Sunday, January 10, 2010


This is a continuation of the message on sex in marriage.. i believe we should step up our games as wives.Lets do the needful as one of my dear sister said on a discussion board on the issue of the "other woman".. Lets not drive our men over board by starving them sexually.May God help us all...


Bible in One Year:
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
(Is 43 - Is 45)

Memorise: "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" (Prov 14:1)

Read: Ecclesiastes 9:7-10
7 Go thy way, eat thy bread with joy, and drink thy wine with a merry heart; for God now accepteth thy works.
8 Let thy garments be always white; and let thy head lack no ointment.
9 Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labour which thou takest under the sun.
10 Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.

In Malachi 2:14, God said that He is a witness in the dealings between husbands and their wives. In other words, marriage is so important to God that He personally observes what each partner does, either to build or to destroy the home. "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands" (Prov 14:1). God's original purpose for a woman in the life of her husband is to be a suitable helper. There are two broad categories of partners: They are the Pull Him Down (PHD) partners and the Build Him Up (BHU) partners. Every married couple falls into one of these. A PHD wife is one who takes away something good in her husband, reduces his worth or contributes in any way to dethrone him from where God has placed him. One area many wives have pulled down their husbands is by denying them sexual satisfaction. Some temptations are as a result of sexual starvation while others are as a result of lust.

When a man looks outside because of denial of sexual intimacy, that is sexual starvation. But if after being satisfied by the spouse, the fellow still goes out to sleep with another person, that is pure lust. It is a foolish pastor's wife that will starve her husband sexually. In the make up of the human body, the woman was designed to exercise greater restraint in sexual pull than the man. However, it is pure wickedness for a woman to use such strength to the disadvantage of the man. Quite a number of husbands are sexually starved. From their lustful look at some women, you can tell they are starved. To some sisters, love-making once in one or two weeks is enough. It is not enough! Remember, one major reason for love- making is for oneness. Even after child birth, you have to continue your trip to oneness until your last breath. For the first 35 years of marriage, it is suggested that couples meet at least 3 or 4 times per week. It could be more but should not be less. As the marriage grows older, adjust according to your needs and stamina. Whatever grace you will require to satisfy your spouse, ask the Lord for it and He will give you and bless your union. Sexually starved partners become depressed, resentful, revengeful, uncooperative, bad leaders. They are prone to sins such as masturbation, fornication and adultery, rape, divorce, loose morals, and lust. If you are exposing your partner to such risks, you are a PHD partner.

The Christian wife or minister's wife who is nonchalant towards her husband's sexual needs, believing he cannot be unfaithful, is foolishly daring. To avoid disappointment, meet his needs from today.


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Bridget Elesin said...
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Bridget Elesin said...

Thanks for your comments bobo and 123 123.@bobo, pls can you leave your comments in English as i do not understand your language, this will really be appreciated.Thanks

Margaret said...

I find your comments very interesting, although very old fashioned (am not sure that is such a bad thing considering where the world is heading today) as a Western woman growing up in the era of womans liberation i find it hard to follow this idea of giving in to the man and allowing him to be boss. We here have been taught equality in marriage but that equality is not really working either. So am trying to go back to the old way but find it hard when we have not been taught that way. I watch relationships in other cultures and wonder how things work and see they too are changing to some degree. What is the right answer with men who just walk out when they decide they dont want that life anymore or putting up with a marriage that is miserable or unbearable. How do you stay with a man through no fault of your own strays continuously through lust which seems to be part of society now. Woman who feel that having sex with a married man is acceptable.
Would appreciate hearing you feedback.