Monday, August 14, 2017

6:22:00 AM

USE IT! OR LOSE IT!


I heard those words recently and it has not left me.. my conversation with the person that said those words was centered on using his gift as a speaker. He saw me compere an event and said he has always loved to do that and I asked why he wasn't doing it.. he said he started but stopped and now wished he had continued. . He still has opportunities to speak but not as he should.. so to him since he didn't use that speaking gift when he should have.. he lost it!

Our conversation ended on the note that I encouraged him that it was never too late to live his dreams and gave him examples that encouraged him to start speaking again.

Afterwards, my conversation with this dear man, got me thinking as i could relate it to the parable of talents in the book of Matthew in the Bible.

Matthew chapter 25:14-30 has a thought provoking story of three men given talents or bags of gold by their master. While two traded with theirs, one hid his and eventually lost it and that is a typical example of Use it or lose it!

How many of us have lost things that should have benefitted us and our world because we were too afraid to use it?

How many of us have lost relationships because we refuse to learn how to use our mouth to speak well and be blessing to others?

How many of us are losing our marriages because we have failed to use our minds to imagine great things about ourselves and spouses plus use our mouths to speak right words while appreciating the good in ourselves? How many of us are losing our children because of the harsh words we use on them?

Its time for a self check...What are you losing because you are not using it? It's time to step up and use what God has blessed you with so you don't lose it..

#MotivationAndInspirationMonday #UseItOrLoseIt #LifeInterpretationAndFamilyCoach @BridgetElesin

Thursday, June 8, 2017

10:28:00 PM

Why Sit Here and Die?


I was doing my chores this morning, getting breakfast ready for my children when this words " why sit here and die " came to my heart.. I knew it was words I have heard from the Bible about the four lepers. I settled down to look for the portion of scripture where the exact words were after my children left for school and found it in 2 Kings 7. Interesting read and so many lessons to learn from 2 Kings 7. 
The lepers story started from verse 3. As lepers they were outside the gate of the city and they asked themselves why do we sit here and die? They contemplated on what to do faced with death on every side but they made a choice to go forward any how... interestingly for some days now.. I have been pondering on the words.. not making a decision is a decision!! You must make decisions daily.. what decisions are you making to enjoy the kind of life you desire to live? 
What decisions do you have to make? What words have been spoken that you are still procrastinating over ? That portion of scripture has a lot to say about us as human beings.. beyond the lepers was the words of Elisha declaring surplus food and a man that was an expert on economic matters saying what Elisha said is not possible.. I am beginning to know "experts" can be wrong when you line up their "expert" advice against God's words.. God's words are true when we believe and when we also believe true Prophets.
So many things to learn but I saw action being taken.. those lepers acted on their thoughts and made moves.. as they did, facing the camp of the Syrians.. verse 6 has an interesting angle to the story.. wow.. God is no one's mate!!! The lepers entered the camp and met it empty with enough to eat and drink.. they did eat and drink.. but wait for this. .. they went beyond and in verse 9 of 2 Kings 7, they told themselves we are not doing right.. let's go share the good news... this is another message to ponder on.
Read further and you will see unbelief even by the king but he gave instructions and finally all the prophet said became reality and the "expert" did not partake in it sadly as was spoken by the prophet Elisha. I honestly don't know who this words are for but please go read the portion of scripture and make a move.. stop sitting down and waiting till the worst happens. . Make a move.. knock on doors, write your proposal, do what is humanly possible to do and then do it Matthew 7:7-11 way.. do the needful. . A.S.K... ask, seek, knock and persist in calling on divine and human help.. I am sure you will testify eventually.. don't forget to share with me your testimony.
If this bless you , kindly share forward to bless others. @BridgetElesin I am still reading and Chapter 8 of 2Kings is making me shout in the spirit.. lol.. God is in control. It's time to read the word of God, live it and see it manifest! Jesus Christ is Lord!!!
 #InspirationThursday #RestorationModeActivated #DecisionDeterminesDestiny
10:08:00 PM

Be Your Own kind of Strong


Be your own kind of strong, beautiful and complete woman.. infact be the kind of woman you want to be on your terms... As a woman, I tell myself I have come to be who I am today in my own way. My journey is peculiar to me and it may look similar to other women but it's not exactly the same.
I got married when I should and in less than one year after marriage, I had my first baby and two years and three months after, had my second baby. In between being a wife and mother, I was juggling a 8am-5pm job as a business development manager in an event company managing events for blue chips company. I did this for almost five years and I totally enjoyed working.
When I tell people companies that I have worked for in the past and the hard work put into being part of teams that have done award winning shows, events, plus radio dramas and movies.. they wonder at me and how I was able to give all of that up to be a domestic goddess for over 8 years , staying at home and taking care of my three children plus household while I watch my friends climb their own corporate ladder. Story for another day. 
As a domestic goddess I have had my fair share of being overwhelmed, feeling as if my friends in the corporate world were living more meaningful lives while all I was doing was my best to maintain my life as a #WomanWifeMother ..and add "ministry" on the side and you will understand how dramatic my life was.
Looking back now, my domestic goddess days afforded me the time to learn and be mentored in ministry, marriage and business. It gave me time to volunteer and be useful in my own way. It gave me time to grow myself and develop to the woman I have become. 
Add all my time as a worker , domestic goddess and now Coach, you will know that I have come a long way from the young lady that got married almost fourteen years ago.. singing all things bright and beautiful. . Lol.
I have seen the good and challenging sides of each phase of my life and I am glad to say I have found my rhythm to be my own kind of woman... My journey to being a complete woman is still in progress but I can say confidently I have made progress, developing myself to be the kind of woman that her life can encourage and inspire others to be their own kind of #WomanWifeMother.
So if you want to be your own kind of woman. join me and connect to know more about being a complete woman as I hold my first live complete woman event, where I and my business coach Victor Ekpo Bassey will be talking through practical sessions that will help us discover self, maximise our potentials plus 10X our businesses. 

Find details of the event below 
Date - 30th June 2017 
Time - 11am-3pm - No Africa time 
Fee - N39,000 paid into First bank account no 3112610392. 

Note - Send proof of payment to: bridgetelesin@gmail.com or to 08056780243 on Whatsapp.
What to expect - Truth talk, Coaching on self discovery and becoming your own kind of complete woman plus other freebies. @BridgetElesin

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

3:42:00 PM

LIVING WITH A STRANGER


He is not the guy I used to know ma, I am living with a stranger.. I smiled inwardly and said to myself .. familiar stranger.. lol. Stephanie and I spoke for a long time and at the end of the discussions, the conclusion of the matter is that she feels she has fallen out of love with her husband of 5 years.. I assured her that it happens to the best of us so she is normal.. lol and falling out of love as she said, does not mean she does not love her husband anymore.. Sometimes life happens to you and you come to a place where you feel no love for your spouse . . It's OK to feel that way sometimes but it's not OK to remain that way.. so here are some tips to help you if you are in Stephanie's former shoes.. she is all happy and loving her husband now.. she is feeling the love and has forgotten me.. lol This is what you can do when you dont feel love for your spouse..
1. Identify why you are feeling this way.. what did he / she do to make you feel this way
2. Identify your part in escalating what has happened.. what did the person do and how did you react to make it worse?
3. Look for ways to resolve issues .. what's your communication channel..do communicate to resolve your challenges amicably. Remember you are a team.
4. Move past the hurt and pain caused. Choose not to be in pain and bitterness. 
5. Give meaning to that pain and learn from the experience.
6.Identify what your spouse can do to help you move past the pain and trust him/her again.
7.Forgive and let go to make progress in your marriage.
8.Engage each other daily to commit to making the marriage better. 
9. Resolve to make things better in every way.. resolve to let go and let God work in your marriage. Feel the love again in your heart.. see your spouse through the eyes of God that he/ she is a gift to you.. if you have to go to your "happy place " where the person has ever made you happy in the past..go there and remember the good times to feel the joy of having him/her as your spouse. 
10. I believe in prayers so pray and ask God to help your marriage in every way. Marriage is God's idea. . So pray that God will restore love in your heart again.

Practical tips to help you love again.
1. Start your own communication game or process to help you communicate better as a couple. My husband and I started this before we got married and we call it 5 by 5. We tell ourselves 5 things we love about each other and we want to continue and 5 things either of us don't love and want the person to stop, we give examples to buttress our points so we know what was done and should continue and what not to continue. We try to do this every month especially during our planned date night which is the date of our wedding anniversary every month. This will help you communicate better as couples if followed. 
2. Have your own daily rituals to connect.. 
A. it can be kissing each other daily for some minutes as you both depart for work or when you return. B. It can be praying together daily or reading a chapter of the book of proverbs daily to each other.
C. It can be asking yourselves at particular times of the day the highlight of your day.. talk about how good your day is going or how not so good and be ready to celebrate if its good and to comfort with good words if its not going so well.
3. Affirm each other daily by saying nice words to each other. Brag about your spouse daily.. find something good about your spouse to say daily.
4. Make love... every couple should schedule sex for at least 4 times a week as a way of connection.. it helps you bond in a lot of ways and may help you forget the hurt if you allow yourself to flow in the act. (This can be challenging when you find out your spouse has cheated on you.. but if you can communicate effectively & get professional help. You can build the marriage again) 
5. Ensure you do something kind for your spouse daily.. I tell myself; I am in my marriage to do my husband good and to help him whether he deserves it or not.. with that kind of mindset, good will come to you as well, as you get what you give.
All this and more will help you bond and connect so you feel love for each other again.. let me know if this is helpful in any way.
3:28:00 PM

Options and Choices


These words popped up in my spirit strongly this morning after listening to a message that i had to check the meaning and found they both had each other as synonyms. .. interesting.. I have found out that the world we live in has given us many options to living life.. everything has options , little wonder our generation is faced with a lot of battle of choices.. Many people have the choice of doing marriage the cultural way, the modern way or biblical way.. We have this options in how we relate with ourselves, do life , parenting and many other things we do.. I have come to realise that those days.. things were either in black and white so you have to choose between black or white.. good or evil. . You choose one or the other but now.. you have white, black , grey, off white, off black, whity-grey and yet to be discovered mix of both colours and we wonder why people find it hard to make choices.. Today I want us to sit and think through our lives.. what options do you have and what choices are you making in ;

1. Your life; spiritually, physically, intellectually, financially, health wise etc.

2. Marriage; are you intentional about enjoying your marriage? Are you doing marriage your way? Are you doing marriage culturally? Biblically or the modern way?

3. Parenting; How are you doing this? Culturally? Modern or biblically?

4. Relationship with others? What are your options.. are you a blessing to others in every way or a pain to them? Or you are in between? Lol I saw this interesting message in God's words and decided to add it here to buttress my points on the options we have and choices to make.. "GOD'S WORD® Translation I call on heaven and earth as witnesses today that I have offered you life or death, blessings or curses. Choose life so that you and your descendants will live" .. So many areas of our lives that we are faced with options and need to make choices .. I pray today you will choose options that will help you make progress in every area of your life.. Here are choices in various areas with all the options I have considered.... I Bridget Elesin have chosen to live for God and Him alone.. I have the options to follow other gods but I choose to follow God through Jesus Christ. I have chosen to have the mind of Christ, so I live life like Christ. I have chosen to do marriage God's way which is the biblical way of male and female loving and living life to the glory of God that instituted marriage. I have chosen to do marriage as a team and enjoy my marriage more than I will endure it.. If there is need for endurance, we will endure and make progress together.. I have chosen to raise godly seeds that will live according to the dictate of God's words.. children that are made for signs and wonders according to God's words I have chosen to learn and invest in my knowledge in every way.. I have chosen to ensure I work on my character daily and live a progressive life in every way.. I have chosen to inspire, encourage and help people to live their best life always.. I have chosen to see good in others and help them connect with those that can help them live that "best life " they desire I have chosen to pray people up than tear them down.. I have chosen to show people kindness in every way and will do my best to love the unlovable just like Christ did.. yes.. I have chosen not to cast my pearls before swines as well.. I have the wisdom of God to discern and I have chosen to use that wisdom to know that not everyone is around me to do me good and so I must love and help wisely. I have chosen to live, love and do life God's way.. So what options do you have and what choices will you make today and the remaining days of your life .. remember to choose the option that will bring life and not death. Selah!!! @BridgetElesin

Thursday, January 26, 2017