Wednesday, March 10, 2010

HELPING TO CHECKMATE CHILD ABUSE AND SEXUAL MOLESTATION

I had to bring this post here as a mother with three prophetic children that i wish the very best in life. I have seen and heard so much concerning child abuse and sexual molestation and i try my best to teach my children some basic skills and also make them know as much as i can tell them at this stage but knowing i am not always there and for the fact that my home is rather open to a lot of people, i shudder to think of the worst...God forbid such happening to my children..Na last prayer the person go say o! God may it not get to that in Jesus name..please prevent my eyes from seeing corruption and my children /family too!
This post is here, thanks to Minister Praise Fowowe and the FB group " The Last Nigerian Virgin".
As Parents and especially as mothers, we must protect this very ones, God has blessed us with, I pray nobody violates our children and i pray especially for us mothers to be more specific in our prayers concerning our children and pray that the devil will not tempt any of the males around us..including the fathers to violate these innocent children..Here is just one of the messages from Minister Praise Fowowe (This is unedited and a serious issue).


Praise Fowowe March 7 at 11:24pm

Today my plan was to publish more questions from the Nigerian child but all that changed when I received an SMS from another young Nigerian child currently being violated.

Dear Uncle,
My sister’s husband kisses me and fingers me and I always enjoy it but I want to stop it because I am still a virgin but I love my sister’s husband and feels satisfied when he is doing it. What do I do? Please reply sir.
Angela A. (not real names)- 13years

Here is another case of a Nigerian child whose childhood had been stolen. The problem here is the fact that she had started enjoying the act that it is not going to be easy for her to stop because her system is already re-conditioned to derive pleasure through the act.
Many of us might want to disagree that it was consensual but I am so certain that it wasn’t a pleasant experience when it started but over a period of time she had gotten accustomed to a wrong that she had rationalized it to be the right thing.
I have started talking to the girl with the hope she picks up eventually but it should be a wake- up call for many of us. I pray we won’t lose our future.
Here are some tips for the Nigerian parent to help check-mate child sexual abuse:

- Warn your girl child never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation
- Avoid getting dressed in front of your child once he/she is above 18months. Lean to excuse yourself.
- If you have to hire a house-help please kindly take them for HIV screening to determine their HIV status, properly interview them and make up your mind to treat them well.
- Never allow any adult refer to your new born as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’
- Never tempt your husband with your younger sister. Avoid unnecessary familiarity and make sure you take care of your husband by yourself lest you lead her into temptation.
- Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they played together because young people now sexually abuse themselves.
- Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.
- Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you might need to patiently ask a lot of questions from your child
- If you don’t teach your children about sex the society will teach them the wrong values.
- It is always advisable you go through any new material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves
- Teach your 2year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that includes you.
- Blacklist some materials you think could threaten the sanity of your child (that includes music, movies and musicians) and let them understand the value of standing out of the crowd
- Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them
- If it is possible live in your house alone with your children when they attain their pre-teenage years.
Finally pray and communicate with your children on a daily basis but above all observe them and ask relevant questions in love.
God bless Nigeria. Great children! Great future.

NOTE- May we not see evil and may God remove such evil minded male from our midst..please if you have been doing this to any child..repent now, ask God for forgiveness and ask for wisdom to make things right..O lord..Your mercy..

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