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month, may God bless you all greatly in Jesus name amen.

SAYING GOODBYE TO AUGUST 2010

2010-08-30T14:48:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone, i trust we have been doing great..I bless God for all our lives; that we can read this means God has been faithful in keeping us alive.

For me, its been a month of mixed feelings..i have had days of joy and days of sorrow..some days ago, i heard of the death of a dear sister, i was still pained and asking God why ?, only for me to get a call that a dear friend and prayer partner's husband just passed on..

August 20th was a painful day for me...i still can not believe my dear neighbor is gone at age 39 with just a few days to his seven years wedding anniversary, leaving behind a beautiful wife and two lovely children...I was at his funeral on the 27th of August and i listened to all that was said about him...He was a good man, a supportive brother and friend, a great husband and father, he was slow to anger..words flowed as well as tears..and all i could say was thank God he was truly born again, he served God and humanity...and is now one of the cloud of witnesses above. Hallelujah!

My big question today is what do we need to do to live better lives with eternity in view ?..for most of us, its to get born again, for some its to rededicate our lives and stop playing church, for some its to take our commitment to our spouses to another level, others, be a better child to our parents and be better people...

As we say goodbye to the month of August..i pray that God will answer our prayers and make us better people, prepared always and doing things with eternity in view. God help us all.

Do you know - The bible says in all things we should give thanks to God..1 Thessalonians 5:18

Prayer points- Ask God to create in you a clean heart and renew a right spirit within you.

Ask for the grace to praise God in all situations.

Pray that God will keep you and yours according to Psalm 91

Pray for all those going through tough times..those that lost their jobs, lost their dear ones, those sick in the hospital etc..

Pray that God will do special miracles in all our lives and that the blessings of this month must be our portion as the month ends.

Action - Read Psalm 116 and pray with the words there as God ministers to you. God bless us all always.

RELAX AND LAUGH FOR GOD IS IN CONTROL

2010-08-12T16:22:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone, i trust we are all doing great. God has indeed been faithful to me, He has proven to me that He is a prayer answering God. I have experienced His faithfulness and goodness in so many ways and all i can say is "Thank You Lord". If He has been good to you, kindly share your testimony and encourage others.

There is a scripture i love so much, its Psalm 2 vs 1 - 4, vs 4a talks about God sitting in heaven and laughing..anytime i see this passage i get excited knowing that God laughs! In this passage He laughs at the enemies on our behalf. I bet Satan as usual has tried so many gimmicks in trying to discourage us, when we get frustrated he laughs, but when we know that we are the ones to be laughing at him, he runs away..This season i want us to take time to laugh at the pranks of the devil, he is a defeated fool and will remain so. We are overcomers by the blood of the lamb and the words of our testimony, Revelation 12 vs 11a. Do not let the devil have the upper hand..laugh at him and see him scamper away like the defeated fool that he is.

Do you know: That God has invested too much in you to watch your life go to waste? if He could send His son to die for you, you are worth every drop of blood that Jesus Christ shared on the cross.Galatians 3 - 13. Galatians 4 - 4 -7.

Prayer point - Pray that your life and that of your family will not be wasted in Jesus name amen.(Your anchor scripture is Psalm 91)
Pray that every accusation from the pit of hell against you and your family. be silenced right now in Jesus name amen.(Your anchor scripture is Psalm 64)
Pray that your joy shall be full and you will not be discouraged, instead like David in 1 Samuel 30 vs 6b, you will encourage yourself and recover all the devil has taken from you(Read 1 Samuel 30 vs 8, 18 and 19).

God bless us all and may His face continue to shine upon us all in Jesus name amen."

Note - Take out time and visit my laughter blog..its www.bridget-elesin-laughs.blogspot.com
I started this blog as i heard God say to me "Bridget Elesin laughs just as God laughs and He gave me the scripture Psalm 2. I have studied it and also got confirmation that indeed God laughs! Its your turn to laugh!

AUGUST 2010 - OUR MONTH OF OVERCOMING AND TESTIFYING

2010-08-03T16:42:00.000-07:00

Happy month of new beginning to us all, this is the eight month of the year and indeed i feel so blessed, that i have made it through seven months and more blessed knowing we are all here despite all the challenging situations we have had in the past months.

This month, started on a powerful note as i woke up in an unusual mode on the first day of the month, as i was asking myself what the theme for the month would be , Revelation 12 - 11a dropped in my spirit. I went to church not being clear about it but by the time i heard my Pastor declaring the month as a month of thanksgiving, it finally dawned on me why it was a month to overcome and testify...Wow, i am so excited as indeed the month is loaded with God's goodness and answers to our prayers...

Let me share this two testimonies to buttress my point that August is a month to testify indeed...The first testimony is a personal one; i got instant answers to a prayer i said almost casually. God heard and answered..what that taught me is the fact that this month, every little detail of our lives, if we commit it to God in prayers, He will answer speedily! Hallelujah !

The second testimony is a friend's testimony and she sent a message to me, a couple of days saying she is fulfilled and she thanked God for the prophetic call on my life...i was stunned because we had prayed and i made some declarations that came to pass exactly as i said it, and beloved, her testimony is a testimony that ended an unusual delay in her life..so this month, no matter how long that problem has persisted..i am here to tell you, it expires this month as God is giving you a new beginning..behold He is doing a new thing and you will see it and those around you will see it and know that God is God by Himself ! Somebody give God some real praise!!! Hallelujah!!

My Prayer for us this month is that we will sing God's praises and tell of His goodness all through this month as the siege is over! i declare to you prophetically that you can not be cursed, your family can not be cursed and no divination or enchantment against you and yours according to Numbers 23 - 8 and 23.

Do you know - That Revelations 12 - 11a says "They overcame him by blood of Lamb and by the word of their testimony".

Prayer points - Thank God for another new month, ask Him to make you testify compulsorily this month in Jesus name amen

Ask God to begin a new thing in your life, using Isaiah 43 - 19. Ask Him to give you the heart to praise Him all through this month in Jesus name amen

Action - Its time to get into the Bible/Word of God and start claiming the promises of God concerning your life, believe God's words, start seeing the picture of the great things He will do in your life this season and start giving Him praise in advance..I await your testimonies in Jesus name amen

Note - Congratulations to everyone celebrating this season, may God's goodness and mercy overshadow you this season and always.

PERSISTING IN PRAYERS

2010-07-19T17:32:00.000-07:00

Happy new week everyone, may this be our week of answers to our prayers in Jesus name amen.

I was reading a devotional message sent to me by a friend recently that spoke about praying and asking anything in His name and it will be done for us by God...as one who has seen some prayers go unanswered, i was having some private conversations in my head..ye, you are right!!, this was said in my head sarcastically, and then i started my questionings with God; if you said so, why are we not getting answers to so many prayers, why are we being left frustrated with nothing to show for our fasting and prayers..boy, sometimes you need to see me in my dialogue with God..hey, He is ever merciful and tolerant..i went on and on and God graciously led me to Luke 18 - 1- 8..its some verses of scripture worth reading and the message was clear...

1. Pray and not faint
2. Keep praying and going to God in prayer
3. Trouble God if need be
4. Cry unto God day and night
5. Pray until something happens in your favor
6.Pray, until God answers you speedily
7. Pray with Faith, knowing, though what you are asking for may tarry, it will surely come.

I left my prayer place with a new understanding of what persistence means...

Do you Know - Persistence means the act of persisting...we must persist in prayer until we get our answers, God is a good and just God unlike the unjust Judge.

Prayer Point - That God will help us to pray without ceasing.
Pray, that God will help build your faith in Him no matter how small, so He can move mountains on your behalf
Pray that you will persist in doing good, in sowing seeds and doing all that will create the atmosphere for your breakthroughs in Jesus name amen.

May God help us all in Jesus name to pray and not faint.

Action - Read Luke 11 - 1- 13 and meditate on it, also read Mark 11- 24..Keep praying until you share your testimony.

WAITING FOR GOD'S TIME

2010-07-16T23:05:00.000-07:00

Happy mid month to us all, i trust we are all doing great.May the remaining days of this month be glorious for us all in Jesus name amen.

I was at a prayer meeting recently and i was sharing an article i had read from the Proverbs 31 Ministries about timing; the writer of the article spoke about how her parents got her a car when she turned 18 , and thinking of it, she said, that car meant independence of some sort for her at that time, but if this same car had been given to her at age 6, it would probably have ruined her. After i shared this, one of my praying partner also shared this about waiting, saying he had been on the waiting issue for some time; some times, he is discouraged but eventually, waiting for God's time pays just as a farmer from planting different crops at a particular time waits patiently for harvest. So there is a sowing period, then the waiting period and harvest eventually.

To take an example from the bible, David as a young man, was anointed to be King but it took him years to ascend the throne. I am sure many of us would have tried doing things our way, if we were David, but no, David waited for his time and became King eventually.

This season, i believe we should learn to wait on God as the bible says in Isaiah 40 vs 31; Those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength, they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary and they shall walk and not faint.

God wants us to wait and trust Him more, we must know that we are not fast food Christians, if some of us get some of the things we are asking God for now, it may stop us from serving God or even kill us, God forbid. May God give us the grace to wait for His time, like Abraham, Ruth, Elizabeth and even Esther the queen.

Do you know...The bible says at the right time or at the fullness of time, Elizabeth had a child. Luke 1 - 57 and in 58, those that heard her story rejoiced with her.

Lets know that it takes different crops time to grow and reach maturity, those that plant corn can eat it within months unlike those that plant orange, mango or palm trees.

Prayer Point - Ask God to give us grace to wait on Him indeed. Lets ask Him to grant us the fruit of the spirit that is long suffering. Lets pray that our helpers of destiny will come to our help on time in Jesus name amen.

Action - Learn to praise God as you wait, the waiting period is our growth period, so lets learn to grow up happily.

God bless us all as we wait upon the Lord.

A HUSBAND FROM THE BIBLE- GETTING ENGAGED GOD'S WAY ! PT 1

2010-07-09T16:00:00.001-07:00

This is a two part series from a dear friend and sister in Christ; Joyce Adedayo Adams, who has so graciously given me the permission to share this uncommon truth here. Its a two part series but a note worth reading especially by those trusting God for a spouse..now someone wont accuse me am for always writing for "Next Generation of Fathers"...Lol. Its a long note but very inspiring and thought provoking! Kindly read and leave your comments.

JOSEPH
Mat 1:18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost.
Mat 1:19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a publick example, was minded to put her away privily.
Mat 1:24 Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife:

ABRAHAM
Gen 17:5 Neither shall thy name any more be called Abram, but thy name shall be Abraham; for a father of many nations have I made thee.
Gen 18:19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.
Gen 18:23 And Abraham drew near, and said, Wilt thou also destroy the righteous with the wicked?
Gen 22:3 And Abraham rose up early in the morning, and saddled his ass, and took two of his young men with him, and Isaac his son, and clave the wood for the burnt offering, and rose up, and went unto the place of which God had told him.

BOAZ
Rth 2:1 And Naomi had a kinsman of her husband's, a mighty man of wealth, of the family of Elimelech; and his name was Boaz.
Rth 2:3 And she went, and came, and gleaned in the field after the reapers: and her hap was to light on a part of the field belonging unto Boaz, who was of the kindred of Elimelech.
Rth 2:11 And Boaz answered and said unto her, It hath fully been shewed me, all that thou hast done unto thy mother in law since the death of thine husband: and how thou hast left thy father and thy mother, and the land of thy nativity, and art come unto a people which thou knewest not heretofore.
Rth 2:12 The LORD recompense thy work, and a full reward be given thee of the LORD God of Israel, under whose wings thou art come to trust.
Rth 2:13 Then she said, Let me find favour in thy sight, my lord; for that thou hast comforted me, and for that thou hast spoken friendly unto thine handmaid, though I be not like unto one of thine handmaidens.
Rth 2:14 And Boaz said unto her, At mealtime come thou hither, and eat of the bread, and dip thy morsel in the vinegar. And she sat beside the reapers: and he reached her parched corn, and she did eat, and was sufficed, and left.
Rth 2:15 And when she was risen up to glean, Boaz commanded his young men, saying, Let her glean even among the sheaves, and reproach her not:
Rth 2:16 And let fall also some of the handfuls of purpose for her, and leave them, that she may glean them, and rebuke her not.

My sisters, I had to lay the foundation to my article hence the scriptures outline. Do bear with me, we will land very shortly!

I was listening to a message by Bishop David Oyedepo (a man I love and respect enormously) on how the Holy Spirit reveals the mind of God to His children, so my mind just wondered mildly, Lord, what is your will for single women who love you and sort of relationship or marital destiny do you have in store for them? Whoosh! Like a movie in a five second fast-forward, these men I listed above flashed through my mind. I went quiet and got the full gist from the teacher Himself. How many of us (me included) go to the bible when we tender to God the list of the qualities we want in a man? Every woman above the age of 21 knows exactly the kind of man she wants to marry, or at least she has the 10 top qualities she wants in her future husband listed out at this age. My question is: “where did this list come from?” Is it from romance movies or novels; is it from TV shows, or do you ask God to give you a man based on physical attributes only? (Oh believe me, we do!). Have you ever opened the bible and listed all the men who lived their lives for God, pick at least six of them that you identify with and tell God, now these are the qualities I want in my man? Have we ever done this? Let’s be very honest with ourselves. This is a very serious issue. Marriage is one of the most important decisions you will ever make your entire life (the most important being the salvation of your soul).

I cast my mind back to my university days. In our dorm room, we would sit and talk about the type of man we want to marry. The list as far as I can remember goes like this:
1. Tall, dark, rich and handsome (TDRH) First on the list!
2. Then all other qualities can follow!
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing absolutely wrong with TDRH. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Amen. The problem is when we just stop at TDRH and never for once open the bible to read and check out the qualities of the men who fought and won battles for God, then came home to love, cherish and provide for their wives and household.

Let’s go over these four men as it was given to me by the Spirit of God. Don’t limit yourself to these four only, the list is exhaustive. From Genesis to Revelation, there are loads of TDRH, spiritually discerned men you can pick and study his life. There is Daniel, Shadrach, Meschach, Abednego; there is Peter, John, Andrew, there is King David, (Oh yes.. King David..don’t focus on the adultery..rather focus on his good qualities..he is a true worshiper of God and a strong warrior, he is a true friend, he is kind and loves his children..remember also that God called him a man after His own Heart). There’s Samuel, Solomon, Noah, Moses, Joshua, Caleb, Elijah & Elisha and Jacob, who worked liked a slave for fourteen years for Rachel, the list goes on and on.

A HUSBAND FROM THE BIBLE - GETTING ENGAGED GOD'S WAY. PT 2

2010-07-09T15:42:00.000-07:00

This is the concluding part of the note - " A HUSBAND FROM THE BIBLE - GETTING ENGAGED GOD'S WAY BY JOYCE ADEDAYO ADAMS. Happy reading and please kindly leave your comments.

The first man we will examine is Joseph, Mary’s husband – Joseph who the bible calls a just man. In those days in Israel, under the Mosaic Law, if a girl was found pregnant and was not married, she will be stoned to death and her family will be shamed. So when Joseph found out Mary was pregnant, he was supposed to run screaming to the priests. But he just decided within himself to break off their engagement quietly so no one would find out. As he was contemplating the best way he would do this, God’s angel spoke to Him in a dream. Joseph obeyed God and offered love and kindness to Mary without thinking twice! He proved to be a man of men, strong and dependable. He stood as a father, brother, caregiver and a husband for both Mary and her unborn child.

Looking at Joseph with new eyes, I have a witness in my spirit that every single woman who has an issue she wants/ needs covering for should have Joseph listed at the very top of her list not a TDRH. Every woman who has a past, or an issue and needs a husband-defender, you better get on your knees and ask God for a Joseph. Because Joseph will listen to God’s voice and protect you. Joseph will stay with you and help deliver Jesus who he did not father. Joseph will wait till you have fulfilled God’s will (giving birth to Jesus) before asking for his own needs to be met (Oh I feel the Holy Spirit moving on my finger-tips as I type!!) Your prayer night and day should be Lord, like you found Joseph for Mary, who stood by her and protected her from untimely death and covered her up, I ask and trust that you will also provide a Joseph for me as well. Joseph is kind, gentle; strong and dependable. He is a provider and he is matured to a very high degree. Joseph has got a very healthy dose of self-control. According to bible history, he did not touch Mary sexually until she had weaned Jesus. Now is that a husband material or what! Tell me something I don’t know sisters.

Next is Abraham, faithful Abraham, God’s friend. You know if Sarah had not offered Hagar to him, he most probably would never have impregnated another woman! And he had every means and every opportunity to. He was very wealthy. He could have any woman he wanted. But he practically worshipped the ground on which Sarah walked on, barren or not. When Sarah says jump, he says how high? (Lol!) Sarah says sleep with Hagar, he did. Sarah says Hagar insulted me, Abraham says “slap the insolence out of her (hahahahaha!!)”. This is Hagar who is pregnant with the child he has been waiting for all his life, yet because SARAH was not happy, he told her to treat Hagar anyway she wanted. The bible says he told Sarah – she is your maid, not my wife! Sarah says banish Hagar and her son, at first, he hesitated, then Sarah got God to back her up, he did! He just loved Sarah to bits. Abraham is rock solid faithful, dependable and wait for it is coming, he is TALL DARK RICH AND HANDSOME (TDRH). He had every opportunity to forsake Sarah, especially after fathering Ishmael but he didn’t. He was stuck to her like everlasting super-glue. Oh.. are you still sitting reading this? You have not yet hit the floor and call forth your Abraham wherever he is? You know, most women don’t like their husbands talking with other women. But there are some women who can’t even stand the thought of their husbands being with someone else except them. Don’t worry. God feels you. He will provide you with your very own Abraham who will love you more than anything. Abraham will look at your ninety-year old body and still call you his sweet sixteen. (Ok ..some theology here now...I believe when God changed their Abraham and Sarah's names, their bodies also metamorphosed into younger bodies. The thought of a 100 yr-old man and a 90 yr-old woman making love is simply eeeeeeeuuuwwww!!)

And now, for my favourite husband in the bible, Boaz. The bible says Boaz is a mighty man of wealth..hmm..we like..another Tall, Dark, Rich and Handsome! What I love about this marriage is how God orchestrated their meeting and brought them together. In the first place, it would have been very awkward for Boaz, who is a very wealthy man, a man of stature and repute in the city to propose to a Moabite widow girl who just came into town (You know the Israelites can be very snobbish about preserving their culture and heritage! Mixed marriages were severely frowned upon). So now, Ruth went scavenging for food (Oh yes..Boaz found her hard at work, bent down in the most undignified position ever, picking up droppings of food from his field. He didn’t see her in a designer suit and heels, make-up all done, everything in place. He found her practically begging for food and from that minute, the Spirit of God started moving. God showed me a sneak preview of what happened here. Do you remember how Adam started blessing Eve the moment he set eyes on her? Come on now! That was exactly what happened when Boaz set his eyes on Ruth. If you read from Ruth 2: 8-13, oh..the guy prayed and blessed Ruth as if he was the chief priest himself! Secondly, Boaz happened to be a kinsman to Elimelech, so by law, he is actually doing a good deed and preserving the seed of the dead by marrying Ruth. End of story!

The story of Boaz and Ruth has a very important significance especially for women who have moved to trust God in one way or the other. By so doing, they honoured God and God will surely move and honour them in a biggest way possible! Ruth trusted in a God that seemed to have abandoned her mother-in-law. She left her familiar surroundings and followed her mother-in-law to unfamiliar terrain. The minute she told her mother-in-law in Ruth1: 16 – 17 “ Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the LORD do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me"; God was stirred up and He went ahead of her and prepared a place for her in Boaz’s home. All she went out to look for was food for herself and her mother-in-law. She came back married to probably the wealthiest man in town! (OK OK..it didn’t exactly happen that fast, but you get my drift!).

So dear sister, whip out your bible and go looking for a husband between those pages. Who says you can’t find a husband in the bible? Every book of the bible must have one. If you want a King, pick your choice from David, Solomon, King Ahasuerus (Esther’s husband). If you want a wise man, you can have your pick from King Solomon, Daniel, Paul, Abraham, Jacob. If you want a father, brother, friend and husband all-in-one, pick Joseph. If you want your husband to pant after your love, pick from Abraham and Jacob. If you want a strong man, Joshua and Caleb. The list is exhaustive. You can make it as long as you want. Start from Genesis down to Revelations. Ask the Holy Spirit to help as you search the scriptures regarding this very important part of your life.

And remember, we are not to go out looking for him ourselves physically. Our duty here is search the scriptures diligently, make a list, tender it before God and leave the rest up to Him. He will position us in such a way that it will be a perfect work. Look at what He did for Ruth..my goodness! She wasn’t dressed to impress or anything, she was just going about her own business, looking for what to eat.

This is a very resourceful tool/exercise for women’s bible study groups, women’s cell groups etc. Please feel very free to share and pass along. Freely have we received, freely give.

I would love to hear from you! Please send me your comments and whatever lists you came up with for what man in the bible so I can add to my research. Email address is: joycea75@gmail.com

TIME TO PRAY

2010-07-06T05:50:00.000-07:00

Hello all, i trust that we all had a great week. May God bless this new week and cause His face to shine upon us all.

I have been meaning to send a message for us to pray and wait on God by fasting for at least three days this week, just to set ourselves up for the glorious things God has set to bless us with this second half of the month... I was still thinking about it when i had a dream this night and in it, i saw three people that are all living abroad, i can not share the details here but i know its time to pray and the main prayer point is to pray against delay...every form of delay of our breakthroughs and miracles must be dealt with now... I do not know how many of you are trusting God for things in your marriage, in your workplace, ministry etc and it seems the things are not forth coming despite your prayers/fast..right now, you are beginning to believe God has gone on vacation and left you to suffer..My dear, i am here to announce to you that God has answered you and you must not give up until you receive that miracle...and its now! as God is set to bring restoration and rest to you. Give it one more shot..Pray and Praise God, He is able.

Do you know - Daniel prayed in the book of Daniel but his prayers got delayed by the prince of Persia in Daniel 10-13. Kindly read the whole book of Daniel and see how God was with Daniel and saw him through all he went through. Know this, you are not alone, God is still alive to hasten His words to perform in your life.

Prayer point - Ask God for His mercy and His grace even at this time. Ask Him to fulfill all He has said concerning you, pray against every form of delay..even the bible says hope deferred makes the heart sick..Tell God that your expectations shall not be cut off in Jesus name amen.

Note - We must take time this week to study and pray for ourselves and family. The devil is going about as a roaring lion but God is the Lion of the tribe of Judah, God is the one in charge of your life and so He has the final say.

Remember the shadow of a dog can not bite..call the devil's bluff and trust God for your miracle.God is able, faithful and dependable. God bless us all.

Congratulations to everyone celebrating this month. May God smile on you all now and forever.

JULY - OUR MONTH FOR THE ANOINTING OF THE OIL OF GLADNESS

2010-07-05T13:46:00.000-07:00

This month is a month for the anointing of the oil of gladness and Psalm 23 and Psalm 89-20-29 will be our portion this season. God will cause a restoration of all our redemptive blessings as we trust Him to be our Shepherd this month. Welcome to your month of perfection which the number 7 stands for as God will surely perfect all that concern us.

Do you know: that God's grace and mercy makes all the difference in the life of a person..David in the bible is a testimony of this truth.

Prayer points : Lets ask God for fresh fire upon our lives. Lets pray that we will not be wasted this season and forever and above all, lets ask Him for His mercy and His grace upon our lives, families, businesses in Jesus name amen etc.

Note 1 - Congratulations to all those celebrating this month. May God fill your mouths with laughter this season and always.

Note 2 - Lets take time to wait on God and to pray concerning this second half of the year. May God help us all in Jesus name amen

GOING BACK MEMORY LANE IN YOUR MARRIAGE

2010-06-24T09:49:00.000-07:00

I trust we are all having a great mid week, may God cause our paths to be blessed plus shine brighter and brighter this season in Jesus name amen.

With my seven years wedding anniversary, came thoughts of how far my dear husband and i have come in this divine institution called marriage... i remember the first time, he came visiting me in Benin city where i grew up, i had to give him transport fare back home...lol, we still laugh about it till today. I remember his proposal, how he had to borrow his Boss's car to take me out to the beach for a date and while we were on our way to the beach, he outlined where he was going in life and asked me if i see myself in the picture..what a proposal! lol, though he later got on his knees at the beach, for me, the real proposal was our talk and the picture he painted.

I remember with joy, how we use to celebrate our anniversary every 14th of the month, ( we got married on the 14th of June) our dates together was so much fun, we talked plus appraised our relationship and then end up with our special session, where we tell ourselves five things we love about each other plus want to see continue and five things we do not like and will want to see changed. This was always a time for truth talk; saying things the way they really are, that and so many little things, we do for each have been part of what has made my marriage very interesting. Mind you, we have had our challenges, but we have always been advocates for advance forgiveness, so we always ended up attacking the event that is a challenge and not the person or ourselves..well, i do attack his person sometimes...hahahahaha, that's when i want to fight unfair! (Its not a good way to fight, always attack the event and not the person, that's how to fight fair).

Honestly, we are not where we want to be in our marriage relationship but we are not where we used to be, we have grown together, depending on God and ourselves to move forward in all areas of our lives. We so look forward to the days and years ahead and we trust the God that we serve who is able to do exceedingly abundantly more than we can ever think or ask of Him to take us to His intended destination for us.

My aim of sharing this is for us all to take a look at our own marriage and appreciate where we are all coming from and how faithful God has been..God is worthy to be praised in our lives indeed!

Do you know...We are meant to communicate, cooperate, plus complement each other in our marriages and not compete ? Lets invest our time, self, money to make our marriages another Garden of Eden on earth.

Prayer point..Lord, i thank you for my spouse or my future spouse, thank you for how far you have brought us and thank you for where you are taking us to. Help us to love each other unconditionally and submit ourselves one to another in Jesus name amen. Pray Proverbs 5 - 18 - 19 now and always.

Action point - Take your spouse out on a well deserved date and just talk about why you love him/her plus try the five things session; say the five things you love about him/her, that you want to see continue and five things, you think he/she should improve on or change...do it this way..you say the first thing, you love and she says hers and then you say what you do not like and she says hers... (my husband is fond of cheating on this as i do most of the talking saying all my five without him completing his!), lol!

Note - Thanks to all those sending comments on facebook and yahoo to encourage me, God bless you all. A dear mentor of mine sent a message and i was overjoyed, because when those you respect start saying you are a blessing to your generation, then that means you are doing something right! lol.

Find above our picture taken seven years ago during our honeymoon at Obudu Cattle ranch.

OUR COMMON GROUND

2010-06-22T05:45:00.000-07:00

Hello all, Happy belated fathers day to all fathers and the future fathers out here, may God grant you all the wisdom to be fathers just like Him.

Its good to be back here, with so many messages to write on, i will like to start with my own story...Last week Monday 14th June was exactly seven years i got married to my dear husband who i choose to call my most favorite person in the world !

Its been seven wonderful, interesting and challenging years but through it all, God has been faithful. We have had our ups and downs, we have had moments, i am sure we have both questioned our marriage relationship but the bottom line for us has been our hope plus trust in God and the truth that our marriage is forever and we must work at it daily to be what we desire it to be.

We took out time last weekend to reappraise ourselves and how we are doing, and the bottom line was the need to step up our game in all aspect of our lives; which includes our time with God and prayer life, our relationship with each other and our children etc.

For us our common ground in our marriage has always been the God factor and the ability to communicate without pretense, telling ourselves the truth, no matter how much it hurts! we had that opportunity to really listen to ourselves as well as plan for the years ahead. This season for us is a season of true partnership, as we will need each other to face the years ahead and our prayer is that God that ordained marriage and brought us together will see us through the next seven years and all the years ahead of us in Jesus name amen.

So my question to all those of us that are married is what is our common ground ?...

What was it, you saw in your spouse at first that made you go all out forsaking all others..for some, it was the looks, good manners, style of dressing, love for God, for those that were not in Christ before they got married, and were already experimenting with each other, it was the great sex! (I do not subscribe to premarital sex for so many reasons, but that's a story for another day for the singles! lol). For many people, it was the person's outlook to life, their being humorous, selfless, talkative, sure of themselves and for many others, it was the cooking and food! hahahaha and my other question will be how have we used our common ground to improve our relationship ?

Many of us that are going through challenging times in our marriages and even on the brink of divorce have forgotten all about our common ground...that same man or woman you could not sleep without seeing or speaking to, is the same person you can not stand their sight now...May God help us to make things right in our lives and homes in Jesus name amen.

Do You know ...Communication is to marriage, what blood is to the human body? Let us all learn to communicate with our spouses as good communication will help us stay on common ground to keep our marriages going stronger.

Prayer point..Ask God that ordained marriage to help your marriage be what He destined it to be right from the foundations of the earth. Ask God to help you and your spouse see the good in each other and encourage yourselves in the Lord always.

Action Point... Start appreciating each other from today, call your spouse from time to time and just tell them how much you miss and love them, for the men, learn to listen to your wife daily, even if its for 15 minutes every day and for us wives, learn to ask your husband how you can help him, as he speaks to you, learn to pray with him and for him concerning the issues affecting him. God help us all.

Note - I await your comments and thanks to everyone that has been sending messages to encourage all i do here, you are all truly appreciated...guess what ? my highest comments so far has been on the topic" unlimited sex" ! wow..we need to talk more on it... lol ! God bless us all.

Join the group - Next Generation of Fathers on Facebook...most of my posts here come from the weekly messages i send to the group members..be part of what God is doing in the lives of our men and the women that love them.Kindly join and invite your friends to join, my desire is to see the men of this generation be all God has destined them to be and to pass on Godly traits to the men/fathers of the next generation!

WORLD CUP FEVER

2010-06-16T13:56:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone, how have we all been, especially the women in the house...with the world cup i am sure most of us that are married or in a committed relationship will feel neglected by our men..what, with the world cup and all the jabulani balls and vuvuzela horns! lol

For me, its been a time to relive my childhood. My dad was and is still a football fan unlike my dear husband who just watches any match when he sees a match going on..i am silently happy that my husband is not a football fan like my dad but a bit sad that i can not share those precious moments all fans share with their co- fans! lol

Being the first child with two boys immediately after me, i grew up doing all the boys stuff and watching matches, i use to wait up to watch live matches that were fixed late at night, i knew almost all the names of the Nigerians plus International footballers and the various clubs they were playing for, i used to buy Complete football magazine without thinking twice about the price and could hold any conversation with guys on football and other sports.

I saw then my dad and his friends take pain killers for a match they will not be paid for...this is so hilarious, they have headaches when their clubs are losing and sometimes end up taking Panadol, ( a brand of pain relief medicine found in Nigeria)...with me faithfully serving them water and the panadol with an inner smile of ...why are you taking pain killer for another person's headache? lol..

My intense love for football and other sports came to an end when we had the USA 94 match and Nigeria was beaten by Italy, ...boy, i cried my eyes out and refused to participate in our family devotion that evening, saying God was wicked to have allowed Nigeria to lose the match. I went to sleep angry and the next day, i woke up with my mum asking me what business i had with the footballers that made me to miss our family devotion..i cannot remember the answer i gave her but i was consoled when my dad's friend came to the house later and said it was a good thing the Italians won as they would have slaughtered all Nigerians in Italy! hahahahaha and guess what ? i believed him and was saying thank God for that! how naive i was to believe such a story!lol

Well the reason for sharing this, is that the world cup should not be our number one priority this next three weeks, especially when we are not known sponsors that have business to do with FIFA and the world cup! lol. Remember your fellowship with God and your family is very important. Enjoy the world cup and enjoy your fellowship with those that matter most in your life.

Note - Ladies, use this time to bond with your husband by getting involved with what is happening with the teams at the world cup, you will enjoy your husband's company as well as get to celebrate later when his team wins! wink , wink! lol, if they lose, you can still comfort them lovingly! hahahahaha

Do you know - Romans 8- 35a, says who shall separate us from the love of Christ ? verse 8-39b "says not any other thing created shall separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord". ( How some verses of the scripture make sense just when you need them! lol)

Prayer Point - Pray that nothing will take the place of God in your life and ask God to help you manage your time, so that you will give priority to the very important things in your life.

Action - Lets learn to balance the various aspect of our lives so that nothing suffers.

Note - I will be posting a note on the world cup on the NextGeneration of Fathers discussion page on Facebook, its hilarious but at the same time thought provoking...All ladies in the house, its a must read for you this world cup season. hahahahaha.

PROOF OF LIFE

2010-06-10T09:42:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone, i trust our week has been great so far, may God continue to make our days ahead better, brighter and cause our expectations to manifest according to His perfect will in Jesus name amen.

I stumbled on a Nigerian movie three days ago with the title above and after watching the movie, mid way to the end, i decided to share the story here. It was acted by Sunny Neji, one of my favorite Nigerian male vocalist, Rita Dominic, Kanayo.O.Kanayo and other Nigerian Nollywood actors.

The story was about a man married with two kids that loved his extended family and would go to any length to help and satisfy them to the detriment of his own family, after some time to prove the love of his family members, he arranged his own death without the knowledge of his wife, just to see how his family members will care for his family when he is gone...The final gist ; he discovered to his pain and amazement that his extended family did not care about his family at all and could not even use the money he left in trust for them to take care of his children and wife. He eventually revealed himself after he had tested each of his family members that he helped and they failed the test by their uncaring actions to his family.

This story brought to my mind, so many women that have lost their husbands and today are suffering as their husbands' relatives are either fighting them for their late husbands' properties or they could care less how they and their children survive... its a wicked world we live in and my sincere advice is that men should know that its one life to live and we must all live it well, lets learn to put things in place for our immediate family, i am not against helping people but please do not end up as the helper of outsiders while you leave your family helpless.

As a husband and father, do the following :
1. Learn to save for rainy days, invest, plus open educational accounts in your children's names and also invest in properties with your spouse name as co- owner.

2. Get a lawyer and write down your will, (This does not mean you are dying soon, but just to be prepared like the boys scout motto! lol ).

3. Spend quality time with those that will miss you most when you are gone and please make your life on earth count as there is life after death.

My advice to us all is
1. To do as we would be done by, spare time for those that are bereaved, help the widows and even widowers around you.
2. Lets not be friends in words and be all over a man when he is alive, but when he passes on, leave his family to suffer. May God help us all to be wise and to do right at all times. God bless us.

Do you know - Matthew 10 - 36 says a man's enemies will be those of his own household ?

Prayer point - Ask that God will help you to live your life with eternity in view, pray that God will save you from unfriendly friends and relatives in Jesus name amen. Ask God to teach you to number your days, so you continuously apply your heart to wisdom (Psalm 90 - 12).

Action - Take out time and prayerfully read Micah 7.
Learn to share things with your wife..I know some African men still believe that when their wives know all their investments they will be more demanding and even plan to kill them while some are are afraid to write a will because of this.
Please lets know that these thoughts are not true and remember that when you are friends/partner with your spouse, you are better off eventually.God help us all.

Note - Thanks to all those that responded to the message on "unlimited sex"...someone said we should also tell the women to say sweet words and buy gifts for their husbands..so wives over to you. lol

UNLIMITED SEX

2010-06-07T08:22:00.000-07:00

What a topic on a monday morning, i just had to write about it...being my usual self and an advocate for Godly and strong marriages that are built on God's words, communication, trust, mutual respect, unconditional love and all it takes to make our marriages what God has destined it.

I got the title of the message from a tape i was listening to on marriage and the speaker spoke on what men need and he mentioned unlimited sex and i was like ye, you are right! lol,

If the truth be told, i am in support of unlimited sex with your spouse, who wouldn't be ?, frolicking , relaxed and enjoying the husband/wife of your youth...but is it as simple as that ?

Check out this scenario from a woman's perspective... You go to work in the morning, after doing your household chores, getting your children prepared for school and dropping them off, while your husband gets himself ready and goes to work. You get home about the same time and you continue with a thousand and one things while Mr.Husband sits and waits for his food, after that, he goes to bed while you clean up and get ready for the next day. You finally drag yourself to bed and voila Mr.Husband suddenly becomes active after playing the role of an inactive person throughout the day! lol... A tired wife if the truth be told will not be the best partner in bed... but reverse the scenario and be the Mr. Husband that helps her out with the children in the morning, call plus text during the day and by the time you get home, you help her in getting the children prepared for bed while she cooks, as you do this, you bond and finally after dinner, you can both have a relaxing bath together and unlimited sex can truly be unlimited! hahahahaha...

This picture painted here is what happens in most homes, most of our men , leave everything to the woman and you still expect her to look her best and be a tigress in bed, that my dear is not possible...lets learn to help our spouse in the house from time to time and watch how our intimate life will be transformed from limited sex to unlimited sex!

I believe i speak for most wives when i say this, most women are doing too much for themselves, their family and friends and they leave themselves at the bottom of their to do list...tired and worn out, they can not fulfill their role of being mothers and wives because they are too tired from doing so much for everyone...i have heard so many fathers, telling their children to go meet their mum and leave them alone, as if the mother is the only parent they have..please lets know that your wife is help meet suitable, meaning she came to help and not for you to leave the work to her like Adam did, leaving Eve to herself! lol (My personal opinion about how Eve fell, was because Adam left her to herself). May God help us all to be there to bring out the best in each other in Jesus name amen.

Do you know - Genesis 2 - 18 says; God said, its not good for man to be alone, i will make him a helper comparable to him. So we are to help what you are doing, and its working together, in all ways as one because God has said its not good that you be alone!

Prayer point - God help my home to be what you want it to be...a home where the husband will be like Christ, that gave Himself for us and the wife will be submissive plus be a help meet indeed. Dear God help us to communicate our needs to each other in love and let Love reign supreme in our midst in Jesus name amen.

Action - As wives, we should know that love making is part of the marriage covenant, so we should ask God for the grace to fulfill our marital obligations. Husbands encourage your wives in this aspect by being nice to her, helping her at home from time to time, speaking words of love and encouragement to her plus buying her gifts. God will help us all in Jesus name amen.

I await testimonies in Jesus name as we enter this new week of opportunities and favor. God bless us all.

MY THOUGHTS ON MARRIAGE

2010-06-04T07:42:00.000-07:00

Happy weekend to us all. I trust we are all doing great.
I have been burdened lately about marriages especially when i read that the former United States Vice - President Al Gore and his wife Tipper were separating after 40 years of marriage..I was stunned, this was after a rude shock about the proposed divorce of a well known TV Evangelist, whose wife had filed for divorce after 30 years of marriage, and my question is why after all these years, when where they are going to, is closer than where they are coming from? ...Will we ever have life time marriages in this generation at this rate ?...

So many questions but my answers lies in the tongue and teeth model.. Have you ever seen the tongue running out of the month because the teeth bit it ? The tongue remains for them to work together and chew, so the body can get food to keep going...

God created Marriage as a life time commitment. He created it for our good and He expects us to work at it daily. So lets learn to walk the talk by taking these few points to heart;

1.Love your spouses unconditionally.

2.Forgive him/her in advance just as Christ forgave us by dying for us while we were yet sinners.

3.Learn to deal with unpleasant events instead of attacking your spouse when they go wrong. Learn to affirm your spouse and appreciate them.

4. Lets learn to create experiences that will increase our love for each other..i.e date nights, sharing common interest, laughing together.

5. We must above all put God first in all we do, He is the only one that can help us do all things and make impossible situations in our marriages possible.

Do you Know..Love is a key factor in marriage and true love is kind, forgives and does not take account of wrong doing...Read 1 Corinthians 13 in the Message bible translation.

Prayer Point - Dear Lord, help me to see marriage the way you see it. Help me to be the kind of husband/wife you want me to be for my spouse. Give me dear Lord the capacity to love my spouse even as Christ loves the church. Help us to submit one to another.

Action - I recommend the film" Fire proof" to all married couples and those intending to get married. If you have friends, get the movie and organise a couples movie day out, watch the movie and talk about lessons learnt.

If your marriage is going through tough times, reach out to God and ask Him to lead you to Godly Counsellors that will help put you/spouse back on track. For the unmarried, even if you are not Christians, DO NOT MARRY WITHOUT SEEING A MARRIAGE COUNSELLOR (See at least 2, that have the marriage to prove what they do and are real...My husband and i saw over four Counsellors before we got married and we are better for it today).

Learn to do something nice daily for your spouse even if he/she is not appreciative, after some time, they will learn to appreciate.

Learn your spouse's love language and do things that will increase their love bank in your favor.

God help us all to keep our marriages in Jesus name amen, Remember a family that prays together stays together, more than ever we need to pray for our marriages/ourselves.

QUESTION - Kindly help answer this question of why you think Bill and Hillary Clinton are still together despite all the scandals of infidelity on Bill's part...Do you see them as a couple that is walking the talk of keeping their marriage real and together. I await your answers or comments.

JUNE 2010 - OUR MONTH OF DIVINE CHANGE

2010-05-31T16:02:00.000-07:00

I wish us all, a great month of June , our month of change...This is a month we must cry out to God to change our level/status...whatever does not glorify God in our lives, its time to change it.

June is the 6th month and it happens to be the middle of the year where we all need to take stock to see where we are and evaluate where we should be...until we cry out over our unpleasant situations, there will be no change. So many of us are meant to be at the top of the ladder but yet we are at the bottom. Some of us are meant to be doctors but we end up as cleaners in the hospital.. Some of us are due for promotions in different areas of our lives but we are yet to see such promotions while others testify daily of being promoted...

Its time to sit back and check your life and see where you do not measure up in your marriage, career, business, ministry and cry out to God like Jabez did in 1 Chronicles 4 - 9-10. This month is a destiny defining month as we must all rise up and cry to God in prayers until our change comes.

Do you Know - The common mistake we all make is to assume that God is all knowing and all seeing, and so He will bring our required change when He deems fit..know that heaven does not change what you can tolerate or endure...So what you can not stand will definitely be an item for change. ( Saturday 29th May Open Heavens devotional by Pastor E.A Adeboye paraphrased ).

Prayer point..Cry out to God like Jabez did, cry out to God like Hannah did in 1 Samuel 1 - 10-20...Ask God to change your story to glory in Jesus name amen.

Action- Check through the bible and see how some people got their change, for Joseph and Daniel, the fear of God, self control and integrity brought about their change. Naaman the Syrian with Leprosy, obeyed an instruction to change his story 2 Kings 5 - 1- 14. The Shunnamite woman in 2 Kings 4- 8-37 got her change by being kind to a Prophet...Provoke your change this month. Its your turn to testify in Jesus name amen.

Further reading - Psalm 50 - 15, The book of Daniel and The story of Joseph in Genesis Chapters 37, 39 - 50.

THE PRAYER OF BINDING AND LOOSING

2010-05-27T17:58:00.000-07:00

Yesterday May 27th was children's day in my country Nigeria. It was a school free day, with my daughter insisting i take her and her younger ones shopping. Where i live is quite some distance from the Shopping mall she wanted me to take them to, but i decided to take the risk and make my children happy and boy what a risk!

What should have taken us less than an hour took four hours. The traffic was simply out of this world! One thing i noticed was that the traffic was so bad and every alternative route we wanted to take had the same problem. Eventually, i said a prayer out aloud, that i bind whatever was responsible for such a traffic and i set in motion free flowing access to where we were going and prayed for same result back home.

This was exactly what happened, even my brother that drove the car could not believe that the area that would normally have been traffic prone and congested was free...God is faithful and He answers prayers. There is indeed power in praying about all issues confronting us whether it is small or big...

Today, i am telling some one reading this, according to Matthew 16 - 19 that we have been given the key of heaven and what ever we bind on earth shall have been bound in heaven, and whatever we loose on earth shall have been loosed in heaven." So its time to bind every distraction, every doubt, failure and every thing working against your glorious destiny, as you bind, also lose all that God has destined for you right from the foundations of the earth.

Do you know ...That in Revelation 3- 7, Christ said He has the key of David, and He opens doors that no man can shut and He shuts doors that no man can open.

Prayer point..Ask God to shut every door to failure, depression, retrogression, poverty, lack etc and ask Him to open doors to blessings, opportunities, divine health, wealth, progress etc in Jesus name amen.

Action - Lets get into God's word and locate scriptures that will settle our case this season...Open your mouth wide and God will fill it..Its your turn to testify in Jesus name amen. Have a testimony filled weekend and please spend time with your family. Communication is key and it does not happen overnight. Love you all with the love of the Lord. Bridget

YOUR DESTINY MUST NOT SUFFER AN ACCIDENT

2010-05-26T17:19:00.000-07:00

I was sent this message by my dear Mentor and Prayer Strategist - Mummy Bolade, and for me it was a sign that God wanted me to post it here as i had the intention of writing an article about this issue, mine would have been on the subject of distraction and a failed destiny, hopefully i will still write it but please as Christians, we honestly need to work out our salvation with fear and trembling..

The devil is on the prowl to see most people make hell, so he will bring people their way to distract them and make them end up there, this will not be our portion in Jesus name amen. I have heard countless stories of Men/Women of God compromising their faith and engaging in all sorts of immorality, some have wives and chains of girlfriends outside, some steal from the church to enrich themselves.. Lets know that God is not mocked, whatever a man sows, he reaps! May we not end up like Samson that had his eyes plucked out to become a pepper grinder and laughing stock for his enemies because he had no self control! God help us all in Jesus name amen.Lets read this and ask God for His help, if we have such issues in our lives...

I don't want your life to suffer an accident of destiny.
by Pastor Faith Bankole

The world is looking for successful people, while God is looking for the approved, a generation of saints that believe in character, integrity, holiness and purity. Remember in every generation, there is always a remnant.

The Church of Jesus was a militant church, but with little compromises, the church has become a toothless "bull dog" because there was no confrontation. That is the missing axe head. What you fail to confront, you'll never control.

The reason why there is still sin everywhere is because there is no confrontation from the pulpit, no one person is prepared to confront the mystery of iniquity. We're dining and winning with what we should confront, that is why they are still with us.

God does not live in Nineveh, God lives in obedience. We have pollution in the churches because of men and women, like Lot, without character.

‘Churchianity’ without Christianity: they know the pastor of the church, but they don't know the Lord of the church, they are after position, but not after possession of his power, committed but not converted. Saved, but not sanctified. Close to the pastor, but they don't have the pastor's anointing, they end up collecting a curse. Elisha collected double portion, Gehazi collected leprosy.

Sometimes ago I was invited to pray for a member of the church I pastured who was sick which I did. A day after the lady walked into my office, and confessed that she actually aborted a pregnancy. Upon enquiry she mentioned a senior pastor with a living church as being responsible. I wrote to the pastor for his clarification, he called me on phone to know my where about and came immediately. The first thing he said when we met was 'Bishop must not hear this’. What an amazement ! He went as far as sending a couple to beg so that ‘Bishop’ will not hear.
That tells you how people seek the approval of man rather than God's approval. The lady eventually died. If you can't tell when you're disconnected, you're not saved. The law of retributive justice is immutable, 'Whatsoever a man sow, so shall he also reap'

Jude wrote one book of the bible, comprising just one chapter, he leaves nobody in doubt as to the power of pen, thank God he didn't write more than one book, his language was too strong. He gave them one of the most terrible adjectives. (Jude 1:3,12,13).
They crept in unawares, they join the fellowship, the choir, the activity group, all the join-able, and the world has come to accept them as one of the brethren. They escape Egypt, but they didn't make Canaan, they come to the feast of charity. They are clouds without waters. Any little thing they are thrown off balance. Wondering stars, what a word, no benefit to the sailors. Sailors use the North Star.

Reason why we can't keep covenant with God is because we can't keep with men. If you meet a man who can keep covenant, come rain, come shine, you've met with a blessed person.

Sometimes if you apply a little reasoning, you will beat the devil down in His temptation.

A servant of God once said any person that seeks to make God absolutely responsible for the happiness around us, is an irresponsible prayer warrior; you have a role to play. It is written. It is required in stewards that a man be found faithful (I Cor 4:2). What is faithfulness, Faithfulness is what you do when no man is watching, and the opposite word of faithfulness is eye service. Faithfulness is what you do at the traffic light, when the Traffic Warden is not there.

Why am I speaking on this matter, I don't want your life to suffer an accident of destiny.
An accident of destiny is when the unexpected happens, when the ruler becomes a subject. It was an accident of destiny when Gehazi became leprous, when Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit and they were cast out of the Garden of Eden and their life was never the same again. It was an accident of destiny when God came to the house of Eli and said haven't I said that your children will be priest unto me forever? Forget it!

When a man starts very well and ends up in a very bad note, it is an accident. I read a story of a king that blew my mind - king Uzziah, the Bible described him as a consensus candidate, no dispute over his rulership. In his time there were lot of inventions, he was a success, but he ended up in leprosy. Success enters his head; he began to do what was an abomination.

It seems people will always forget how you start, but will always remember how you end. Same with God, he is not concerned on how you start but how you end. When you are cut in immorality you will always be seen as a lame man, even in death people will say, what an holy man but... Better is the end of a thing than the beginning thereof, many of such in the bible and in the contemporary.

In the book of Hebrews where the roll calls of all successful people in the bible was written, Solomon’s name was not mentioned, while Rahab the Harlot and Samson were mentioned.

In 1993 Olympics the athlete Ben Bullet won in 100 meters dash, but he was subsequently banned for been on drug, that was the last the world heard of him, he started on a good note, but ended up with leprosy. In the bible days the worst that could happen to a man is leprosy, it may not be leprosy in our days, but leprosy is everything that makes a man to end up in destruction. It is not how you start, but how you end. "The End Does Matter"

Final Note from me (Bridget) - I ask God most days to withdraw strength from me anytime i want to do wrong or go out of His will...i do not want to be seen as a Christian here and end up in hell..The message is clear: Let he that thinks he stands take heed lest he falls..1 Corinthians 10 - 12.

IF ITS A NEED, GOD WILL PROVIDE !

2010-05-23T17:04:00.000-07:00

Happy new week everyone, my prayer for us all this week is that God will come through for us in a big way as the month of Harvest comes to an end in 8 days time. I have to share this testimony to let us all know, that if we honestly have needs in our lives, God will meet it.

I noticed with the rains starting in Lagos, Nigeria, that we do not have a single Umbrella in my house; there is one in the car but none in the house, and considering that i had so many Umbrellas in my house at one time, this new "Umbrella-less" development was strange and like i told my husband when he asked about the many Umbrellas we used to have; i told him, the real owners have taken them, whoever they were! lol

I asked my husband to kindly help get an Umbrella, while i also try to get an extra one for the house. I didn't think much of it until today in church, when a dear friend's son came to my husband and i, and handed me an Umbrella from his parents; the Umbrella was a souvenir from a ceremony they just had. I was touched and happy that i got the Umbrella as a gift, especially since i did not attend the ceremony.

I went home from church happy, telling my husband and those with me, that God is ever faithful to supply our need. I did not know, more was to come...until later in the day,when we went visiting some of our friends that just moved into their new apartment. After, the visit as we were leaving, i noticed they had six Umbrellas lined up, i asked for one and was told to take the six, wow, i was stunned! So as not to be seen as being greedy, i took three! lol, but was also given one extra by the Madam of the house and they also handed us a bag, which i later discovered was food beverages when i got home ( To think i had also planned to buy some beverages to take us through the week before my new month shopping...This extra, was icing on my cake ! lol ).

My family is now the proud owner of five Umbrellas in one day and according to my younger brother; the five Umbrellas will not be able to cover the rain of blessings coming our way to which i said amen happily!

My encouragement to someone reading this message is that if God cared enough to meet the need of my family by giving us those five Umbrellas then He will meet yours if only you trust Him to do so.

Do you know..that my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. - Philippians 4:19.

Prayer point - ASK! Ask God, Seek Him, and Knock on His door for all your needs to be provided in Jesus name amen.

ACTION - Read more of God's words in the bible to help you know God is willing and ready to meet your needs...Find below some scriptures to help you : 1 John 5:14,15, Psalms 34:10, Psalms 145:15b,16, Isaiah 1- 19, Ezekiel 34-26, Matthew 6- 8b, Matthew 7-7,8, and 11, Matthew 21-22,John 3-22.

Lets learn to also read books that will help us in all ways we need help. I am currently reading some books and hopefully, will review a couple of them for our book club. Have a fruitful week everyone. I await our testimonies in Jesus name amen.

NOTE : This Message was sent to a group i created on Facebook called Next Generation of Fathers. If you are a guy and you have not joined this group, you are missing a lot...Ladies join too, and get your husbands or friends that are male to join.

THE HOLY SPIRIT OUR HELPER

2010-05-21T15:49:00.000-07:00

Thank God its Friday !..as a mother with two children in school, Fridays are always the days i say thank you God for seeing me through the week as Saturday means a longer day in bed! lol.

I had a funny experience this morning, i slept late as i was online for a while doing my Facebook business as usual, and for the first time in a long time, we had light/power all through the night, so that meant the air conditioners could come on...in Nigeria this is a treat!...hahahaha

By 4am, as usual my husband's alarm came on, to warn me that i had one more hour of light sleep before waking up finally, but i guess i overdid the one hour and got woken up by this rude cough..i tried coughing and changing my sleeping position, but the cough persisted until i got up to take some water, that was when i noticed it was way past my usual wake up time and if i did not hurry, , my daughters will miss their school bus...boy, i was like a mum on roller skates, getting them ready, but the beauty of it all, was that they made the school bus with the help of their understanding school driver ! Thank God for little mercies!!

My take from the whole experience was that the "cough" was not usual but a prompting by the Holy Spirit to get me to wake up, if i had ignored that prompting, my daughters would have missed school or my day would have been altered by the whole experience. So what am i getting at ?...so many of us have ignored the prompting of the Holy Spirit and have ended up suffering for it..

How many times, have we been prompted to do something but we have ignored it, leaving ourselves stranded or in trouble at the end. Lets learn to listen to the Spirit of God prompting us; to take the right decision, to seek wise counsel, to treat our spouses/children with love and understanding, to treat our co-workers the way we would want to be treated, to be nice and attentive to our parents, to reach out to someone and make his or her day...I pray that the Holy Spirit will help us to listen as He prompts us to act in our own best interest. God bless us all and do enjoy your weekend.

Do you know...When you accept Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior, the Holy Spirit comes into you to live your new life? Check out John 14- 26, John 16 -12-15,Romans 8-26

Prayer Point - Ask God to help you be led by His spirit always in Jesus name amen.Romans 8-14

Action - Lets learn to discipline ourselves by reading God's word and get the Holy Spirit to lead us always.

TRUTH TALK

2010-05-11T07:09:00.000-07:00

Hello Everyone, I trust we had a great weekend.Happy mothers day to all the Mothers and mothers-to-be in the house, may God make us all His kind of women and mothers in Jesus name amen.

Today, i believe we should take out time and seriously pray for ourselves, our homes and our men especially..Things are happening everyday and you begin to wonder whats happening in the lives of our men and in our homes..I recently heard in the news of a known sports man in America and a former participant of dancing with the stars; one of America reality dance shows, who was charged for raping a 16 year old child..The bottomline was; he said he didnt know she was a minor, as she had told him she was 19 years old but my question is..what was he doing with another woman when he has a wife at home..

I believe most men think its okay to cheat on their wives and they always come up with stories of; its not good to be eating just one soup and other lame excuses..but i am sure they would not like it if their wives cheat on them! God FORBID that we do that! (Some women cheat too, i pray that God will help them to stop and become virtous and faithful women in Jesus name amen)

I believe, the ripple effect of adultry and fornication can not be quantified, it messes up destinies big time!..Ask Samson in the bible in Judges 16, Delilah reduced him from a mighty man to a blind pepper grinder! God forbid this in our lives. Please lets do a check on ourselves and if we have problems with our sexuality, then its time to come clean, pray and ask God for divine help.

I also need to ask that we make our spouses our accountability partners, be free to share your innermost thoughts with your wife/husband. If you are having problems with lust, pornography, let your spouse know and pray about it, this will even keep you in check and stop you from progressing into other self destroying sexual habits.. This is a battle cry, and i am sounding the alarm for us to pray and put our destinies back on track.God help us all.

Do you know - Joseph would have truncated his dreams of being the Prime Minister of Egypt if he had compromised by sleeping with Potiphar's wife- Check out his story in Genesis 39

Prayer Point - Lets ask God to repair all destinies that are struggling with sexual sins, lets ask for the grace to flee all appearances of evil like Joseph did.

Action - Everyone can be delivered of any addiction and the deliverer is Jehovah our creator, go to him in prayers and ask Him to help you with whatever sexual sin you are struggling with,ask Him to give you to grace to resist all forms of sexual temptations in Jesus name amen.

NOTE: As married couples, we need to take our intimacy to the next level, may God give us ALL the grace to meet the emotional needs of our spouses in Jesus name amen.
I speak freedom to everyone struggling with a sexual sin and i ask that God will set us free indeed and cover us with His blood that speaks better things to our destinies in Jesus name amen. I await our testimonies.

I sent this to a group created by me on Facebook called the "Next Generation of Fathers", its a group God inspired me to create supported by my two amazing Co-administrators, Sister -Jola Bajulaiye Obire and my brother from another parents - Tola Akinyemi, God has been helping us to raise the bars for the fathers of this generation, so that the next generation of fathers can be fathers indeed. Come join us and be blessed as well as be a blessing to us all.

BREAK FREE FROM ANTI - HARVEST EMOTIONS

2010-05-05T16:05:00.000-07:00

Hello all, happy midweek, the month of May is on the move and we are in the 5th day already..Indeed God is in a hurry to bless us as His mercies are new every morning.Hallelujah!

I was talking with a couple of my friends recently and our topic was the unhealthy rivalry amongst Christians, from all that was said, i sensed a lot of insecurities in those that were bent on pulling others down with their actions.I also saw that a lot of people have been so hurt by the actions of others that they are afraid to trust again and move on..

My words to someone reading this today is; Remove unhealthy rivalry, envy and bitterness, remove every anti harvest emotions that will deprieve you of the new thing God wants to do in your life this month..no matter what has been done, do not let negative events hold you hostage. Feel the pain..grieve the lost, forgive and release those that have offended you, forgive yourself and don't live a life of guilt, be determined to move on.

Do you know: You can not build a monument of your past and move forward? Know that God said in Isaiah 43-18-19a, that we should forget the former things; and not dwell on the past because He is doing a new thing!

Prayer point - Ask God to help you to let go and let Him. Ask that He will hasten His words to fulfill in your life in Jesus name amen.

Action Point- List every negative event that has held you hostage and pray that God will help you to let go just as Joseph let go of his hurt, knowing what his brothers meant for evil was turned to good by our all knowing God. Genesis 50-19-20

May - Your month of divine grace and harvest

2010-05-05T15:07:00.000-07:00

Wow, its the 5th month already, how time flies! God has been faithful indeed. I want to bless God for all of us and i thank God that He has been faithful in our lives; that you can read this note shows that you are blessed to have your
sight in place. Halleluyah!

This month, i have a strong feeling that God is set to do mighty things as we believe Him. I saw in a flash as i was praying with a group of friends, a full corn cob that was being opened and i know without a shadow of a doubt, that our harvest is near, so we must hold on until we see a manifestation of God's goodness in all areas of our lives.
So keep sowing your seed of goodness, love and kindness. Keep trusting God for all you want to see happen in your life and watch out for your harvest. Have a great month of May.

Do you know: God said as long as the earth remains, seedtime and harvest, cold and heat, summer and winter, day and night will never cease.Genesis 8-22

Prayer point - Ask God to hasten His words to perform in your life this month and cause you to have a bountiful harvest of all seeds sown in Jesus name amen.

Action- Sow the seed of love and appreciation into the lives of your loved ones. Thank God for giving you life this past month and appreciate Him for having a family to call your own.

Happy birthday and congratulations to everyone celebrating an anniversary or the other this month of May. May God cause your joy to be full in Jesus name amen. Love you all with the love of the Lord.

THE FEAR FACTOR

2010-04-17T07:39:00.000-07:00

Happy weekend everyone, i trust we are all doing great with our families, Glory be to God for keeping us all safe and alive..May God console and comfort all those that have been involved in one natural disaster, accidents or the other..This is becoming an everyday occurence and indeed, our thoughts go.."The world is coming to an end"..Well, lets get prepared for eternity by living for Christ and having His mind.

I have been thinking of what fear does to the human mind lately and the first person that came to mind was Job.In Job 3- 25, he talked about his fear coming to pass...Read the book of Job in the bible and see how he lived and what his fears were.

As human beings, we all have things we fear, some people are afraid to fail, some are even afraid to be successful and rich, some are afraid of heights, enclosed rooms, some are afraid of being poor, while others are afraid of being divorced, being seperated, not getting a partner to settle with, some are afraid of their past catching up with them and so many other fears..at the end what we fear most, as we dwell on them consistently stops us from making progress and some times, it becomes our reality.Fear is a stronghold that the devil uses against us daily...as the father of lies, he uses his lies to create fear and as we believe this lies, we begin to live in fear..

I have a mentor, that was always afraid of her husband cheating on her; coming home one day with an illegitimate child, because most men around him were adulterers and had illegitimate children all over the area where they live. One day her thoughts and words became her reality and for me that was a wake up call...

Fear paralyses and keeps us stagnant, we end up not making progress because we have the fear that if we do some things, it may turn out wrong..today i have good news for that person that the fear of the unknown has held bound, you are free in Jesus name as whom the Son of God has set free is free indeed.John 8-36

May God help us all to confront the fear factors in our lives and bring it to Jesus, who is the author and finisher of our faith to help us deal with our fears and move forward.

Do you know..Fear is the opposite of Faith? God wants us to walk by faith and not by fear.. 2 Timothy 1- 7

Prayer point - Ask God to come into your life if you are not born again and ask Him to take away every fear from you and replace with faith in your heart..

Action - Seat down with a note book and write down the things that have turned themselves to fear factors in your life, get hold of your bible and study the word of God as it affects your situation, bring those fears to God and ask for His healing mercies..Pray and start living your life by Faith instead of fear.Remember that its said that there are 365 Fear nots in the Bible, one for each day of the year, so when fear comes..tell yourself fear not! I await your testimonies!

BE WARNED ! YOUR INSECURITY MAY COST YOU YOUR MARRIAGE !

2010-04-09T14:15:00.000-07:00

Hello, i have had so many things in my head to write about marriage, knowing that the devil is all out to attack our marriages..I was still thinking about writing on taking intimacy to another level when i saw this...The intimacy topic has been a recurring decimal in most of my jists with friends lately..well thats a story or should i say a note for another day...lol

I honestly feel the only way we can safe guard our marriages and homes in these days of strange happenings is by prayer and the truth we know that sets free...I had to share this piece from my dear brother and friend," Minister" Praise Fowowe as i love to call him as he ministers to your heart when he talks about the issues God has blessed him with to address. To say he is a blessing is an understatement...he keeps a regular column every Friday on This Day newspaper and has a group called" The Last Nigerian Virgin" on face book, where i received this humbling message..i pray that women that fall in this category will learn a thing or two and address their insecurities while our men should do their best to help by not fueling the feeling of insecurity in their ladies..anyways, God help us all and help us to work on any issue that will affect our marriages and homes negatively. May God bless our marriages and bless us all in Jesus name amen

His story on another factor destroying many wonderful relationships:

She was so much in love with her hubby and theirs was a relationship made in heaven. They went everywhere together and she never one day imagined anything let anyone would ever be able to come in between them.
But all that changed when he hired a new secretary who really knew how to take care of her boss. Tosin is the dream secretary to any boss because she thoroughly understood her job and a thorough bred professional. She took a lot of pressure off her boss and commended him all the time about his dexterity at what he does. Oga was too excited that he had gotten an efficient secretary for the first time that he started talking to madam about how good his new secretary was.

He didn’t see anything wrong with what he was doing but it was the other way round for madam who became unnecessarily uncomfortable. She started monitoring her husband and made it a point of duty to visit his office at will even without his prior notice trying to look for a way to nail her husband because she didn’t actually believe her husband wasn’t making out with Tosin.

Initially Tosin didn’t really understand why madam started frequenting the office and interfering in their operations but she remained courteous and nice all the same. Then there came a day that madam wished never happened. Oga was meant to go for a major meeting to close a deal and by the nature of the job his secretary and one other executive were meant to be at the meeting billed for the conference room of a 4 star hotel in Lagos, Nigeria.

Oga informed madam about the meeting and she feigned excitement at her husband landing what was meant to be his greatest deal for that year. She managed to get the name of the hotel and wished him well.
It was about 6pm at the lobby of the hotel when all hell was let loose. Oga had just closed the deal and there was celebration all over the lobby. What was left was the signing of the contract papers. Oga was too carried away that he had just landed the greatest deal of his career that he didn’t know when he hugged Tosin, something he hadn’t done before then unfortunately for him his wife didn’t really believe he was going to the hotel to sign the deal as she emerged out of nowhere and started a scene that destroyed the joy of the day.
She pounced on the secretary and started raining curses and all sorts of abuses on her. She didn’t stop at that she insulted her husband publicly as well as other dignitaries present.
Of course that was the end of the contract and the meeting for that day as the man didn’t just lose the contract, his secretary also resigned to work for their major competitor and that also signaled the end of his marriage of 7years.

She had done everything to appeal to the man to take her back to no avail and now she called in to ask for help. I am using her story by permission because it fits perfectly into what I have in mind for us today.
Nothing takes away what is yours from you faster than insecurity. I have seen too many women lose their marriages to insecurity. As a matter of fact I have seen too many mothers as well lose their children to the guy down the road as a result of insecurity.
Insecurity is an offshoot of unhealthy self-esteem and it has its root in one’s inability to trust others or the quest to be in control of someone or something such that you ultimately lose control.
It is the quest to control what is non-existent or beyond you. This usually gives rise to mentally initiated negative opinions and self generated problems which results in breach of trust jealousy and suspicion.
Insecure people find it difficult to trust others and can’t share what they have with others. How many times have you felt choked by the attitude of your partner? And how many of us actually feel right now that your spouse is becoming insecure at your association or competence?
I am waiting to hear from you.

I have a few comments to make but i want to read comments from others, please i need honest feedbacks so we can all learn and have better marriages...

APRIL 2010 - OUR MONTH OF GLORY AND RESURRECTION

2010-04-06T15:51:00.000-07:00

This is the month where our mockers will be put to shame, just like those that mocked Jesus were put to shame after He arose. This is our season of glorification as our shame will turn to fame. Where we have been despised God will cause His beauty to be on us for His name to be glorified. All things that are dead around us, according to God's perfect will is brought alive this month...its your month of Glory indeed.

Do you know...Jesus Christ was mocked, so that we will not suffer mockery ever. He was shamed for us to be celebrated, He said it is finished because He had paid the ultimate sacrifice for you and i. He rose again to seat with God our father making intercessions for us..so that nothing can overwhelm us or seperate us from Him...

Prayer point: Pray that Zephaniah 3-9-20 and Isaiah 61:6-7 will be your portion this season in Jesus name amen.

Note: Have a great month and please parents spend quality time with your children this holiday season, ask them questions, know whats happening with them and be there for them. May God strengthen us emotionally and give us the grace spiritually, physically, financially to care for them. Happy birthday to all celebrating this month..Birthdays, anniversaries, baby's birth etc..may we continue to have reasons to celebrate and testify in Jesus name amen.

LESSONS FROM MY DEAR FATHER-IN-LOVE

2010-03-20T16:08:00.000-07:00

We recently just laid to rest my dear father-in-love, who i consider a role model in marriage and family life. As we prepared for the final funeral, i had the previledge of talking to my dear mother-in-love about her dear husband, friend and confidante for almost 50 years, so we can put down her tribute/ biography for the funeral programme. During the course of our discussions, my mother-in-love recounted their lives together as a couple, she shared how he made her feel special by buying her gifts and how he would always take his food tray to the kitchen after eating, she shared on his sense of humour, which he was known for till he passed on and also shared on how he helped so many people through school.
One of the most remarkable story she shared was that of an Alhaji in Sokoto, who asked my father-in-love why he was married to just one woman, and offered his daughter as a second wife to him, in response, my father-in-love thanked him for his kind gestures and said no thanks to his offer by telling him; he wanted to add sorrow to his destiny with his offer!Wise man, Pa.B.B.Elesin.

After his funeral, we all had the previledge of having a chat with his best friend of over 60 years and his wife, and he told us that with only one wife, the problem of a family is solved when there is the death of a man and he said this was evident in the peaceful and joyful final burial ceremony of his late friend.This got me thinking and my mind went to all the stories i have read and heard about the other woman and sometimes children resurrecting at the burial of so many Nigerian men...

Why am i recalling all this, i just saw a man i know too well on a trip with a lady that is not his wife and with the way, they were carrying on, you would think she is his wife or fiancee, before then another friend was stunned when she also saw a friend of her family with a lady that was clinging to him as if her life depended on him obviously going on a business trip with him as his hand luggage! and i truly wonder why our men these days are bent on destroying themselves, including so called men of God who sleep with church members and have numerous girlfriends forgeting the verse of scripture that says "he that is joined with an harlot becomes one with her and the admonition to flee sexual Immorality as contained in 1 Corinthians 6 - 12-20.

Most times, from my observations, these ladies outside are not as pretty as the wife inside and i wonder how the men will feel if the reverse is the case..please don't give me the men are players story plus its not cool to eat just one soup..what if the reverse was the case..? God forbid bad thing! My prayer for all husbands is for them to fear God and live with the wife of their youth with understanding while drinking water from their own cistern as adviced in Proverbs 5 with emphasis on verse 15 - 23. May God help our husbands and us all to know that the vows we took on our wedding day are sacred and must be honored to the letter.

May we not add sorrows to our destinies by making the wrong choices to cheat on our spouses, especially on the side of the men which is most common in my dear country..Lets know that marriage is a covenant between us and the Almighty God and so we should take it seriously. God bless and help us all to finish well like my dear father - in-love.

Note - Lets take time to study Genesis 2 - 20- 25, Matthew 19 - 3-6, Ephesians 5-31 and may God help those that are already in this and even have children outside their home, to please do themselves and their family a favor and tell them the truth and put things right as it will be too much pain going through a death and then be faced with another wife and children..men! that man's corpse will be brought back for machine flogging, so that he will carry the scars to meet his maker! hahahahaha. don't mind me and my some times warped sense of humour..honestly, its not a situation i wish my enemy.My prayers for us as wives is that God will give us the grace to be the God-kind of wives, our men desire; intimately, physically, spiritually and in all other areas. God help and bless us all.

God help us all indeed.

"NYAME YIE" ; GOD IS GOOD

2010-03-11T01:46:00.000-08:00

Its my birthday and i had to do this special post to myself..yes its good to celebrate yourself...

I am some where far away from home trying to get myself together. I took the decision to go away from home, so i can sit back and reflect on my life as well as take actions to take me to my next level.

I have been able to achieve a lot in a space of three days and i still have more actions to take to fulfill one of my life long dream of becoming an author..as i celebrate my day today, i celebrate the goodness of God in my life, without which i would have been a "nobody"..like a dear friend of mine said on my wall on facebook..if my birthday was up to man, maybe i would have been on the queue, just to buy one year! but thank God my life is not in the hands of any man but in the hands of God and He has shown to me that He is so good that i am overwhelmed by His goodness.

I am a blessed woman by all standard, i am still amazed, how far God has brought me..sometimes, i wonder what i have done to deserve God's goodness..but in all i sincerely thank Him for my life, the woman He has made me, the wife He has made me to my husband, the mother, He has made me to my children, biological and spiritual, the daughter, sister and friend He has made me to my parents;biological and spiritual, to my siblings and to all my dear friends.

My prayer for myself is that God will make me a woman of wisdom indeed, a woman,serving Him in spirit and in truth, filled with His words plus obedient to Him all the way, and a woman, wealthy in all areas that wealth can be mentioned.

My prayer for us all, my dear readers; is that we learn to dream again, take actions again, pray again, believe again,trust again, hope again, forgive again,learn new things, appreciate life and people around us more, sing a new song to God, live our life to the fullest with eternity in view, be a blessing to someone starting with our spouse,children and loved ones, pray for someone in trouble, make that call, give that marriage another chance, be a pillar of support to another, learn to laugh again, learn to reach out and touch someone in love...Just do Good because God is Good!

HELPING TO CHECKMATE CHILD ABUSE AND SEXUAL MOLESTATION

2010-03-10T03:26:00.000-08:00

I had to bring this post here as a mother with three prophetic children that i wish the very best in life. I have seen and heard so much concerning child abuse and sexual molestation and i try my best to teach my children some basic skills and also make them know as much as i can tell them at this stage but knowing i am not always there and for the fact that my home is rather open to a lot of people, i shudder to think of the worst...God forbid such happening to my children..Na last prayer the person go say o! God may it not get to that in Jesus name..please prevent my eyes from seeing corruption and my children /family too!
This post is here, thanks to Minister Praise Fowowe and the FB group " The Last Nigerian Virgin".
As Parents and especially as mothers, we must protect this very ones, God has blessed us with, I pray nobody violates our children and i pray especially for us mothers to be more specific in our prayers concerning our children and pray that the devil will not tempt any of the males around us..including the fathers to violate these innocent children..Here is just one of the messages from Minister Praise Fowowe (This is unedited and a serious issue).

Praise Fowowe March 7 at 11:24pm

Today my plan was to publish more questions from the Nigerian child but all that changed when I received an SMS from another young Nigerian child currently being violated.

Dear Uncle,
My sister’s husband kisses me and fingers me and I always enjoy it but I want to stop it because I am still a virgin but I love my sister’s husband and feels satisfied when he is doing it. What do I do? Please reply sir.
Angela A. (not real names)- 13years

Here is another case of a Nigerian child whose childhood had been stolen. The problem here is the fact that she had started enjoying the act that it is not going to be easy for her to stop because her system is already re-conditioned to derive pleasure through the act.
Many of us might want to disagree that it was consensual but I am so certain that it wasn’t a pleasant experience when it started but over a period of time she had gotten accustomed to a wrong that she had rationalized it to be the right thing.
I have started talking to the girl with the hope she picks up eventually but it should be a wake- up call for many of us. I pray we won’t lose our future.
Here are some tips for the Nigerian parent to help check-mate child sexual abuse:

- Warn your girl child never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation
- Avoid getting dressed in front of your child once he/she is above 18months. Lean to excuse yourself.
- If you have to hire a house-help please kindly take them for HIV screening to determine their HIV status, properly interview them and make up your mind to treat them well.
- Never allow any adult refer to your new born as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’
- Never tempt your husband with your younger sister. Avoid unnecessary familiarity and make sure you take care of your husband by yourself lest you lead her into temptation.
- Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they played together because young people now sexually abuse themselves.
- Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.
- Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you might need to patiently ask a lot of questions from your child
- If you don’t teach your children about sex the society will teach them the wrong values.
- It is always advisable you go through any new material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves
- Teach your 2year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that includes you.
- Blacklist some materials you think could threaten the sanity of your child (that includes music, movies and musicians) and let them understand the value of standing out of the crowd
- Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them
- If it is possible live in your house alone with your children when they attain their pre-teenage years.
Finally pray and communicate with your children on a daily basis but above all observe them and ask relevant questions in love.
God bless Nigeria. Great children! Great future.

NOTE- May we not see evil and may God remove such evil minded male from our midst..please if you have been doing this to any child..repent now, ask God for forgiveness and ask for wisdom to make things right..O lord..Your mercy..

MARCHING FORWARD DESPITE ALL ODDS

2010-03-01T13:49:00.000-08:00

Happy new month of March, a glorious month for divine progress in all areas of our lives and of course my birth month...if you do not have a child born in March, start praying for one..as we make things march forward in your homes..(Funny, i don't have one but i think one of us is enough in each family!lol)

As i crossed over this morning into the new month, i had the previledge of engaging in some prayer session to settle my month..as man shall not live by bread alone!lol and it was clear in my spirit that this month, we should cast down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ..." 2 Corinthians 10:5 and as we do this, we will be refreshed, we will be restored and we will recover all. Hallelujah!

What are these imaginations we are talking about? Satan we all know is a father of lies and will come with all manners of lies to tell us we can not make it in life, he paints a picture of failure, tells us its three months down the year and yet we are stagnant, he tells us we have been married for years and no baby to show for it, he tells us we can never be promoted in our place of work as we are not good enough, he tells us to walk out on our marriage as our husbands are not worth it and are not appreciative of our persons, he tells us that its difficult being a mother, so walk out on your family and become single, he tells you, you can never be married as you are too old for any man to propose to you, he tells you that the headache or sickness you have will kill you, he paints a picture of doom and before you know it, you start believing those lies from the pit of hell, and you start seeing yourself walk according to the picture he, the devil has painted for you...

Hey dear friend, i have got words for you, its time to cast out that picture the devil is painting and lift up the the word of God as a standard against the wickedness of the enemy..God is a good God and wants the best for you, He is a loving father that is more concerned about seeing the best of you..so when the enemy tells you and paints all the horrible pictures, remind him of his future that he is doomed forever and that you are blessed and will continue to be blessed. Do not let the devil feed you lies, locate God's word, use it against every picture he is painting, when he comes with sickness, tell him , you have been healed by his strips, he tells you, you can not have a child, tell him, God says there shall be no barren in the land and if Sarah could have a child at 90 years, then you are too young not to have your divine gift from God! If he tells you you can not be promoted in life, remind him that promotion does not come from the four corners of the earth but from God! Hallelujah!

You must challenge the lies of the devil, you must not allow the subtle lies he brings consistently to stand in your life..know that the shadow of a dog can not bite, his lies are a shadow but God's word is the real deal and the real deal says as you think in your heart so will you be, it says your faith in God's word will bring forth your harvest, if God's word has said it, that settles it!

To keep your mind and Imagination in line with God's word.. You must

1. Have Faith in God and His words. You must read the bible and know it for yourself as the truth you know sets you free
2. You must endeavor to read books and listen to tapes that will help you grow your faith and believe God.
3.You must be in the company of those that will help you believe the best of God's words, this is not the time to sit with those that will feed the lies of the devil in your life.
4.You must learn to praise God, no matter what you are going through, as you do so, you will see God move on your behalf
5.You must learn to be a blessing, sow seeds of kindness etc, sow seeds that will bring your harvest as seed time and harvest time is sure..

I truly see us marching forward this month as we pull down every contrary picture from our minds and replace it with the word and vision of God for our lives.

Prayer- Heavenly Father, you are a prayer answering God and so i ask that you help me to see myself as you see me; that i am blessed and highly favored, that i am the head but not the tail, that you are supplying all my needs according to your riches in Christ Jesus and that i am above only and not beneath, i am blessed to be a blessing, i have the mind of Christ and i walk as led by the spirit of God in Jesus name amen.

Note - if you are not saved, its time to ask Jesus Christ to come into your heart and be the Lord of your spirit, soul and body in Jesus name amen.

REAL LOVE

2010-02-26T15:19:00.000-08:00

I started this note before Valentines day but i ended up not writing it as a result of distractions..by self and others! lol, as i thought of the title of the note, i thought of the song with same title by Mary J Blige..this was her hit song in her debut album in 1992..Waoh..how time flies,..i don old o! lol

In the song, she thought she had found real love but discovered it was a search in futility...

So what is this Real love that everyone seem to be in search of...as a faithful Mills and Boon, Halequin and all other romantic novel reader in my teenage age..real love by the authors used to be this handsome stranger from out of town that comes and jumbles up things and later, the love interest realises, that despite his obnoxious behaviour, she can not get him out of her head and after some time the stranger is transformed to a Knight in shinning armour and they live happily ever after..lol..Good for Mills and Boon but not for the world i live in..it doesn't just work like that..hahahaha

In this days of conditional love, where people are loved for what they do..i.e "I love you when you are good, nice looking and yummishly rich, So what is real love as indeed everyone wants to love and be loved back.How do i experience real love in my relationship; marriage Parent/child, friendship, etc

You experience Real love when someone cares about you, wants the best for you and wants you to be happy with no strings attached, that is, the person loves you for you, with all your flaws and wants you happy, the person is not disappointed when you are not your best but is hopeful that you will be the best of you with time.
You grow when you have real love, you are blessed when you are loved unconditionally and you are set free when you know you are so loved..set free from selfishness, low self esteem etc..real love brings healing to your body , soul and spirit..

So is this real love real? can i experience real love with my spouse, my parents, my friends..? Yes real love can be experienced by all who so desire..In marriage, Husbands are admonished to love their wives even as Christ loves the church, a church with so much flaws but yet, Christ expressed His love by dying for her..This real love of Christ can be replicated in any relationship.

Real love can defined from a biblical perspective from the book of 1 Corinthians 13- 4 - 7 from the Message translation:

If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
Isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.

Real love can be experienced by all of us, if we allow the author of real love into our hearts and learn from Him the act of loving as expressed in the passage above..

Note - People that have never experienced real love search for love in the wrong places and substitute things like money, sex,food, drugs, power for love. The resultant effect of all this may lead to disappointment, depression, frustration, violence etc and this we can see all around us today..my prayer is that we all experience real love in Jesus name amen.

May God truly help us love ourselves unconditionally and show real love in all our relationships...Now its my turn to sing Real love..i found real love in Christ, someone who loves me back..o real love..Christ you are my real love..lol

THE CLARION CALL

2010-02-02T10:04:00.000-08:00

I woke up this morning, January 2 2010, after getting my children ready for school, very unlike me, I took my devotional books and bible, and instead of reading, said a short prayer and settled down to sleep..i strongly believe this was not a dream i had but more of a REVELATION, which i believe should not be taken lightly, i can not give the full detail of the dream/Revelation here for some reasons but the bottomline was bloodshed on the streets and I woke up visibly shaken as if it was real!
As a Nigerian and one that knows that Nigeria's destiny is being manipulated for backwardness and evil, there is a need for us all to stand up and truly pray for this country as i know as a Missionary what Nigeria is to the World on a spiritual level, but if the country divides, this may not be possible.So we must remain united as Nigerians, so as to become what God has destined our great Nation and its citizens to be.

This note is written as an urgent appeal to everyone that loves our great country Nigeria.There is an urgent need to PRAY and INTERCEED for the country. We must as a matter of urgency pray against ethnic , religious and political killings, we must pray for the Youths of this country to have the fear of God and not be used by the agents of evil to unleash terror on innocent people.

A lot of powers are fighting to control the destiny of this Nation and its citizenry but we must pray that the God of heaven and earth must be enthroned in this Nation of ours and that He will intervene and rule in the affairs of this country. What is happening in Nigeria now is child's play compared to what i saw..so please lets take at least one hour every day to pray seriously for this Country, lets groan in the spirit and pray with tongues, we must persist in praying until the change we want in this country comes. The lives of Nigerians are hinged on our praying at this time and so we must pray until something happens...Only God can deliver Nigeria and He will only do so,if we pray and persist in our prayers. God bless Nigeria and God bless Nigerians.

Prayer points- Lets ask God to forgive us our sins as a people for righteous exalts a Nation but sin is a reproach to any people (Proverbs 14-34).

Lets pray for righteousness to be enthroned in the lives of Christians in Nigeria, that they will truly know God and be filled with the spirit of God to be true change agents with their conducts.

Lets pray that the word of God will grow in Nigeria and that people will accept Jesus as their Lord and Saviour.
(This will make a world of difference as i know its only in Christianity that we preach true love no matter what..Thou shall not Kill is one of the Ten commandments! Lets know that as people embrace Christ, and truly serve Him, the change from within them will influence their actions and impact the society for good).

Lets pray that we will be the right influence on others, as we live the life of Christ, people around us will be influenced for good in Jesus name amen.

Note - Our confidence must not be in the Political system but on God and as we trust God to intervene, He will make Nigeria beautiful again.

I will end this post with this note i saw online:Righteousness exalts a nation

(Thomas Brooks, "The Crown and Glory of Christianity,
or, HOLINESS, the Only Way to Happiness", 1662)

"Righteousness exalts a nation, but sin is a
disgrace to any people." Proverbs 14:34

It is not valor in war—but righteousness;
it is not policy in government—but righteousness;
it is not wittiness of invention—but righteousness;
it is not civility in behavior—but righteousness;
it is not antiquity of laws—but righteousness;
it is not largeness of dominion—but righteousness;
it is not greatness of command—but righteousness
—which is the honor and the safety, the renown
and the security of a nation.

It is not rich mines of gold and silver, nor armies,
nor councils, nor fleets, nor forts—but justice and
righteousness which exalts a nation; and which will
make a lowly people to become a great, a glorious,
and a famous people in the world. That nation which
exalts righteousness—that nation shall be certainly
exalted by righteousness.

FEBRUARY - YOUR MONTH OF HELP

2010-01-31T23:06:00.000-08:00

Woah! just like that January is gone! I am happy to see the end of the month of January..its been a long month, a month of goal setting, school fees paying,school runs, business plan writing, praying for divine direction and all the works!
As a school - mum, not hockey mum like Sarah Palin , lol, its been a challenging month, with two prophetic and adorable daughters that wants their way all the time.."mummy, i want to sleep, i want cereal as breakfast ....No, i want bread and tea...the early morning wake up, preparation etc can be very challenging but i give God thanks as its a price i have to pay for being a mum!lol

Now that January is over, i am happy to announce to you that February is your month of help, You will get daily help as David got in 1 Chronicles 12 - 22.You will be helped marvelously like King Uzziah in 2 Chronicles 26-15b and you will get timely and divine help when you need it, just like in Psalm 46-1.

February will see us getting help as we are restored divinely just like the Shunnamite woman in 2 Kings 8: 1-6.

Arise and shine as God is your help this month of February in Jesus name amen.

Do you know.. God gave David the power to help and be a champion in Isreal? Psalm 89 - 19

Prayer point - Ask God to send you help all the way in the month of February just like in psalm 20 - 2 .

Action- You are being helped to be a help to another, so remember to be a blessing by helping someone this month of february.

VICTORY OVER PROTESTING POWERS AND VOICES

2010-01-21T14:19:00.000-08:00

This is a message that was preached by one of my mentors - Apostle Wole Oladiyun and he gave permission to other pastors to preach this message to liberate their congregations…so here is Pastor Wole and my own version of the message! Lol. May God give us understanding as we read and may He help us to have complete victory over all protesting powers and voices in Jesus name amen.

In order to have an understanding of this message, we need to know the definition of a key word “ Protest”
To protest means to object to, be in opposition, speak strongly against.
Many of us are victims against powers we do not know. Voices that want to make us stay in a stagnant position, powers that want us to live a life below what God has destined for us, but know that despite these powers and voices, as Christians, nothing can stop our glorious destinies as All POWER BELONG TO GOD!

WHY DO THESE POWERS AND VOICES PROTEST?
a. They protest because you are a destiny helper
b. They protest when they know you have something new to offer to be a blessing
c. They protest when it’s your season to manifest
d. They protest when they know that positive and good reports are on the way
e. They protest when they know you are a pillar to someone they do not like.

Below are nine cases in the bible of protesting powers and voices against people's destinies:
1. Herod vs. Jesus Christ - Matthew 2- 1- 13 (You can read the whole chapter of Matthew 2). Herod sought to kill the baby Jesus. He knew Jesus had come to save mankind but he wanted to protest this glorious destiny by killing him as a baby so he will not fulfill his assignment of saving mankind.
Prayer point - May every protesting power and voice standing in the order of Herod, waiting to destroy you from manifesting your glorious destiny be destroyed in Jesus name. Matthew 2- 19

2. Cain vs. Abel - Genesis 4 - 3- 8.
Cain and Abel were siblings from same parents and yet Cain, the elder brother killed Abel because God accepted Abel's offering and sacrifice. The breakthrough in Abel was protested by Cain and he killed him.
Prayer Point - May None of our siblings and relatives be used to kill our manifestations and breakthroughs in Jesus name amen.

3. Haman vs. the Jews - Esther 3- 5-6
Haman decided to kill every Jew because one man- Mordecai refuse to bow to him.
Prayer point - May you never bow to iniquity in Jesus name amen. May God silence all protesting power in the order of Haman in Jesus name amen. Esther Chapter 6 and 7

4. Pharaoh vs. The Children of Israel - Exodus 5- 1-2-end and Exodus 14- 23-31
Pharaoh tried to prevent the children of Israel from serving the Lord and being free men, but at the end, He died with all the Egyptians that pursued the Israelites.
Prayer Point - May every power pursuing you and wanting to make you a permanent slave be destroyed according to the order of Pharaoh and the Egyptians in the sea.

5. Blind Bartimaeus vs The People - Mark 10 - 46 - 52
Blind Bartimaeus had a physical challenge and he heard that Jesus was passing by, as he cried out to Jesus Christ for help, “many” warned him to be quiet! But thank God ,he cried out the more despite the protesting power and voices and he got his sight back as our loving Jesus spoke to his challenge! Hallelujah!
Prayer Point - Pray that the voice of the people will not stop you from seeking out God to meet your need.

6. Nehemiah vs Sanballat and Tobias - Nehemiah Chapter 2 , especially verse 10 and Chapter 4
Nehemiah had a burden to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem, but as he went about doing this, Sanballat and Tobias became opposing power and voices. Thank God for Nehemiah's patience and focus.
Prayer Point - Ask God to keep you focused and undistracted, and above all to protect you from the Sanballat and Tobias around you in Jesus name amen.

7. Golaliath vs. David 1 Samuel 17
Goliath terrorized and opposed the Israelites but David came on the scene and stood against him…In verses 41 - 45, David confronted Goliath and in the name of the Lord despite his threats and insults, he prevailed! Hallelujah.
Prayer point – Pray that God will help you prevail over every Goliath in your life in Jesus name amen.

8 The man born blind vs. his neighbors and the Pharisees - John 9
The man was born blind but his condition was so, that the works of God should be revealed in him. He got his healing through Jesus and his neighbors and the Pharisees contested his healing/miracle and breakthrough but despite all, the man maintained his testimony in verse 25 of John chapter 9. Hallelujah.
Prayer point - Ask that no matter who is opposing, your testimony shall be sure in Jesus name amen.

9. Paul vs. the Jews. Acts 23 - 21
In Jerusalem, some of the Jews sought to kill Paul and in verse 12 of Acts Chapter 23, some of them went on an evil fast to kill him..But thank God for silencing the opposing voices and powers, so that His work would continue through Paul.
Prayer point - Pray that God will reveal the plans of every protesting power and voice and grant you great deliverance as He did for Paul.

I have other cases of protesting voices and powers in the bible i.e. Joseph and his brothers - Genesis 37, the old and young Prophet in 1 Kings 13...

I pray that God will help us this season to stand in His word and withstand all protesting powers and voices in Jesus name amen. May God arise on our behalf over every Protesting voices and powers in Jesus name. May we not be our own protesting power and voice like Jonah in Jesus name amen.

Note - That protesting powers and voices have pulled down rising stars, destroyed many marriages, businesses, many people have been rendered useless to themselves and families, and many have been brought down from the mountain of achievements , rescheduling them to useless assignments. May God deliver us all from protesting powers within and without .

Action – If you are not saved, then it’s time to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and personal Savior and let Him fight your battle as in Exodus 14 - 14.
Kindly repeat these words- Lord Jesus, I welcome you into my life as my Lord and Personal Savior. I acknowledge that you shed your blood on the cross of Calvary for me, I ask that your blood will wash me from all sins and make me your child in Jesus name amen. Congratulations! You are now a child of God

Jesus is Lord, so all protesting powers and voices will submit to God ( Psalm 66 - 3 ). Hopefully , there will be a Part 2 of this message .

BENEFITS OF SEX - A MUST READ FOR MARRIED COUPLES

2010-01-15T15:31:00.000-08:00

Enjoy this candid and life-saving/marriage saving contribution from a dear friend and big sister of mine in response to the message on a must read on sex for all praying wife on face book.

Bridge, the write up was so powerful that I copied and forwarded it to all the married couples on my personal email box. Most marriages today are suffering because they are sexually starved. Some couples are so sexually starved to the extent that they don't even know that it is starvation. They are wondering why they are stressed, aggressive and what not. Please there are so many pros to sex that some of us are aware of and some of us aren't. When I heard about it helping you to lose weight I did not believe it until one day, I weighed myself before and after - guess what, I lost 1 LB. I yelled out to my husband. So imagine doing it 5 x or 7 x a week...go figure!

Below are benefits of Sex!

Frequent Sex Benefits

•Lower mortality rates.
•Reduced risk of prostate cancer.
•Improves posture.
•Boosts self esteem.
•Makes a person feel younger.
•Firms tummy and buttocks
•Keeps spouses connected emotionally.
•Offers pain-relief.
•Gives people a positive attitude on life.
•Reduced risk of heart disease.
•Makes a person more calm.
•Improves fitness level.
•Makes a person less irritable.
•Reduced depression.
•Improved sense of smell.
•Has a therapeutic effect on immune system.
•Better bladder control.
•Relieves menstrual cramps.
•Helps people sleep better.
•Improves digestion.
•Healthier teeth.
•Helps folks remember more.
•Produces chemicals in the brain to stimulate the growth of new dendrites.
•Lowers the level of cortisol, a hormone that can trigger fatigue and cravings.
•Lowers feelings of insecurity.
•Increases level of commitment.
•Less-frequent colds and flu. Report

I can testify to many of these benefits.

Women that complain of headache etc little do they know that the so-called sex is the cure!

I remember reading a magazine some years back and couples were interviewd on how often they are intimate. This lady said, she made sure they at least have it every- day if not at least 5x because LIFE IS TOO SHORT! She wants to enjoy her husband because anything can happen anytime!. I was like.."light bulb??? Nothing will happen to our husbands in Jesus name. But yeah, life is too short! You only get to live this life once. Why not go all the miles...

Let me introduce you guys to the 'CALENDAR'..I have been doing the calendar thing now 6 to 7 years now. I mark every time we are intimate. So at the end of every month my husband and I go over it and if it was a good count thumbs up and if not work better next month and at the end of the year we calculate how many times it came up to and compare with the previous year! Oh yes. Care to know how it came about? My husband was always complaining then ( I guess he was sexually starved ha ha) that we did not do it when I think we did and there was no way to prove until we were in the company of some friends and this issue came up and a friend just brought it up like " haven't you heard of the calendar? I was like let me in. She said, whenever you do it mark it down! And if he is complaining that he never got anything, show him the calendar...Wow that brought so much relief. from something bad to something beautiful! I have hearts marked down all over the calendar if it was a fantastic one, you see 2 or 3 hearts with codes like VS(very sensual) or it could be VVS (very very sensual) or VVVSP (very very very sensual & passionate) or see arrows all over the place and sometimes just one heart or a 'Q'.

We are all here to learn from each other. The word of God says"iron sharpeneth iron".

NOTE - I just had to share this here as i was so blessed by it..may God help us as wives to do the needful and may God help our husbands too. I await comments from you my esteemed readers.

A MUST READ ON SEX FOR MARRIED COUPLES 2

2010-01-10T13:59:00.000-08:00

This is a continuation of the message on sex in marriage.. i believe we should step up our games as wives.Lets do the needful as one of my dear sister said on a discussion board on the issue of the "other woman".. Lets not drive our men over board by starving them sexually.May God help us all...

PULL HIM DOWN PARTNER FROM OPEN HEAVENS BY E.A ADEBOYE

Bible in One Year:
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
(Is 43 - Is 45)

Memorise: "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" (Prov 14:1)

Read: Ecclesiastes 9:7-10
7 Go thy way, eat thy bread with joy, and drink thy wine with a merry heart; for God now accepteth thy works.
8 Let thy garments be always white; and let thy head lack no ointment.
9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
10 Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.

In Malachi 2:14, God said that He is a witness in the dealings between husbands and their wives. In other words, marriage is so important to God that He personally observes what each partner does, either to build or to destroy the home. "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" (Prov 14:1). God's original purpose for a woman in the life of her husband is to be a suitable helper. There are two broad categories of partners: They are the Pull Him Down (PHD) partners and the Build Him Up (BHU) partners. Every married couple falls into one of these. A PHD wife is one who takes away something good in her husband, reduces his worth or contributes in any way to dethrone him from where God has placed him. One area many wives have pulled down their husbands is by denying them sexual satisfaction. Some temptations are as a result of sexual starvation while others are as a result of lust.

When a man looks outside because of denial of sexual intimacy, that is sexual starvation. But if after being satisfied by the spouse, the fellow still goes out to sleep with another person, that is pure lust. It is a foolish pastor's wife that will starve her husband sexually. In the make up of the human body, the woman was designed to exercise greater restraint in sexual pull than the man. However, it is pure wickedness for a woman to use such strength to the disadvantage of the man. Quite a number of husbands are sexually starved. From their lustful look at some women, you can tell they are starved. To some sisters, love-making once in one or two weeks is enough. It is not enough! Remember, one major reason for love- making is for oneness. Even after child birth, you have to continue your trip to oneness until your last breath. For the first 35 years of marriage, it is suggested that couples meet at least 3 or 4 times per week. It could be more but should not be less. As the marriage grows older, adjust according to your needs and stamina. Whatever grace you will require to satisfy your spouse, ask the Lord for it and He will give you and bless your union. Sexually starved partners become depressed, resentful, revengeful, uncooperative, bad leaders. They are prone to sins such as masturbation, fornication and adultery, rape, divorce, loose morals, and lust. If you are exposing your partner to such risks, you are a PHD partner.

ACTION POINT:
The Christian wife or minister's wife who is nonchalant towards her husband's sexual needs, believing he cannot be unfaithful, is foolishly daring. To avoid disappointment, meet his needs from today.

A MUST READ ON SEX FOR MARRIED COUPLES

2010-01-07T17:25:00.000-08:00

This was sent to me from a group i belong to on facebook called The Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG) Worldwide, its from a daily devotional book written by the General overseer of the church, Pastor E.A Adeboye, this devotional book has been a blessing to millions including my humble self. Seeing this , i felt like shouting Hallelujah, as i have had some cases recently on this issue and my candid opinion is that as wives, we must perform our wifely duties no matter how "inconveniencing"..May God give us wisdom to do what is right and may He help us to rekindle the romance in our marriages, so that things can flow naturally..wink!wink! wink!lol, i await comments on this.

ANY ROOM FOR STRANGERS?

Memorise: "For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness" (1 Thess 4:7)

Read: 1 Thessalonians 4:3-7
3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication:
4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;
5 Not in the lust of concupiscence, even as the Gentiles which know not God:
6 That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter: because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified.
7 For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness.

"Owe no man anything, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law" (Rom 13:8).

We are commanded to owe no man. That means a genuine believer will not be happy to owe God or his fellow man. One area many people are owing today is in the area of intimacy in marriage. It is a sin to refuse your spouse when the fellow demands intimacy. Some sisters have turned their bodies into commodities for sale. When their husbands grant their requests, they will willingly yield to calls for intimacy. But if they failed to perform - whether as a result of not having the means or deliberately, the woman will say in her mind, 'I know where I will get you'. Whenever he asks to be intimate, she will shun him. That is a gross abuse of God's blessing! Why did you marry? Some are always complaining of being tired, having headaches, having had a rough day, back pain, etc. If you are fond of making excuses to keep your body to yourself, remember you lost the right to do so the day you said 'I do' to your spouse. Refusing him or her under whatever guise amounts to violating your marriage vows. You are a debtor!

Do you know there are some men, even ministers who give baseless excuses such as "I am afraid of having another baby", "I am not just interested", "Is lovemaking all there is to marriage ?" and have denied their wives of intimacy for up to 3, 6, 12 months or more? At this stage, it has gone beyond just fraud to a height of wickedness. Are you starving your spouse sexually? If you frustrate him or her to the point of committing adultery, God will hold you responsible. Both of you will go to hell together and remain eternal enemies. Most women will not want to hear that their husbands have another woman outside, yet they refuse to satisfy them. If a man is satisfied with food, no matter how alluring the food he is offered outside, there will be no room in his stomach. Unfortunately, because a good number of men are sexually starved, there is room for strange women to fill. If your husband is keeping late nights, or going out with other women, before you blame him, first find out if you are not the cause. Are you satisfying your spouse as the Lord would want you to? If you do what you should, there would be no room for strangers.

ACTION POINT:
Sexual satisfaction of your spouse is a strong weapon against strange men or women.

2010, YOUR YEAR OF UNSTOPPABLE BLESSINGS

2009-12-31T19:05:00.000-08:00

I am so excited to welcome us all into this year of purpose and possibilities. I see God doing mighty things with us all, as He will confirm His words with signs and wonders this year.

I told a couple of friends at the beginning of the month of December 2009, that i was done with fasting or waiting on the Lord by abstaining from food as i had done so much that sometimes i starve instead of fast!lol.
So i went through a greater part of December 2009 eating..lol, (i love food, i wish i had the type of system that can take much food without it showing as fat on my body!lol,) anyways, i was eating until i got led to do a three days fast with my extended family which i did and yes it was a great experience. So going forward in this new year, for me, except i am led, i will not engage in any fast..lol.The outcome of my fast will be unleashed here as we progress into the year, but know that for this year to be as remarkable as has been prophesied for us all, we must:

1. Be "EGO" driven - Exalt God Only and not Edge Him Out - It must be all about God this year..Kindly read 1 Corinthians 1- 18-31, and read it in the Message translation alongside any other translation to better appreciate and understand why it should be all about God this year 2010.

2.We must be positive Influence as we are all leaders and leadership is defined as influence! So we are either leading ourselves, our families, workers , or people God has placed around us to look up to us..We must lead them right..Jeremiah 1 - 4, will tell us more about all of us being leaders even before we were born.

3. The company we keep must be right, this year is not the year for keeping ungodly relationships..Amos 3- 3, says two cannot walk together except they are in agreement, so if there is no agreement in your talk and walk, please cut the person/people off. Mind you..As married couples..Divorce is not permitted..Read Mark 10, so when i talk of cutting off people, your spouse is not someone to be cut off..God will grant us wisdom in Jesus name amen.This is a year to be in the company i call;Daniel's Company!

Note : In the book of Daniel, Daniel had three friends that were saved a couple of times because of Him, His association with those his friends was beneficial to both parties, so this year we must discern in our spirit and choose the right association that will lead us in the path of purpose. May God help us all.

Do you know- That those who know their God shall be strong and carry out great exploits .Daniel 11-32b

Prayer Point - Pray to truly love God and take His words as your reality this year 2010.
Ask God that He should bless you as He blessed Daniel and his friends in Daniel 1 - 17.

God bless us all and happy celebrations to all those celebrating birthdays, anniversaries etc , this month of January.

I LOVE MY HUSBAND BUT HE LOVES GOD MORE! HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEARIE

2009-12-29T17:57:00.000-08:00

Happy birthday to the one who chose me amongst so many to bear his name, the one i call my Priest, mentor, friend, brother,Confidante, sounding board and partner in progress.May God beautify your life the more as you celebrate today and may your wish of loving Jesus Christ more be granted in Jesus name amen.

NOTE-
You are God's own gift to me, and i will cherish you forever.Thanks for being the friend that you are, my personal life coach that i do not pay a fee to consult, the one i can run to, to hear the truth always, no matter how much it hurts..you deliver on that with a smile! lol.
Thanks for being a responsible husband and father, a loving and responsible son to your parents and mine, a wonderful brother to your siblings and mine, a friend to all we have chosen to call friends!

Thanks for your integrity and trustworthiness, thanks for always saying the right words as led by the spirit of God. Thanks for all the laughter and sunshine you bring to me and the children.Thanks for your love for God and the things of God..You are a rare gem, a blessing to us all and a blessing to your generation .May God protect you and may Psalm 91 speak for you .May the beauty of God be upon you always. Love you forever with the love of the Lord and with my human mind!lol

YEAR 2009 VS YEAR 2010

2009-12-22T14:42:00.000-08:00

I have been doing what i call "stock taking" of my year 2009 and projections for year 2010 and beyond.What is clear in my spirit is that 2010 will be a year of Purpose.It will be a year where God will help us fulfill destiny as we focus on Him in Faith. Next year will be a year of living by Faith as the bible says the Just shall live by their faith. For those that are married, these are some of the issues we must stand and pray about and make changes where needed

1. Your marriage must be taken seriously..You as a woman must be submissive even if your husband does not deserve it as you think.The bible is clear about that, we must be SUMBISSIVE to get our marriages on the right track .
2, We must beautify ourselves in and out, talk right, dress well, make our homes neat and be hospitable
3. We must treat our husbands as Lord and not rubbish them before others, we must learn to respect our heads and love them despite themselves.
4. We must bring ROMANCE back to our marriages, stop giving excuses with jobs and the children, its time to love your husband afresh and bring back all that will bring the spark back in your marriage.
5. Its time to pray like never before and call your situation what you want it to be and not what you are seeing, In Genesis, it was what Adam called the animals that they were named!
6. Its time to sow seeds that will speak on your behalf and for your family as seed time and harvest is sure.
7. Its time to study to show thy self approved, we must read our bibles until we get the Truth of God's words in us, lets study other books too that will help us improve our lives..i am currently studying two books as if i am writing examinations on them..lol, they are The Assignment by Mike Murdock and The Purpose driven life by Rick Warren.
8. We all need Godly mentors that will help us live better lives, pray for one and meet the person, one on one, Pls note that your mentor is not the author and finisher of your faith but a human being, so pls do not equate a mentor with God/Jesus Christ.
9. We must be accountable to our spouses, this is very key for a peaceful marriage.Lets learn to be honest in our relationships.
10. We must ask God for Wisdom and understanding in all areas of our lives, year 2010 will be a year of the Holy Spirit as He is the best teacher, so this is a good time to get baptised in the Holy Spirit for exploit next year.
11. Its time to pray for Godly relationships/friendships and pray for the seperation of all "LOTS" in our lives, To fulfill destiny, there are some associations that we must take to God and ask if its a comma or a fullstop , May God help us all in this area. Mind you..this should not be in a husband/wife relationship, God is clear on putting away/divorce.
12.Year 2010 will be a yearto give thanks at all times and move as we are led by the spirit of God..

For those that are single:
1. Its time to serve God like never before, you must be God minded, so that God too will be over mindful of you.
2. You must believe God for your spouse and not be led by what you see or hear..age is a number, the wrong spouse can make you end in hell, so you must go to your maker and ask Him for His perfect will for you as regards your life partner.
3. You must ask God to beautify your life and perfume you in all areas.
4. You must keep the right company
5. You must be prayerful and thankful

Note - My prayer is that we should know we are on earth for a purpose and should live our lives with eternity as our main focus..let him who thinks he stands, take heed lest he falls...1 Corinthians 10 - 12. Jesus Christ is Lord!

MANY THINGS TO REMEMBER THIS DECEMBER

2009-12-01T12:41:00.000-08:00

Hey you my dear reader, welcome to December 2009, its your month of divine recovery and fruitfulness.I am truly amazed at how quickly the months have gone by, God is indeed faithful. To help us better appreciate what God has done these past months, i have this beautiful note written by my dear sister in the Lord and friend of Destiny-Sister Toyin Adekanmbi, I pray you will be blessed as much as i was blessed reading this and above all be truly grateful to God for all His benefits; which includes being able to read and comprehend, but above all appreciate God for this note/Post.

Welcome to the last month of the year. Truly the end of a thing is better than the beginning thereof. It has been a memorable 2009 with many tales to tell but our story is not complete without so many things the Lord has done to take us through the trough and the crest of 2009.

This article will attempt to give another meaning to the popular “DECEMBER to REMEMBER” cliché by stirring us to do a checklist of many things that we need to “REMEMBER this DECEMBER” .
David in Psalm 103 vs 2 captured it succinctly when he said “FORGET not His BENEFITS”. We either remember or forget His good benefits to us.

David’s songs of praise challenges us that as we seek for more , we must not lose sight of the many uncountable things the good Lord has already done for us. This is why we shall explore many things worth remembering this December as we celebrate the goodness of God from January to November.

Do you that one of the signs of the end times is being unthankful (Read 2 Timothy 3:2). Strange you will say! Paul equated lack of gratitude to arrogance, ungodliness and disobedience. May we not be ungrateful to God.

I therefore concluded that the best way to celebrate DECEMBER is not to go to God with another laundry list of requests on things that have not yet manifested physically. I will rather use this month to reflect on the many great and not-so-obvious things the Lord has done and humbly express my deepest thanksgiving to a good God who “lives inside the praises of His people”

Like Habakkuk 3:17 said “Though the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines, though the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food, though there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls, YET I will rejoice in the LORD, I will be joyful in God my Saviour”
Even if I did not get the biggest CONTRACT , YET my CONTACT with the greatest God is not cut off.
Even though the economy continues in RECESSION, YET my life is still IN-SESSION with the grace of God.
All the newspaper said the GDP is not rising, YET your own GDP (God’s Divine Provision) remains sure and limitless forever.
Even though the baby didn’t come as planned, YET God still sees me as a special babe worth a miracle in due season.
Even though the dream job did not come, YET God keeps me in His dream forever.
Even though the eyes of my boss failed to recognise my worth, YET I remain the apple of God’s eyes.
Even though we did not meet our target for the year, YET our lives escaped being the target of the evil ones on daily basis.
Even though I fell few times, YET I was not cast out…He kept reaching out to keep me up.

For 11 months non-stop, we have enjoyed 8,016 hours of free air to keep us alive and an immeasurable gift of LIFE for 28,857,600 seconds…yes over 28millions seconds…..God is really worthy of our praises in millions times.

How uncountable are his goodness to us, how unfathomable are His love and how gracious will it be if we appreciate Him this December.
Like David, I shall not FORGET his benefits because if He has done it before , He will do it again at His time. What about you....will you forget his benefits?

Shalom and happy new month.

Toyin Adekanmbi
Champions Family - a prayer group committed to raising Godly generation and championing the cause of heaven in every home.
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A GLORIOUS DESTINY

2009-11-29T23:36:00.001-08:00

I woke up yesterday with a song in my heart...My destiny reject every form of manipulations. This is one song i learnt from a mentor and a father in the Lord - Apostle Wole Oladiyun. I have been blessed by his ministry and i bought City People magazine every week then, just to read his write up and pray his kind of prayers....(My dear husband believes otherwise..he wonders what i do with such magazines..and as i always tell him, its my business to know what is happening in my industry..lol, apart from Pastor Wole's write up, i used to also read Pastor Poju's write up but if the truth be told..i enjoy some bit of gossipy stuff there!hahahahaha..I am delivered now as my vendor has lost a customer..my priorities have changed i guess and my industry may soon change!lol)

On My father - in the Lord's kind of prayers..subject for another day..lol, i cannt resist putting this here though from a dear friend that i was chatting with on various things including my level of prayer..and he was like;" Bridget..are you praying from a position of Rest or from Reaction?
'.. i paused and told him from both positions..Rest because i know, in whom i believe and know its a concluded battle and victory on my behalf but reaction, that a fly does not perch on a hot pan..so Pray i must..by fire by force my victory must be enforced!lol

As i was saying, i woke up with the song and it got me thinking and as usual, when i am in that mode..i pray and go to the word of God to confirm the "vibes" i am getting..and looking through, i saw that manipulation of destinies started from Genesis..God had His plans for man but the devil in his way came in the form of the serpent and manipulated the woman and Adam from the paradise that God created for them, leading to the downfall of mankind...

From there,started more manipulations of destinies, from Cain wasting Abel's life in Genesis 4, to David wasting Uriah's life in the battlefield because of his wife Bathsheba in 2 Samuel 11..i saw a lot of lives being wasted by the devil, who is a thief that comes to steal, kill and destroy..using people that are influenced by him to affect and destroy lives..

Imagine if the Hebrew midwives had agreed to be manipulated by the King's proclamation to waste Moses life as a baby in Exodus 1 and 2 ..what would have happened to the Isrealites plus the first five books in the bible ?..i leave that to my debating opponent/co -debaters to answer!lol..this is for you to know that i "debated" in school!hahahaha

Seriously now and jokes apart, we all need to pray that our destinies must reject manipulations..check out the story of Amnon, Tamar and Absalom..they all had wasted destinies because one person the devil wanted it so and used a friend Jonadab to convince Amnon to violate his sister Tamar, from there..you can see a chain reaction in all lives but honestly, if you read the bible carefully, their father David brought evil into their lives with what he did by wasting Uriah..(this brings me back to the issue of our fathers taking the lead..May God help our fathers to lead according to God's will for our families, so that our children will fulfill their God given destinies).

There are so many cases of destinies destructed in the bible..Naboth's destiny was wasted by Jezebel and even Prophet Elijah, took a quick flight to heaven before she will get to him..The man fear face!lol, hahahaha, who wan die? lol, check out 1 Kings 21.

If you truly take your time and read through the bible, you will see people that were manipulated by their parents, friends, and others and they ended up living a life that was not destined for them..as God said that His thoughts towards us are thoughts of Hope and a future..Jeremiah 29 - 11

So dear reader of this note, its time to read the bible for yourself and get out God's words, to help you fulfill your glorious destiny which God has for you..Jabez in 1 Chronicles 9 - 10, came to a realisation that his mother had given him a name that was not given to him by God and manipulated his destiny..so he cried out to God and God granted him his request..Some of us have to do that now..we have toiled, done things and yet nothing to show for it..its time to pray that your destiny must reject manipulations in Jesus name.. before you do that , if you are not saved and do not know Christ, you belong to the devil and he will be free to do with your life as he will..God forbid! So say this Prayers below:

Dear Lord Jesus, i acknowledge that i am a sinner and i ask that you wash me with your precious blood, forgive me my sins and come into my heart, be my Lord and Saviour and help me to live your kind of life in Jesus name amen..

Prayer Point - Ask God to visit your foundations and remove every form of manipulation that is in your life, ask God to help your destiny to reject every form of manipulations in Jesus name amen.

NOTE: Do you know a lot of homes are in disarray because of manipulations from inlaws/friends, a lot of lives are no where near God's desired plan for their lives, because they have been manipulated to live a worthless life? you must pray until your change comes..

ACTION POINT:
Those who ignore the devil live in self-deception. Those who recognize the devil live in fear. Don't be caught in any of these! Pastor. E.A Adeboye on Open Heavens Devotion book of Saturday November 28.

NB - This Note was written for the group; Next Generation of Fathers on facebook..I am expecting you to join because i will soon stop all this free notes to those that are not members!lol!hahahahahaha

FATHERS , YOU MUST TAKE THE LEAD 2

2009-11-26T18:07:00.000-08:00

I believe we have been having a great time, especially those of us in America and in Nigeria, with declared holidays to celebrate thanksgiving and the muslim sallah. Lets take this time to spend quality time with God and our families.

I will continue with the message i started yesterday on Fathers, you must take the lead. I sincerely believe that the work of training and educating the children rests on the father first and then the mother. If you read Genesis 18 - 19, you will see where it is said of Abraham by God, that he will command his children and household after him..so if Abraham did not have an intimate relationship with God, God would not have said in verse 17, of Genesis 18, that can He hide from Abraham what He - God was about to do..From this conversation in the above scripture, you will see Abraham's role as an intercessor, interceeding for Lot, his nephew and his family.So those that think its a woman's role to be a "prayer" should have a rethink!

When you look through the bible especially at the lives of the Patriarchs, you will discover that not much reference was made to the mothers/women, as it was the men that God expected to take the lead as fathers.

Taking a look at my life and that of my siblings, i can not over emphasis the role my dad played in our lives, one of his favorite words was from the book of Proverbs 22 - 1 ,that talks about a good name being better than riches.He so hammered on these words that when it was time to go to higher institutions, he would call us and give us a lecture on how he will not come and bail us , if he found out that, we had joined the wrong gang in school or have entered into trouble with the school authorities or the police, little wonder we all did our best to keep his name and keep ourselves out of trouble! lol.

That i read voraciously and write today can be traced to my dad, as i can still remember vividly how, as a high school kid, i would come back for the holidays and read through a heap of three months old newspapers, my dad had kept for me, while i was in school.This, some of my friends find funny as they will tell me that some of the information are stale news but to me, it was news all thesame, stale or not! lol.

Also, that i am married to my dear husband today was a request to God, that i get a man that will be like my dad in terms of his devotion to his family or better than him and thank God for answers to prayers in this regard that my most favorite person is doing his bit as a father in words and in deeds.When i see him with the children, i get blessed knowing that my daughters will have a reference point, when its time to start a relationship.Years ahead o..but just knowing that i will not have to contend with bad boys syndrome with my daughters is enough to say thank you Jesus !lol..hahahaha.

So dear Father, its time to take the lead and build the next generation, may God help us all to take our place and play our roles as spelt out in the bible.Read Proverbs 22- 6, Deuteronomy 4 - 9, 6- 7, Psalm 78-3-6, Ephesians 6- 4 and 1 Samuel 12 - 2-3.

DO YOU KNOW - That every family on earth has a spiritual and physical destiny or an assignment to fulfill?Abraham's assignment was to be a father of Nations and a blessing through all generations, small wonder, those associated with that name are so blessed..that some of us sing today about Abraham's blessings being ours and we are blessed in the morning, noon time and evening.

Prayer Point - Ask God to reveal to you what your assignment and family's destiny is,and ask for the grace to fulfill it.

Action - Take out time to fashion out a 10 or 30 minutes program with your children weekly.

Note: In my house, my husband has a time out with the children called "Character time" , this is done every sunday evening and he explains to them a lesson for the week which they must apply, some times, its just a word.. i.e learning to say "please" or thank you..but it has helped my girls to behave as you hear them saying, "Daddy said, you should say please or thank you when necessary.lol

FATHERS, YOU MUST TAKE THE LEAD

2009-11-25T19:25:00.000-08:00

Hello all, happy thanksgiving to all our American fathers and to everyone as its definately time for us all to celebrate what God has been doing in our lives these past months.

I was given a tape recently by a dear friend/ sister of mine to give to my husband, that its a tape he must listen to as a father, i took it from her hands and told her that i must listen to it too as i have fathers that God has placed in my heart to help fulfill their God given mandate to be fathers in words and in deeds.

Till date, i am still amazed that God put the vision of this group in my heart and i still ask myself, is it because i am more of a tom-boy that God decided to give me the vision or because i see myself as one of the boys and have heard things from the men that i have no right hearing!lol

The passion to see the men of this generation succeed is such a burden on me that i am truly asking God, what do i do to reach out to these men He has brought into my world..how do i reach out to them, how do i let them know that leading their family into God's will is key for them to fulfill their destinies, how do i let them know that its their duty to keep their home and marriage together, praying, modeling the right and Godly behaviour that will make their sons want to be like them and their daughters look out for men like them to marry...Its a challenging job for me but one assurance that i have is that God has never given a vision without making all provisions needed to follow through..

I intend doing a research from the bible on who is to lead the home, even though i know that its the man's duty especially after listening to the tape i got from my friend..but just to back up my arguments before my dear fathers in this group, i will go all the way with my research and will unleash my findings on all of you as i progress!lol..so please do not miss the messages here, and be rest assured that whatever my findings are, i will back them up with prayers for the men of this group to be outstanding in all they do. God bless us all.

DO YOU KNOW - That the Jewish father see it as a point of duty and command to train up their children especially their sons? Do you also know that there are fathers that have dictated the success of their children..check out Tiger Woods, the Williams Sisters, George Bush Jnr, Kenneth Hagin Jnr, Richard Robert,Feb Idahosa and many others..these are people that their fathers spent time with , teaching and passing on the right values to, little wonder, the children are doing their best where ever they are..

Prayer Point- Pray that as a father, you will not miss it where your family is concerned and that you will not be like Prophet Eli in 1 Samuel 2- 12-36 in Jesus name amen.

Action - Take time out this weekend to spend quality time with your children, put off the fatherly airs and step into your children's world and get to really know them and what they like.., play with them, praise them and above all pray with them, lead them to Christ as its better now than later, because if you get their attention now, i bet you will smile later when other parents are losing it out there. God help us all.

NOTE - These message was sent out to the group the NEXT GENERATION OF FATHERS on facebook

LISTEN UP !

2009-11-23T22:39:00.000-08:00

Hello dear , Happy week of divine recovery according to 1 Samuel 30 - 8, i trust we are all doing great. I have been in a stock taking mode lately; looking at the past months and what is left of the year.Indeed the year has passed away like a breeze..is God not faithful to have kept us till now? that we are alive and well as we read this, is enough for someone here to give God a shout offering!Hallelujah!Glory to God forevermore!Waoh..i am excited, if you are not, borrow some of mine!lol.

Just this past sunday,on one of the Christian channels, i met a message preached by a Bishop Dale..He was actually closing or concluding his message but what i heard was enough to set me in a great mode that made me to conclude, that indeed stock taking was needed to help me create the kind of balance needed for my next level.

He said three things determine who we are:

1. Your money - What are you spending your money on, are you spending it on frivolous things like buying booze everyday for the boys while your home suffers?, are you spending on irrelevant things that have no eternal worth? what are you spending your money on?

2. Your shedule - What are you spending your time on..is it on "You, Yourself and i/me alone", lol..Honestly, when last did you spend one hour in the presence of God..maybe thats too long..okay 30 minutes in God's presence?..when last dear Father/Father to be, did you spend 60 solid minutes with your spouse, and children..p..le..ase not the hours of "fainting" on the bed o.( i tease my husband..most times, when he is home during the weekend, for sleeping over half of the day off..and i tell him, you are home but not home! as this is a case of fainting on the bed!lol..so tired that we all just leave him to sleep!!!! and boy can that man sleep when he wants to!lol..sorry dear, about this little secret of ours, lol). So do you have more time for your work and buddies than you have for God and your family?

3. Your Friends - Who are the friends you mingle with and who are those you shun?right now, i am seriously on the friendship case as i found out that i and some of my friends do not share the same core values, so now, i delibrately mind those i spend my time with..As its said, show me your friends and i will tell you who you are..are you in the company of those that feed your vices/weak points, are you in the company of the eagles or are you are mingling with chickens when you are meant to be soaring high?
Listen up dear, its time to put first things first, kindly take proper stock of the past eleven months and make amends where necessary..May God help us all to do the needed "check" and see where we need to make a change.

DO YOU KNOW - Committment is determined by actions? if you say you are committed to a person/ a cause/job, your corresponding actions will determine your level of committment .

Prayer Point: Ask God to help us to do a soul search this season and tidy up our lives..for those that are not saved, all you need is to pray for Christ to come into your life and be the Saviour of your soul first before any other thing.
Ask God for the grace to major in the things that will earn you eternal dividend in Jesus name amen.

Action - Honestly access yourself and make the committment to change, start with spending time in God's presence as top priority every day, then spend some quality time with your spouse and family...remember, its a case of huge deposits and huge withdrawals..all the wives in the house say aha..aha..!wink! wink! Lol..

NB - I am sure Bishop Dale will be mighty proud of me as i have taken his message to another level!lol
This post was sent to a group i created on facebook called "Next Generation of Fathers" ..if you want to receive such messages, kindly be a part of the group and also invite your friends that are fathers and fathers to-be, to join the group. Indeed more than ever before, this generation and the next generation of fathers shall praise the Lord in words and in deeds.Jesus is Lord!

MY PRAYER FOR US

2009-11-19T23:28:00.000-08:00

Thank God its Friday!Hippee! am so excited that i will get to sleep at least 2 extra hours uninterrupted! As a mother of three Prophetic children below the ages of 6, its a tough job being a wife, mother, blogger, facebooker, enterpreneur and above all a prayer!lol.
Recently my dear 14 months old son has been an instrument of correction in my prayer life. He has the habit of waking up at a particular time of the night, intially, i saw it as a pain/punishment from God and will always argue and sometimes querell with God..that even if you want me to do midnight prayers, must you wake me rudely and annoyingly with a crying baby that must now eat cereal and play before he goes back to bed? God why me?..lol and then prayer follows on my little darling's head..You are a blessing and not a pain as the blessings of God makes rich and adds no sorrow!hahaha! God has many children o!lol

Any ways, i am over that stage and i am now learning to enjoy the phase as adviced by my husband, who i always tell that "its easy to say as he is not the one doing the job"! lol! And so what i do now is to study, pray and command the day to favor me, my family and all those God has put in my life to partake of His goodness and this includes you my dear reading this message.So my Prayer for us today is that God will save us from secret faults and presumptuous sin, that the words of our mouth will be acceptable unto Him today (Psalm 19:12-14) . May God empower us to reach our goals, save us from all forms of error that may truncate our divine destinies and above all give us divine alertness to recognise divine opportunities in Jesus name amen.

DO YOU KNOW that Jesus said in Luke 18 - 1, that men ought always to pray and not to faint.

Prayer Point: May God help us to be persistent in our prayers until we get the desired change or results we want in Jesus name amen.

Have a terrific weekend and please remember me in your prayers as i take on the next phase of my work with God..Details coming soon! Love you all with the love of God.

Note - If the messages here has blessed you in anyway, kindly invite at least five persons to join the group (Next Generation of Fathers on Facebook)..People need to be blessed reading and knowing God's words and above all...You may just be a soul winner with that simple gesture of invitation. God bless you as you help populate heaven and decongest hell.Jesus Christ is Lord!

TIME TO SPEAK UP !

2009-11-18T23:59:00.000-08:00

I trust we are all doing great.Be blessed reading this message.

God has given us a mouth that even our enemies and adversaries will not be able to resist or gain say, so says Luke 21-15.

I have found out that most times what you permit by keeping silent continues..so dear member its time to open your mouth wide and decree from scriptures what God has destined for you..He said His thoughts towards you are thoughts of good and not of evil, so if you are not seeing good around you, then you can speak out and change it with your mouth.

The Shunnamite woman that Elisha prayed for a child for, saw her child dead, she took him and when she was asked the problem, she said "it is well" and indeed it became well with her child. Check out her story in 2 Kings 4 :8 - 37.

Another case is the case of Lazarus, he was dead and buried and Jesus Christ called him out with a loud voice and he that was dead came out alive..John 11-40-43.

So its time to search the word and speak up, and anything that does not align with God's words in your life will give way today in Jesus name amen.

DO YOU KNOW- Jabez cried out in 1 Chronicle 4 - 9-10 and God changed his story.So what is your story? let Isaiah 62 - 6b-7, be your guide to keep not silent until you are made a praise!

Prayer point - Ask God to help you open your mouth and pray your way into your breakthrough and testimony in Jesus name amen.

WELCOME TO THE MONTH OF NOVEMBER 2009

2009-11-02T22:50:00.000-08:00

Its your month of harvest dear reader/follower of this blog. Psalm 126, will be your portion this season in Jesus name amen. I am sharing my monthly note from one of my mentors - Pastor Bolade. Read and be blessed. Those that can take time to do more reading, please read the book of Exodus chapter 15 and pray with it, God is set to do mighty things in our lives this month. God bless us all and make us a praise always.

Now unto the King Eternal, Immortal, Invisible, the only wise God be honor and glory for ever and ever (I Tim 1:17).

Dearly beloved,

This is to wish you a glorious and fulfilling November in the name of the Lord. The King Eternal that has sustained you from January will protect you and you will see the ending of year 2009 and beyond in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
You and all that is yours will not be victims of evil circumstances as the blood of Jesus will stand to protect you in Jesus name. Various mishaps happen towards the end of the year but concerning you and all that is yours the Lord will deliver you from every evil work and He will preserve you to His heavenly kingdom in the name of JESUS (II Tim 4:18).

Ecclesiastes 10:5-7, records about an error and a mishap, a folly and evil where princes are walking and the servants are riding on horses. Slow progress for those that are supposed to advance and progress exponentially. My prayer for you this month is that every barrier and hindrance that has slowed your progress down shall give way and all that you are supposed to achieve in this year 2009, no matter where you are now, you will achieve and accomplish them in Jesus name.

To ride on horse back is to make unusual and effortless progress, this month of November unusual and effortless progress is your lot in Jesus name.

And the hand of the Lord was on Elijah and he girded up his loins and ran before Ahab to the entrance of Jezreel (I Kings 18:46).
God empowered Elijah and he outran the chariots of Ahab, my Lord will empower you and you will finish this year victoriously. God will remove every adversary at the finishing line and you will have cause to celebrate and testify.

Welcome to your month of EXPONENTIAL PROGRESS AND ADVANCEMENT.

I love you
Bolade Ade-Jagun
RCCG Holy Ghost Zone Texas
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GOD CAN NOT FAIL

2009-10-26T00:59:00.000-07:00

I sent this message to a group i created on facebook called Next Generation of Fathers and i decided to share it here as i believe it will bless us all.

Happy new week , i trust God has been faithful to us in this month of celebrations. My encouragement today is that despite the fact that everything around us seem to have failed, the truth remains that God can not fail. Its time to trust Him more and to let Him know, that you are not going anywhere until He answers you, as He is not a failure and so you wont end up a failure.

Do you know - Many times we talk more to our friends than we talk to God? Any man or woman that will talk more to God, will talk less to man - (Damola Akiogbe).

Prayer Point - Ask God for the grace to hold on, until your change comes, tell Him that like Jacob in Genesis 32-26, you will not let him go until He, God blesses you.

Have a marvelous week, I await outstanding testimonies from us all.God bless us all

PRACTICAL STEPS TO HELP YOUR HUSBAND GROW

2009-10-16T00:47:00.000-07:00

I saw this in a friend's note, Tholu Adedeji on facebook and asked his permission to share it here. Am sure we have seen this in other forms before but in these days where homes are under siege, we as wives need to play our parts not just by praying alone but by living the words we want to see happen in our homes, may God help us all to work on ourselves and live the life of love by taking the practical steps below. Happy reading

Helping Your Husband Grow

Wives can't change their husbands, but wives can and do have a tremendous influence on their husbands. How can you make that influence positive?

1. Men respond positively to praise. One of the most common complaints men make in my office is: "Dr. Chapman, in my work I am respected. People come to me for advice. But at home, all I get is criticism." What she considers suggestions, he reads as criticism. Her efforts to stimulate growth have backfired.

Give him praise. The fastest way to influence a husband is to give him praise. Praise him for effort, not perfection. You may be asking, But if I praise him for mediocrity, will it not stifle growth? The answer is a resounding "No". Your praise urges him on to greater accomplishments.

My challenge is to look for things your husband is doing right and praise him. Praise him in private, praise him in front of the children, praise him in front of your parents and his parents, praise him in front of his peers. Then stand back and watch him go for the gold.

2. Requests are more productive than demands. None of us like to be controlled, and demands are efforts at controlling. "If you don't mow the grass this afternoon, then I'm going to mow it." I wouldn't make that demand unless you want to be the permanent lawn mower. It is far more effective to say, "Do you know what would really make me happy?" Wait until he asks, "What?" Then say, "If you could find time this afternoon to mow the grass. You always do such a great job."

Let me illustrate by applying the principle to you. How do you feel when your husband says "I haven't had an apple pie since the baby was born. I don't guess I'm going to get any more apple pies for eighteen years"? Now, doesn't that motivate you? But what if he says, "You know what I'd really like to have? One of your apple pies. You make the best apple pies in the world. Sometime when you get a chance, I'd really love one of your apple pies. Chances are he'll have an apple pie before the week is over. Requests are more productive than demands.

3. Love is a two way street. If a wife wants to enhance her husband's ability to give her emotional love, perhaps her greatest influence will be in loving him. In my book, The Five Love Languages, I talk about the importance of discovering your husband's primary love language - the thing that really makes him feel loved: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, physical touch, or acts of service. Once you discover it, pour it on. Husbands are drawn to wives who are meeting their emotional need for love.

Can you do it, even if he is not loving you. God did. He loved us when we were unlovely. But that's God. I'm me. I know, but you are God's child and He can empower you to love an unlovely spouse. I've seen it many times. A wife chooses to speak her husband's love language, even though she doesn't feel loved by him. He warms up and in time begins expressing her love language. Can emotional love be re-born in a marriage? You bet. But someone must begin the process. Why not you?

4. Defensiveness reveals the inner self. A wife says, "Why does my husband get so defensive? All I have to do is mention that the grass needs mowing and he goes ballistic."

This husband is revealing his self-esteem hot spot. Some experience in his past has tied his sense of self worth to mowing the grass. Your mention of the grass translates "She thinks I'm not doing my job. I work like crazy, and now she is on my case about the grass." He sees it as a negative statement about his worth.

I know you didn't mean it that way. That's why I suggesting you observe his defensiveness, so that you can learn what is going on inside of him. We don't know these emotional hot spots until we touch one. It would be a good idea to make a list of all your husband's defensive reactions. Note what you said and did and how he responded. This insight will help you discover another way to discuss the topic that will be less threatening to his self-esteem.

Both husbands and wives hold a tremendous influence on their spouse. However, it is up to you whether your influence is positive.

Adapted from The Family You've Always Wanted by Dr. Gary Chapman. To find out more about Dr. Chapman's resources, visit www.fivelovelanguages.com.

MAKE SURE YOU ARE TAKING YOUR LAUGHTER MEDICINE

2009-10-15T00:31:00.000-07:00

I got inspired to start a laughter blog recently in a dream, and the word was Bridget Elesin laughs just as God laughs, i woke up and pondered why a laughter blog as i am not a comedian, lol, the only thing i could make out of that dream was that i love being happy and i laugh a lot..so i did not give it too much thought, until a day, i had my children's BFF in California ( I miss them all, Ada, Chidera and my Oke bobo) over at my place, they were at their best as usual, and after breakfast, i asked them to go play in their room while i clean up the sitting room which was looking as if it had been hit by a hurricane..lol, as they entered the room, i turned on the television and i heard Joel Osteen, one of my favorite Telly Pastor preaching,(I love his style of starting his messages with jokes..Joel Osteen and Jesse Duplantis are two of my favorite male Telly pastors).

His topic on that day was on laughter and as he kept speaking, he confirmed in few minutes what i heard in my dream and boy, i took down notes from his message that made me know the laughter blog was a done deal..i did more researches on laughter and also on the name, Bridget Elesin laughs just as God laughs..and i found out that God laughs on two occasions; one in situations where the heathens are raging against His anointed children and on occasions when individuals think they can do things on their own or think things are impossible like Sarah in the bible..and with this i decided to start the blog and today, its there with just a couple of messages and jokes to make you laugh in this world of ours full of many challenges.

I know i should be doing more and with time follow up with other things with the laughter blog, but for now, i am happy i started and more grateful to God, for bringing Pastor Joel Osteen my way to confirm the instruction to start the blog. My prayer for us all today is that God will help us all to have reasons to laugh as laughter is indeed tonic for the soul and help us all to laugh our way to our good given dreams. You can visit my laughter blog on www.bridget-elesin-laughs.blogspot.com.Enjoy the message below: Laughter is Good Medicine by Pastor Joel Osteen

Make Sure You're Taking Your Medicine

A lot of the sickness in our world is simply because we don't have the joy that we should. When we live uptight and on edge, it causes headaches, digestive problems, lack of energy. We don't sleep well. Much of this would go away if we would just learn how to deal with the stress properly. One of the greatest stress relievers God has given us is laughter. Laughter is like taking medicine. It not only makes you feel better but it actually releases healing throughout your system. When we laugh it restores and rejuvenates what the pressures of life have taken out.

Proverbs 17:22 puts it like this, "A happy heart is like a good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing." Notice, when we're good-natured and full of joy, taking time to laugh, taking time to play, it's like taking a good medicine. That's what helps us to stay healthy. In fact, medical science tells us that people that laugh, it boosts their immune system. Laughter reduces blood pressure. People that laugh regularly are 40% less likely to have a heart attack than people that don't laugh regularly. Laughter triggers the right side of the brain, which helps release creativity, helps us to make better decisions. Laughter activates the body's natural tranquilizers that not only help us to calm down but it helps us to sleep better.

I know this one lady, she hadn't slept well in years and years. She was constantly taking tranquilizers. She had taken them so long it hardly even affected her anymore. She had tried everything, different diets, different doctors, different medicines. Nothing seemed to work. But this one doctor gave her a very unusual prescription. He said, "Every night before you go to bed, you need to watch something funny – a funny movie, a funny video, a funny drama – something that makes you laugh." She started doing that night after night. Month after month she got better and better. Today she is totally off her medications. She can sleep like a baby.

What happened
She was having to take man-made tranquilizers because she wasn't releasing the natural tranquilizers that God put on the inside. Could it be that you would receive the healing you've been longing for if you would just lighten up and learn to laugh more often? Could it be that the headaches, backaches, migraines, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, even depression would go away if we would just take time to play, to laugh, to enjoy the life God has given us?

When my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 1981 this is one of the things that she did. During the day, instead of going to bed, instead of sitting around feeling sorry for herself, thinking about her problems, she would go in and watch cartoons on television. She would sit there and laugh and laugh. What was she doing? She was releasing the healing that God put on the inside. If she couldn't find something funny to watch she'd just go look at my brother, Paul. That always made her laugh!

I know when I've had a hard day and I feel pressured and uptight it causes me to have a backache. Right down the center of my spine I can feel this pain and I know it's just from tension. I do just what I'm asking you to do. I'll go play with my children. They always make me laugh. Or, I'll watch something funny on television. Invariably, after a few minutes of laughing that pain is totally gone. It's just like I had a good massage but it was a lot cheaper! The medicine I'm talking about today can save you a lot of money. It can save you from buying sleeping pills, tranquilizers and anti-depressants. Laughter releases the body's natural medicines. It can not only bring physical healing but laughter will help strengthen our relationships.

I have a good friend that is a doctor. He told how this lady came in that has a severe case of fibromyalgia. It's very painful. She would spend hours a day in bed suffering. She had chronic fatigue, no energy. She was in poor health both physically and emotionally. She had gone through tough times and lived a basically very depressed life. The doctor gave her medication to treat the pain but he knew that was only dealing with the symptoms and not the root cause. After he talked with her a while he realized just how depressed she was. He asked her a very interesting question. He said, “How long has it been since you've had a good, hearty laugh?

The lady thought about it a moment. She said, "Doctor, I haven't laughed like that in over 30 years, since I was a child."

He said, "Well, here's your prescription. You need to go find every funny movie you can find. Go find every funny book you can read and laugh as much as you possibly can."

She began to do just that. Instead of sitting around feeling sorry for herself she began to laugh. Little by little she got her joy back. Every day she would laugh more and more. She started feeling better. The pain began to subside. She got her energy back. Three months later she went back to the doctor for her checkup. He said the moment she walked in he could tell something was different. There was a sparkle in her eye, a spring in her step, a smile on her face.

She said, "Doctor, I've never felt so good in all of my life."

Month after month, as she continued to relearn how to laugh, eventually, all those diseases left her body. There is too much sickness in our world today. Much of it is related to sadness. It's directly related to the fact that we don't smile enough. We live uptight and stressed out. What's happening? There's a healing power that we're not tapping into.

Friends, there is healing power in laughter. When you have a joyful spirit constantly on the inside, health and healing are flowing. Let me ask you what the doctor asked her, "How long has it been since you've had a good, hearty laugh?" A day? A week? A month? A year? Ten years?

There's a medicine available, a cure that is completely free. It has no side effects. You can take it as often as you'd like.

I'm going to give you a prescription today: Every day, at least three times, find something funny that makes you laugh out loud. Not a laugh on the inside. Not a chuckle down in here. No, release that joy out loud. Release those endorphins on the inside. Activate your natural tranquilizers.

Every time you laugh it boosts your immune system. It reduces your blood pressure. Tension leaves and creativity comes. If you'll stay on this prescription and laugh every day with a happy heart, having a cheerful mind, then you're going to sleep better. You're going to get more done. You'll have more energy. You're going to make better decisions. You'll be more creative. I believe even some of these areas of chronic pain, chronic fatigue, you'll begin to see them go away.

Make sure you're taking your medicine!

NB- Long post but worth the read! lol

YE ASK NOT, SO YOU RECEIVE NOT: A PRAYER ANSWERING GOD

2009-10-13T00:35:00.000-07:00

God is a prayer answering God and every day He proves it to me. I want to bless God for all those that are have been following my blog faithfully, blogging to me is a way of life, and i have had so many posts yet i know i have not done as many as i should, with this post, i have almost reached the mark of a 100 posts and to God be the glory for this..Thanks for tolerating my writing/posts and may God prove that He is a prayer answering God in your life..Be blessed always..

I had this unique encounter on sunday in church. After the service, i was looking for one of my pastors and saw my younger sister and a girl talking, i left and went about my business, i came back to the car and my sister walked up to me, and that was when i noticed that the girl with her was crying, i asked her what the problem was, and i was told, she lost her phone and this particular phone, was recently given to her by her mum as the previous one she had, got stolen..i was angry and wondered why people would come to church to take properties belonging to others ..the first phone got stolen/misplaced at an all night prayer meeting and now this in church....(Story of church thieves, blamed like the devil for all bad/ misplaced things!lol).

I tried to help her trace her movement to see if she dropped it on her way to church..but she said she entered a bike, so she was not sure it dropped in a bus..any ways, i just asked her if we could pray to get her phone back and she said yes, so i said a simple and short prayer that "God, i do not know how she will get her phone back but you God knows how and please do it and make the person that has the phone restless..i also quoted a verse of scripture that afflictions will not rise up a second time"..she thanked me and left..

Later in the evening at home, my sister ran to me excitedly, telling me that her friend's phone had been found, and it was seen in Ogba, somewhere in Lagos, by a bus driver that traced her and gave her back the phone..Boy, unbelievable! i was amazed and overwhelmed by the news and then the truth hit me..

God is mindful of us..and many times we do not carry our problems or challenges to him in prayers, so we are stuck with them..some other times, we pray and we choose the prayers He should answer and leave some out, so we see half answered prayers..what that taught me was, one, there is power in agreement, as i agreed with her in prayers and God gave us the desires of our hearts, two,God wants us to bring everything in our lives to Him in prayers and He expects us to believe Him to answer us and finally that He has answered all prayers said to Him, but because we have not seen the expected results to our prayers just yet, does not mean He has not answered our prayers...

For me, that simple testimony was a confirmation of so many things in my life, as i have had struggles recently and have been asking God if He is no more a prayer answering God..though i have seen Him in actions as regards answers to my prayers, but as usual, Oliver Twist..i wanted more..and this confirmed that God is God all my Himself and He is a prayer answering God that is mindful of us.The bible verses below confirms this truth..

Matthew 7:7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
9 Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone?
10 Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent?
11 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?

Matthew 21:22 And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.

John 15:7 If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.

James 4:2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.

Philippians 4:6 Be careful [NKJV: anxious] for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

1 John 5:14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:
15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.

Let us pray- Heavenly Father, you are a prayer answering God and your word says so, so today, i ask that you move in my life and answer my prayers, that i have made to you in the past and even now according to your perfect will, meet me at the point of my needs and prove your words in my life as a prayer answering God. Help my unbelief O Lord in Jesus name amen.

WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN 2 ?

2009-10-07T15:09:00.001-07:00

This is the concluding story of the previous post Where are the real men? by Aaron 'G'leye.

I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine recently. She is a single parent and we were just discussing her relationship with the father of her child. Although she was no longer with him, she proceeded to tell me how she was fortunate she was compared to other people she knows. She informed me that he was a good guy because he regularly gave her money for their daughter, he regularly spent time with his daughter and they had a pretty decent relationship considering the circumstances. As she was saying these things I felt something bubbling inside of me and I halted the conversations with the words ‘Hang on, Isn’t that what he is SUPPOSED to do?

Why do we feel the need to praise and exalt guys for doing the minimum of their responsibilities when we don’t praise the mothers who are generally there throughout the whole duration of childhood? The mothers who do most of the hard work?

May I suggest it’s because the level of expectation of a man/husband/father has sunk to new record lows. Strong male role models are getting fewer and fewer and the situation doesn’t look like changing anytime soon. But why has this happened? Well I have a couple of suggestions....

We live in an age where any man who tries to display Biblical manhood is told to take the ‘S’ off his chest and ‘get in touch with his feminine side’. I heard one of my favourite preachers once say “Men, if you ever find your feminine side, kill it”. Men do not have a feminine side. God placed that in women hence the word ‘feminine’. This concept was dreamed up by 1960’s sociologists and psychologists to emasculate men and found its way into many churches. It is simply not true.

1 Corinthians 16:13 ‘Be on your guard, stand firm in the faith, be men of courage, Be strong.

Does this mean that real men must be able to climb mountains and fight with wild bears? No! It has nothing to do with that. Men have emotions and should be able to understand and express them. But not in the way a women does.

We live in an age where a new girl joins a church and some of the young men in that church will begin to discuss among themselves who will be the first to ‘have’ her. I have seen and heard about incidents that are quite frankly, shocking. So, the very place that was supposed to bring life actually brings death and the young lady will leave actually having less belief than when she came in. It’s going on, and nobody says anything for fear of being seen as “judging”.

Men (and women), many of us are told from a young age to focus on being single, focus on God and to not even think about a partner until God gives us one. The problem with this is that it means you live your whole life like someone with no intention of being married, then you meet someone and when that frame of mind finally changes, you expect a few weeks of marriage counselling to undo what you have spent the last 20/30 yrs trying to do. It is possible to be a Godly single while still learning and understanding what a Biblical man/husband/father is supposed to be.

1 Timothy 3:4 ‘Pastors and deacons must manage his own family well and see that his own children obey him with proper respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family well, how can he take care of Gods church’?

May I suggest that this verse is not only for the men focussing on being pastor but for ALL men? Men, if you can’t manage your own family, how can you be an accurate representative of Jesus?
This note only touches the iceberg of everything I would like to say but I still hope it gives us something to think about.

Men, rather than just reading this and feeling something for a minute, let’s begin to affect the environment around us. If we are married, let us raise our children in a Godly manner and be strong role models. If we aren’t married let us live in a way pleasing to God and begin to raise the standards expected of us so that the women will no longer be satisfied with the bare minimum but will desire the best.

Psalm 128: “Blessed are all who fear the Lord who walk in his ways. You will eat the fruit of your labour, blessings and prosperity will be yours. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your sons will be like olive shoots around your table. Thus is the man blessed who fears the Lord”.

God bless

WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN ?

2009-10-07T14:12:00.000-07:00

Happy new month of October 2009, its your month of completion, as 10 is a number of completion, its a month of laughter and celebrations.I pray that we will all have reasons to testify this month in Jesus name amen. This month i will be featuring some post from some of my friends. The first post is from a dear friend and brother, Aaron G Leye, i saw this post on facebook and i begged him to allow me share it on my blog, as i had an "aha" moment reading it, it helped in confirming the inspiration for the group on facebook called "Next generation of fathers". Enjoy the post and leave your comments

WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN?

I was chilling at home the other day and I happened to catch an episode of Maury on living channel. It was one of the episodes where women drag men on to the show to find out whether or not they are the father of their child. As Maury had the DNA results and repeatedly read out those words ‘you are not the father’, normally I would laugh it off. This time was different. I felt a pain in my heart and a tear rolled down my eye as I looked at the babies and it dawned on me that these children might grow up without ever knowing whom their father is.

A couple of days later I was watching the big question on a Sunday morning and the question of the day was ‘Is a father really needed in a household?’ As many of the audience began to try to justify why a man isn’t necessary except as a sperm donor I realised how bad a situation we are really in.

Then I read an article from America about the black community over there which had the following shocking statistics:

70% of homes in black America are single parent homes run by women.

73% of women raised in those single parent homes go on to have homes where they are the only parent. In other words they continue the cycle.

69% of men raised in a home with no father will either end up in gangs, jail, dead or they will be homosexual. The men have not had a relationship with a father so they go looking for one. They will end up finding it either physically in gangs or in some cases, they will find it sexually.

Yes this is in America and not here but normally we know that whatever happens over there, the UK isn’t far behind.
I truly admire single parent mothers and I truly thank God for their lives because they cope with so much. Many great men and women have come from single parent homes. They deserve a lot of credit. But there is one big problem. A Mother can’t be a father, because she is a mother.

Proverbs 13: 5 ‘A fool spurns his father’s discipline, but whoever heeds corrections shows prudence’

Through all of these things I had one big question….WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN?

In the Bible in the book of kings many of the Israelite kings took part in Baal worship and offered child sacrifices to Baal. What would happen is that as the babies where thrown into the furnace the prophets of Baal would bang on drums and chant to drown out the cries of the babies.

This may sound detestable but many of us are doing the same thing today. Within the ‘church’ divorce is on the increase, men are AWOL (absent without leave), mothers are having to be the spiritual heads of their homes, and many families are in a mess.
I put the blame solely at the feet of men. But what do we do? We beat drums, sing songs like it isn’t happening, drown out the spiritual cries of the children and in effect we could lose a generation.

Once again I have the same question…..WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN?

WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN?……that will teach their sons how to be a man and will be a strong Godly role model for him? Proverbs 13:1 ‘A wise son heeds his fathers instruction, but a mockers does not listen to rebuke’

WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN?……that will treat their wife like the queen that she is? That will love her unconditionally in the same way that Christ loves us unconditionally? Ephesians 5: 25 ‘ Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her’

WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN?……whose daughters will see him and know how a man should really treat their women. So they won’t feel like they have to give their body to a man to feel loved. But will actually realise that if he truly loved them, he would wait for the right time?

WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN?……that when the physical/spiritual enemy comes to attack their family, they will stand at the doorway of there home and declare ‘over my dead body’.

Lastly…..I have a question for the guys….

You are the MD of a large company with two daughters. You have two workers and you had to pick one of them to sack. Both of them were married to your daughters. One of them was not the most productive employee but he always gave 100% and treated your daughter like a queen. The other employee was the best in the company. He made record profits but he physically and emotionally abuses your daughter. Who would you keep and who would you want to sack and remove from your family?

Men, if God gives you a daughter of Zion and you mistreat her, everything else you do for Christ is obsolete. It doesn’t matter. Your first ‘ministry’ is your family. Let us please begin to clean up this mess.

WILL THE REAL MEN PLEASE STAND UP!!!

If you know any real men, please share this with them and let them know they are not alone. We have work to do. God bless you.

WHICH WAY NIGERIA ?

2009-09-30T16:12:00.000-07:00

I got this title from a song, by Evangelist Sonny Okosun of blessed memory, as i sat to ponder on the state of the Nation, i see and hear things and tell myself that we should be better than we are now.
if at 49 years we are still grappling with a lot of issues that should not be named in our midst, then its a case for Dr. Lambo as my late mentor will say or a case for deliverance!

I see a government that has failed its citizen, a church that has turned its back on the people and people that have chosen to bury their heads in the sand in a path of self destruction- lawlessness, disorderlyness and other vices that has helped in giving the country a bad name.

Knowing this is a democratically elected or imposed government, should have given some of us hope that things will get better but what do we have, things seem to be getting worse by the day..as not even the basic of infrastructures are available.
Energy, that is a main need of the country is unreachable despite billions that have been spent by the former government and the current one..so i wonder..why is no one being called to order about the monies spent on the power/energy sector or is NEPA or PHCN, the cash cow of every administration to siphon money or another way of sabotage to see that nothing good comes out of that sector as its being speculated in some quarters, by those selling diesels, generators etc to be in business forever ! Why should a few people hold the country to ransome and watch as people die from fumes of generators, fire burn from contaminated fuel etc..why will the government sit down and watch companies that employ thousands and even millions go under as a result of the stress from spending so much on energy/power, why are this same companies being taxed by both state and federal government, when there is nothing to show for the taxes they are paying, why is the government watching while companies relocate to ghana which is a more conducive environment while many Nigerians are thrown to the already saturated unemployment market ?

Who will save the country from the back lash of unemployed and angry youths walking the streets of the land? is it the uniformed men, that sleep in dilapitated barracks, wear slippers ,torn shoes and tattered uniforms to work, with guns that explode to maim and kill at the slightest provocation?

Who will the masses cry to when even churches and religious organisations are now worse than the government, with members paying tithes and giving generously for them to build schools, hospitals etc that they members can not afford to use! who do they cry to with churches, mosque etc every where yet no development in such areas , as they are waiting for the government that is not forthcoming!..What will it take them to go about doing good and winning souls like the Catholics, Baptist, Anglican missionaries of old did by providing all the basic amenities and making life easy for the people, thereby winning more souls to the Kingdom of God ?

I believe its time for us all to reach within and ask ourselves, where do i want this country to be in the next one year, two, five and ten years and what can i do to make it a country of my dream, if we can do our own bit..by being honest with ourselves and start by building the land with our words and actions, then truly, we will all know the way Nigeria will go as we all as Nigerians will decide the way!

Nigeria, you will be great again and those that have plundered you will be put to shame as God will help your people to rebuild you again as Nehemiah in the book of Nehemiah in the bible rebuilt Jerusalem, the Sanballats and Tobiases of this land will be disgraced, while God will help the Nehemiahs to build a new Nigeria in words and in deeds.. .God bless Nigeria! At 49, your best years are ahead of you as you will be made a praise among the Nations of the earth in Jesus name amen.

EVERYONE NEEDS SOMEONE

2009-09-02T16:31:00.000-07:00

I just had to share this, its from my beloved pastor, Pastor Ayo D..this is from his weekly e-votional which i get every monday by way of free subscription on yahoo....

This is a call to stand up and help ourselves by praying for one another and standing in the place of our calling like true soldiers, Pastor Ayo, God bless you for this.

Everyone Needs Someone!

Dear loved one,

As we begin another work week, we will continue our discourse on principles that can help build a successful relationship. We believe healing, restoration and a new beginning in your relationships. Enjoy this piece...

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This happened to a friend of mine and not in any way a makeup story. "Sometimes ago I travelled to one of the African countries, for a meeting on medical informatics. It was my second time in that country. The first time I never really had much contact with people nor any form of leisure, so it never occurred to me what was waiting for me this time round. To my surprise, one of the ladies who works with the organizers of the meeting (a very beautiful babe if I must confess) had a crush on me or may I had a crush on her in less than 3 hours of meeting. She was part of the team who welcome us at the airport. I couldn't explain how I got into the unenviable position of being the one she admired; you may conclude love or lust at first sight. We got talking later that evening at the welcome cocktail and perhaps under the influence of red wine, the lady told me, I'll be passing the night with her. "I think... only stupid guys would want to sleep alone tonight in their rooms... that won't be fair, would it?"

Those were her words. I froze at the boldness and effrontery with which she said those words. Earlier on the flight, I met this gynecologist who was also a speaker at this meeting. Incidentally also we were both on the aisle seat adjacent to one another so we had shared a lot all through the flight. Our discussion also revealed our faith. To cut a long story short, only God knows what would have happened were it not for my doctor friend. He saw us walking and discussing after the cocktail and walked straight to me and said in pidgin English "Oh boy which one you dey... wetin you wan do with this pickin ... you wan crash with am abi na wetin?" "Noo bros.. we just dey gist in fact I go soon enter my room " I managed to utter. Immediately he held me and said good night to the lady and said "We are sharing my phone since he doesn't have a SIM yet and his wife had called and I told her to call again about this time... so see you tomorrow". That was my deliverance. While in his room he told me stories of his friends who came on similar visits; had flings and lived to tell unpleasant stories. He said if I had resisted his intervention he would have left me alone but he was glad I didn't. He said he knew I needed something else to get me back to my senses. To complete the job... we swapped our rooms and the lady called my room thinking I was the one but the doctor responded each time she called and she couldn't call after some time because she didn't know what the response would be".

Moral of the story: The adversary can only strike in the "dark"... the moment we are isolated and lonely from our web of supports. Those moments that we are alone, lost in thoughts, with no one to share our struggles with. The enemy usually waits for those vulnerable moments. Lend a support to someone this week. A word of encouragement, prayers, and questions about the challenges at work, in business can save someone from ship wrecking their lives (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
Have a great week!!!

Sincerely,

Ayo D.

NB- Its his intellectual property but i copied right including his name! lol

Thoughts on Marriages

2009-08-30T16:49:00.000-07:00

I have noticed lately the way some men treat their wives, and noticed that some of these men that treat their wives in undignifying manner are so called men of God (Some are Pastors and deacons) and i wonder what their bibles teach them about marriage. I have noticed that there is difinately something wrong with the church in the area of marriage and my prayer is that God will help us all redefine marriage, His way in Jesus name amen.

I believe that marriage is an institution made up of a man and woman who are ready to give their all to make their lives better by affecting each other positively and help fulfill their God given destinies.

These days, i wonder why i am seeing men, that do not appreciate their wives, do not communicate with their wives, do not treat them with respect as their helpmates but would rather treat them like househelps. Men who do not encourage their wives to fulfill their destinies and who feel intimidated by their wives successes..

I have also noticed women that are not submissive to their husbands, women who pursue their own agendas and those that are bent on being led astray by the company they keep..and so many other vices that time will not permit me to write about..

I truly believe marriage is for Life and is God ordained. So lets go back to our creator and ask for His intervention if we have missed it somehow and if we are doing pretty well, lets ask Him to help us do better and leave a legacy of happy marriages for generation yet unborn.

Do you know - Wife battering, verbal and emotional abuse, adultry, fornication, are some of the tool the devil is using to cause havoc in Christian Marriages ?

Prayer Point - Lets ask God for healing of our marriages and homes. Let us also also pray for any Christian home we know to be in marital troubles, that God will bring healing and sweetness like He did in the marriage at Cana.John 2: 1-11. God help us all.

Action Point - Please Kindly appreciate your wife and husband, let them know its an honor and previledge to be part of their lives. Lets us all learn as couples to be accountable to each other..lets be honest with our spouses..just as it was said of Adam/Eve that they were naked and not ashamed! Genesis 2 - 25

Finishing Strong

2009-08-29T16:34:00.000-07:00

I first heard or read this, from Author John Maxwell and from Zig Ziglar; both men happen to be among my favorite authors and mentors. Recently with all the news i have been hearing and looking at my own life, i have come to realise, that its easy to start, but finishing is more important..and finishing strong or very well, most important!

I recently read a story from a book that talked about a young man that graduated from school with very good grades, and after a period of searching for jobs, countless tests, interviews and not getting one, he took to crime, after a while, he was caught and while he was in jail, a letter came from one of the companies, he got interviewed, with fabulous benefits..if only he had thought of finishing strong and waited patiently, maybe his story would have been different.

With our Christian race, its not starting but finishing strong, ending well and in Christ. I tell most of my friends that i have gone too far with God to go back..i so look forward to that words from God.."Thou good and faithful servant enter into my rest! So my prayer for you and for myself is that we all work out our salvation with fear and trembling and guide jealously our walk with God. May God deliver us all from anything that will rob us of our salvation in Jesus name amen

Do you know:
The end of a thing is better than its beginning; The patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.Ecclesiates 7 - 8 .

Prayer Point - Ask that God will remove every besetting sin from your life and above all, help you not to take His grace and mercy for granted in Jesus name amen.

Action: The devil is out in so many ways to steal, kill and destroy, he is attacking men of God in the areas of money, women and pride, lets pray as a group that God will deliver us and our loved ones from such. Please if you are in this group and you are a man of God in adultery or fornication, Please i beg you in God's name, give it up as the end may prove fatal! May this not be our portion in Jesus name amen. God bless us all.

NOTE - This was sent to the group, Next Generation of Fathers on Facebook, but i thought it was worth sharing..so join in praying for yourself and i, to finish strong and in Christ.

GIVE GOD THANKS IN ALL THINGS

2009-08-27T15:52:00.000-07:00

From my personal experiences i write daily and today, i had reasons to question God and what i heard was loud and clear, in all things give me thanks! This is hard for me as i am one of the "whiners"..indeed God has many children..lol. I am most times asking Him why me and why not me? when faced with challenges but as usual, i know without a shadow of a doubt that He rules in my affairs and with that i settle my challenges with a prayer for His perfect will always.

So today, why not give thanks to Him for that challenge in your life, office, home ,etc and watch Him come through for you in Jesus name amen.

Do you know: I thessalonian 5 - 18 puts it this way:

Thank [God] in everything [no matter what the circumstances may be, be thankful and give thanks], for this is the will of God for you [who are] in Christ Jesus [the Revealer and Mediator of that will].Amplified version.

Message bible puts it thus:I thessalonian 5 - 16-18
"Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live"

Prayer Point - Ask God to help you praise Him no matter the challenges you face in life and to help you to trust Him more each day.

Action Point - Count five things in your life worth giving thanks to God for ... know, that you can read this post is a reason to thank God!..God, I praise you ..for you are worthy of all our praises indeed.

God's character

2009-08-14T17:43:00.000-07:00

God is God yesterday, today and forever..so i am glad to announce to you, that God's character remains the same forever..He is, I am that I am..With Joseph, He revealed to him his plans for his life through dreams and with Samson, His life was told, his parents. One's life ended well and the other not so well but yet God remains God! My prayer today is that the Omniscient - All knowing God will help us all fulfill our assignment on earth and above all help us to end our lives well and strong.

Do you know... God is Merciful, Gracious and compassionate - "The Lord, The Lord God, compassionate and gracious God, slow to anger, abounding in love and faithfulness..." (Ex. 34:6).

Prayer Point - Ask God, to make you more like Him in all ways..That You will decrease and He will increase in you in Jeus name amen

Action - Lets take time to meditate on God's character.. God is independent, unchangeable, eternal and omnipresent. He exists as a spiritual being, having no form or dimensions, and is omniscient (all-knowing), wise, truthful, faithful, good, loving, merciful, graceful, patient, holy, at peace, righteous and just, jealous for His own honour, wrathful towards sin, perfect in every way, beautiful beyond comprehension, and is glorified through the revelation of Himself.(Source -1way2God.net).

CHARACTER MENTORS

2009-08-12T15:46:00.000-07:00

i have had my thoughts on mentoring recently; finding the right people to mentor me, spiritually/ministry wise, marriage/family wise, career wise, financially etc, as i have discovered that a mentor can help sharpen your focus and also help work on various issues as it relates to your character.

I have also discovered through the bible, a lot of people that got their breakthroughs as a result of people helping them to reach their great destinies. Secularly, People like Tiger Woods and the Williams sisters got a head start in their chosen career because their dads took time to mentor them, character wise and on the game.

I believe we all need such mentors. Ruth had Naomi, Elisha had Elijah, Esther had Mordecai, these uncommon mentors taught their proteges priceless truths with patience as a common virtue in all three cases. I pray that God will give us mentors that will help shape our characters in Jesus name amen.

Do you know - The worth of any relationship can be measured by its influence on your immediate priorities - (Mike Murdock). The disciples of Jesus are a testimony of this, seeing that their priorities changed when they sat under the teaching of Jesus Christ.

Prayer Point - Ask God to help you have a closer relationship with the mentor of mentors, the Holy Spirit as well as connect you with the one person that will help move you to your next level.

Take action: I have heard Bishop Oyedepo talk about the role the late ArchBishop Benson Idahosa played in his life/ministry, i have also heard my pastor, Rev.Sam Adeyemi talk about the role of Bishop Oyedepo in his life/ministry, secular wise, i have heard Tyler Perry, the film maker and actor talk about Oprah Winfrey's role in his life/career..Do yourself a favor, prayerfully get a mentor.. God help us all.

YOUR CHARACTER IS YOUR DESTINY

2009-08-08T16:39:00.000-07:00

What do you do when nobody is there ?..Joseph in Potiphar's house was Joseph in the Prison and Joseph that later became one of the most influential man in Egypt.

He was constant in the area of his character despite being a prisoner and far away from home, he had the perfect excuse of bailing out on any Godly message his dad Jacob/Isreal had taught him....knowing that his own brothers that probably heard the same message were the ones that sold him to slavery and so he had the perfect excuse to "sin" against God.. ..but no, he kept God's words to heart and proved himself to be a man of noble character..Samson on the other hand, despite what he was taught,did the opposite and he truncated his destiny!

Another person that truncated his great destiny was Gehazi, the servant or should i say persional assistant of Prophet Elisha, he would have had a double or even triple portion of Elisha's anointing, but a character flaw..terminated his destiny and he ended up a leper.(2 King 5: 1- 27).

Lets take time out this month and do a self appraisal and see where we need God to help us as He made us and knows us better than any other person, lets be real with God and ask for his help to terminate all character flaws that will want to terminate our great destinies.

Do you know..Character is doing the right thing when nobody is watching you?

Prayer Point - Pray that God will help you to remove every destiny terminating character traits from your life in Jesus name amen.

Note - We are doing a Character study this month of August 2009 - our reading texts are Genesis Chapters 37 - 50 and Judges Chapters 13 - 16. The two men for our Character study are Joseph and Samson.

Join us on Facebook by joining the group "Next Generation of Fathers" for more on our study on character. God bless us all.

WANTED : MEN AND WOMEN OF CHARACTER

2009-08-05T17:30:00.000-07:00

Happy new month of AUGUST. Its a month, i have declared a month of doing all things through Christ that strengthens us according to Phillipians 4 - 13.
This month, we will be doing a study on Character..Character is one vital ingredient in every man's life..Character is more than talk, for talent is a gift and character is a choice! (Paraphrasing John Maxwell).

To have an understanding of what Character means to the success of a man, i will like all of us, this month to study two people in the bible, which will form the foundation for our character study this month..Check out the story of Joseph in Genesis Chapter 37 to Chapter 50 and that of Samson in Judges Chapter 13 - 16. My prayer is that God will help us to study these two men and decide to work on areas where we need God's help in our own lives.

Do you know..you must stay teachable to build your character.

Prayer Point - Ask God, to help you in areas of weakness and help to build your character.

Action - I need feedback to continue this teaching..so please lets share as we are all learning. God bless us all.

WHAT IS YOUR NAME ?

2009-07-21T16:43:00.001-07:00

I wrote this for the group Next Generation of Fathers on facebook but decided to share with those that are not members..if you are a man on Facebook and you are not in that group, honestly, you need to be there to network with men that God has called to be fathers indeed by His special grace..I hope you get blessed by this post..leave your comments if you can/will and do me a favor; PRAY like never before if this describes you!

A name is a means of identification and people are named for various purpose and reason. A name can become deformatory and even abusive. A lot of people have been given names that have caused them pains..i.e Jacob as a name means Supplanter, and Jacob proved true to his name until God gave him a new name Isreal which means Prince or God strives or El persisteth! He, Isreal became the father of the twelve tribes of Isreal as a Nation.(Check out Genesis 32).

So my question to you today is what is your name? what name have you been called? do people call you names because of your circumstances, situation, condition, temperament, have you been named because of a mistake in your past? what ever the name is..i have got good news for you, if its not a name that God has called you then know that God has a special name for you, which Isaiah 62 - 4 calls "Hephzibah", God's delight is in you, so He has named you Himself..that you are no longer forsaken, no longer desolate, but His delight is in you! Hallelujah!

Do you know..Joseph was called a dreamer but he became a Prime Minister, Moses was called a murderer and he became a deliverer, Rahab was called a prostitute and later became an ancestor of Jesus Christ, our Messiah, Even Ruth that was called a childless widow, became an ancestor of Jesus Christ, Elizabeth was called barren and she became the mother of John the Baptist one of the greatest prophet to walk on planet earth/ a forerunner for Jesus.Saul was a serial killer but he became Paul the apostle and wrote more than half of the new testament..

Prayer point - Ask God to change your name and like Jabez, who was called sorrow did in 1 Chronicles 4 - 10, pray for God to bless you indeed...

Action - If you have been called a name due to no fault of yours, God will change it but if you are so named because of your ways, then its time to make a delibrate change..ask God to help you turn from your wicked ways and teach you to do right and live right. God bless us all indeed!

GOD IS A PROGRESSIVE GOD !

2009-07-14T16:22:00.000-07:00

I sent this to a group on Facebook called the "NEXT GENERATION OF FATHERS", i pray that as you read, you will be inspired to take action and pray to God whose name is..Jehovah, to make you just like Him!

Hello everyone, i trust your week has been great so far, if yes, God will make it greater, if no, He will still turn things around and make it great in Jesus name amen.

I was thinking of what to write today, when i heard clearly that God is a progressive God !..and i started a conversation in my head of how He created the world and everything in it and He progressed from day one to day seven! Even when the first man failed, He showed Himself strong, took charge and still made progress with Adam and Eve outside the garden..from there, i thought of Abraham, and how God called him and how he made progress, in all ramification; finance, servants, children etc..
Check out the story of Joseph and even David or is it Esther the Queen or even Job, who lost all and finally, in Job 42 - 10, it was said when he prayed for his friends, God gave him twice as much..thats progress, despite all he went through..Halleluyah..i see someone reading this note that has been through a lot of hardship lately..as you pray for others, you will recover all in Jesus name amen!

DO YOU KNOW - Jesus Christ lived a progressive life..Luke 2 - 52 confirms it!

Prayer point - That God will make your life progressive just like in Job 42 - 12 and 16 in Jesus name.

ACTION - take stock of your life and see, if you have been progressive..any area you feel needs the progress of God..check God's word ( the bible) and settle it in prayers. God help us all in Jesus name amen!

TIPS FOR A HEALTHY MARRIAGE

2009-07-04T16:27:00.000-07:00

I got this from a dear sister and decided to share as i am a firm believer in healthy marriages.. i have no choice in the matter as my Parents and Parents- in- love have been at theirs for years..They have had their ups and downs but are still together despite all..My prayer is that everyone married reading this will get the wisdom and understanding for freshness into their own marriage and those not married will learn a thing or two that will help them keep their marriage fresh/healthy forever!

Five components of a healthy marriage
By Rick Warren

Years ago I read this letter written to Dear Abby:
“Do all marriages go stale after 25 years? Ours has. My husband and I don’t seem to have much to talk about any more. We used to talk about our kids. But now they’re grown and gone, and we really don’t have anything to converse about. I have no major complaints with my husband. But the old excitement is gone. We watch a lot of television. And we read. And we have friends. But when we’re alone together, it’s pretty dull. We even sleep in separate bedrooms now. Is there someway to recapture the old magic?”
– The Song has Ended

How incredibly sad! Too many marriages in our churches are struggling because the romance has died. Looking around, there is a disturbing trend that plays itself out in most troubled marriages. They go from fiery romance to reality to rut to resentment to regret. Before long, divorce comes.

The marriages in our churches – including our own – are either growing together or drifting apart. There’s no middle ground. The church has a unique opportunity to encourage healthy, growing marriages. How do flat marriages rekindle their romance? The same way Jesus tells us to rekindle our love for him in Revelation 2:4-5. Jesus says, “You have forsaken your first love. Remember the height from which you have fallen? Repent and do the things you did at first.”

First, you remember the good times. You do again what you did when you first fell in love. Then, you repent or deliberately change how you treat your spouse.. But what are those actions that you “did at first”? Married people did five things when they first fell in love. And they’ll need to do it again if they are going to recapture that romance: attention, affirmation, affection, adventure, and accordance (spiritual oneness) they had when they first fell in love.

1. Attention: The very first sign that you were falling in love was that you noticed that someone was paying attention to you – and you started to pay attention to that someone. Do you remember how much attention you paid your mate before you were married? You wrote notes. You made phone calls. You spent hours talking together. You sent cards. You bought flowers. You brought gifts. You said over and over again, “You have my total and undivided attention.”

What happened after you got married? Instead of saying, “I'll get that for you,” we started saying, “Get it yourself!” We became complacent in our relationship and took one another for granted. But if you’re going to rekindle the romance, you’ve got to make time for each other and pay attention to each other. If you don’t, you’re headed for trouble.

2. Affirmation: The quickest way to put spark back into your marriage is to start focusing on your spouse’s strengths instead of their weaknesses. Paul reminds us in 1 Thessalonians 5:11, “Give encouragement to each other. Keep strengthening each other.” Everybody wants to be admired, appreciated, and looked up to. We fall in love with people who admire us.

You’ve probably heard this before, but it’s so true. “Treat your husband like a king and he will treat you like a queen.” Very simple yet profound. We tend to become what others expect of us.

Verbalize your love for your spouse every day.. If you will verbalize your love, you will begin to feel that love you once had.

3. Affection: Remember how affectionate you and your spouse were during your courting days? In fact, you can always tell who the unmarried couples are. They can’t keep their hands off each other. Unfortunately, after the wedding, the touching and tenderness stop in so many marriages. All marriages need large amounts of hugging, kissing, caressing, and other forms of non-sexual touch.

Ephesians 5:19 (Amplified) says, “Husbands ... be affectionate!” It is a command. Husbands, if you’re not doing this, you’re sinning. Some say, “I'm just not naturally affectionate.” So what? Change! It’s not in your genes. You learned the behavior from your background. You can learn to be affectionate.

4. Adventure: Most marriages are dull. Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, “Enjoy life with your wife.” I’ve read that the number one cause of affairs is boredom. Are you fun to live with? You had adventure when you were romancing your spouse. But you’ve probably lost that sense of adventure. Everything is predictable. Predictability kills a marriage.

Unfortunately, most of us define fun as what you do after you’ve got all your work finished. But you never get all your work finished! The work is never done. Even after you retire, you still have got work to do. As a result, you don’t have any fun in your marriage – and you wonder why the feelings have died.

You need at least one date a week. It doesn’t have to be expensive, and it doesn’t have to be at night. (Kay and I have done them on Monday mornings.) But regardless, do something you like to do together. And do it without the kids. Schedule it – every week – so you can’t back out when your schedule gets tight.

5. Accordance (spiritual oneness): The key to fellowship with your mate is for both of you to live in God’s presence. When you and your wife are both committed to Christ and what he’s doing in the world, you’ll be naturally drawn together. Spiritual unity enhances romance. I ended up proposing to Kay while we were praying together. I felt so close to her – our hearts were knit together – that I figured we might as well join our lives together. Prayer joins you together. And then there is the natural desire to show physical affection, physical oneness, when you are spiritually one.

God wants you to have oneness. Romance was God’s idea. The Bible says two shall become one – intellectually, emotionally, physically, recreationally, and spiritually. When you are only having oneness in three of those areas, your marriage isn’t fully what God wants it to be. But when you and your spouse connect in all five areas, that’s when you find real, honest oneness.

Do you and your spouse pray together? Do you do ministry together? Do you share what God is doing in your life with your spouse, and visa-versa? Make those things a part of your time together, and romance will return.

NB- I believe everything here is achievable..i and my dear husband used to have a date night once a month..it was 14th of every month after we got married (We had a nice and quiet chinese dinner the week before we said "i do" to each other, just to remind ourselves we were getting married for the right reasons!lol)..we did this for over a year consistently and suddenly..with work, children etc, it became once in a while!..During this dates, we used to have our 5 things i like/love about you and 5 things i dont/ i wish you can work on..We have not done that for some time now..hopefully, we will start again..I believe having time for yourselves as a couple is key to sustaining your romance..God help us all as we work on making our marriages more healthy..lol..