Friday, July 9, 2010


This is a two part series from a dear friend and sister in Christ; Joyce Adedayo Adams, who has so graciously given me the permission to share this uncommon truth here. Its a two part series but a note worth reading especially by those trusting God for a someone wont accuse me am for always writing for "Next Generation of Fathers"...Lol. Its a long note but very inspiring and thought provoking! Kindly read and leave your comments.

Mat 1:18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost.
Mat 1:19 Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a publick example, was minded to put her away privily.
Mat 1:24 Then Joseph being raised from sleep did as the angel of the Lord had bidden him, and took unto him his wife:

Gen 17:5 Neither shall thy name any more be called Abram, but thy name shall be Abraham; for a father of many nations have I made thee.
Gen 18:19 For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.
Gen 18:23 And Abraham drew near, and said, Wilt thou also destroy the righteous with the wicked?
Gen 22:3 And Abraham rose up early in the morning, and saddled his ass, and took two of his young men with him, and Isaac his son, and clave the wood for the burnt offering, and rose up, and went unto the place of which God had told him.

Rth 2:1 And Naomi had a kinsman of her husband's, a mighty man of wealth, of the family of Elimelech; and his name was Boaz.
Rth 2:3 And she went, and came, and gleaned in the field after the reapers: and her hap was to light on a part of the field belonging unto Boaz, who was of the kindred of Elimelech.
Rth 2:11 And Boaz answered and said unto her, It hath fully been shewed me, all that thou hast done unto thy mother in law since the death of thine husband: and how thou hast left thy father and thy mother, and the land of thy nativity, and art come unto a people which thou knewest not heretofore.
Rth 2:12 The LORD recompense thy work, and a full reward be given thee of the LORD God of Israel, under whose wings thou art come to trust.
Rth 2:13 Then she said, Let me find favour in thy sight, my lord; for that thou hast comforted me, and for that thou hast spoken friendly unto thine handmaid, though I be not like unto one of thine handmaidens.
Rth 2:14 And Boaz said unto her, At mealtime come thou hither, and eat of the bread, and dip thy morsel in the vinegar. And she sat beside the reapers: and he reached her parched corn, and she did eat, and was sufficed, and left.
Rth 2:15 And when she was risen up to glean, Boaz commanded his young men, saying, Let her glean even among the sheaves, and reproach her not:
Rth 2:16 And let fall also some of the handfuls of purpose for her, and leave them, that she may glean them, and rebuke her not.

My sisters, I had to lay the foundation to my article hence the scriptures outline. Do bear with me, we will land very shortly!

I was listening to a message by Bishop David Oyedepo (a man I love and respect enormously) on how the Holy Spirit reveals the mind of God to His children, so my mind just wondered mildly, Lord, what is your will for single women who love you and sort of relationship or marital destiny do you have in store for them? Whoosh! Like a movie in a five second fast-forward, these men I listed above flashed through my mind. I went quiet and got the full gist from the teacher Himself. How many of us (me included) go to the bible when we tender to God the list of the qualities we want in a man? Every woman above the age of 21 knows exactly the kind of man she wants to marry, or at least she has the 10 top qualities she wants in her future husband listed out at this age. My question is: “where did this list come from?” Is it from romance movies or novels; is it from TV shows, or do you ask God to give you a man based on physical attributes only? (Oh believe me, we do!). Have you ever opened the bible and listed all the men who lived their lives for God, pick at least six of them that you identify with and tell God, now these are the qualities I want in my man? Have we ever done this? Let’s be very honest with ourselves. This is a very serious issue. Marriage is one of the most important decisions you will ever make your entire life (the most important being the salvation of your soul).

I cast my mind back to my university days. In our dorm room, we would sit and talk about the type of man we want to marry. The list as far as I can remember goes like this:
1. Tall, dark, rich and handsome (TDRH) First on the list!
2. Then all other qualities can follow!
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing absolutely wrong with TDRH. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Amen. The problem is when we just stop at TDRH and never for once open the bible to read and check out the qualities of the men who fought and won battles for God, then came home to love, cherish and provide for their wives and household.

Let’s go over these four men as it was given to me by the Spirit of God. Don’t limit yourself to these four only, the list is exhaustive. From Genesis to Revelation, there are loads of TDRH, spiritually discerned men you can pick and study his life. There is Daniel, Shadrach, Meschach, Abednego; there is Peter, John, Andrew, there is King David, (Oh yes.. King David..don’t focus on the adultery..rather focus on his good qualities..he is a true worshiper of God and a strong warrior, he is a true friend, he is kind and loves his children..remember also that God called him a man after His own Heart). There’s Samuel, Solomon, Noah, Moses, Joshua, Caleb, Elijah & Elisha and Jacob, who worked liked a slave for fourteen years for Rachel, the list goes on and on.


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cyruswoman said...

Found this while googling something by Joyce taht i seem to have lost the URL for. I loved this part 2 series by Joyce so much, i posted it on my blog and shared it with the girls from my church as well. I could not stop thinking about it, so I have up on my blog a "Husband from the Bible" series as well on men like Shechem, Adam, the myth of the good man etc. Just a look at so me of the qualities that these guys in the Bible had that are admirable...Joyce blows me away half the time!!!